Moms of 2+: Getting ready for the next one

honeybee111 · December 2012

I'm pregnant with our second, and DD will be 3 in Jan. When I was pregnant with DD, we set up and decorated her whole room, but she actually barely spent any time in it until she was 3 months. She slept in our room in a co-sleeper, we hung out downstairs, so I really just took her into her room to get dressed since her dresser and closet were in there. So, with our next kid, DH and I are thinking about not even setting up a room, since we're planning to keep the baby in our room for the first couple of months anyways. Our bedroom is large and is a rectangle with our bed and dresser at one end, and the other end is supposed to be a sitting area. We were thinking about putting the cosleeper and a dresser(changing table) in the sitting area space, and not dealing with decorating a room until later. There would be room for a glider, too. Also, our bedroom is closer to the kitchen and living room, so it would be more convenient. DD is currently in the baby's future room, so we have to deal with moving her to the guest room. So, the few people we've mentioned this plan to are horrified that we are not planning to give our new baby it's own room. Is it so awful that the baby doesn't have it's own room? I just feel like it was a waste of space for the first few months of DD's life. I guess this could also be some guilt I'm feeling for not being all ecstatic about this pregnancy. I feel like I'm looking at things from a more practical planning standpoint this time around.

TiffanyBerry · December 2012

If we have a second, we will probably do exactly what you are planning to do. (DD didn't sleep in her room until nearly 2.5yrs old! She's been in there about two months.) She'd play in her room before then, but never sleep or spend a lot of time in there. Heck, if we have two, I'll probably make them share a room for a number of years though we have the rooms for everyone to have their own.

sara785 · December 2012

I just had our 2nd and we moved DS into what was the office several months ago. DS spent his first few weeks sleeping in the PNP in the living room and we are planning the same this time. The only reason I would hesitate with not planning a nursery at all is the fact that you may not have much productive time when LO is actually here. Might be something to consider while you think it over.

superned · December 2012

Our kids will eventually be sharing a room, so other than putting up the crib when we moved in (which was going to be where DD slept for a while, until she decided she wanted a big girl bed), and keeping DS's clothes in there, he's completely in our room. He'll move in with DD once he's STTN, which I'm hoping will be around six months.

Leap08 · December 2012

We moved DD1 to her new room a few months before her sister was born. I wanted her to be excited about her new big girl room and I didn't want her to associate moving out of her old room with the baby. I didn't order anything new for DD2. Her room looks almost exactly like it did when DD1 was a baby. DD2 didn't sleep in her room for two months or so, but I'm still glad we moved DD1 before DD2 was born. I don't think it's terrible that you don't want to set up the baby room until it will be used. Do what works for you.

myluckypig · December 2012

Honestly, I wish I would have done what you are saying. DS is 5 months old and has never slept in his room. He doesn't even go in there to play, all of his stuff is in our living room. I set his room up as soon as I found out he was a boy. It will have been set up for almost a year by the time he actually sleeps in there. I am already sick of the decor and he is not even using his room!

Oh, and I also bought another crib because I was convinced DD would still be using a crib. However, she has been out of a crib for about 9 months. I really could have saved a lot of money just buying a toddler bed instead of a crib.

Oh well!

Do what you think works best and forget about everyone else!

etude de la vie · December 2012

We were different. DS slept in his room from birth and I made sure I had a daybed in his room. We did this for a few reasons and I am glad I did!

1. DD room is closest to our master bedroom. The newborn crying was going to wake her up!

2. DH went to work almost right away and since I was bfing anyways he wasn't going to be much help in the middle of the night yet he would be woken up every 2-2.5 hours.

3. i didn't see the point of having all the newborn diapers, wipes & wipe warmer, extra clothing, changing area, bassinet (which neither kid ever slept in) all in my room when I had a nursery put together in his room ...with glider!

4. He ONLY would sleep in the swing (turned off) so it was nice for me to have it right up against my day bed in the room. I would pick him up nurse him, change him on the changing table/dresser, sit back into the glider and nurse more then lay him back into the swing and go to sleep. By 3.5 months I had him in the crib with a crib wedge (reflux) and I had an angelcare monitor in our room.

flyingsaucer · December 2012

I think setting up and decorating a room for a newborn is a total waste (IMHO). I mean, if the parents want to and it brings them happiness I think that they should go for it, but a newborn doesn't need or care about a decorated room.

When DD was born, we kept her in our room until she was 4 mos, then moved her into DS' room (they still share). We got some new blankets and crib sheets, but did not decorate for her. We were much more practical when #2 was born.

I have heard of people getting the older sibling involved in setting up the new baby's room and I think that is a nice idea. I think it would he the older sib feel like a part of the process

Stephanie2167 · December 2012

We are trying for #2. If we get pregnant, we'll setup a small "nursery" in the guest bedroom. Just setup the crib and put the babys clothes in the dresser already in there.

For the first 3 months he/she will sleep in our room in the basinet.

We'll be moving in 2014, so when we move to our new house he/she will get a real room. (If its a girl she'll most likely share with DD).

NicoleWI · December 2012

We kept the baby in our room for the first 3-4 months, too, and then we moved DD to what was formerly the guest room and the baby to the nursery. Same as what it sounds like you would be doing? But I am confused...why would you not want to get DD's new room ready for her now? How in the world will you work on that project in the first 3 months with a newborn?? Seems much easier to do it now and have it ready for whenever you want to start moving DD. That's what we did, and then we were able to transition her slowly into her new room while the baby was still in the PNP in our room.

monlyn9 · December 2012

Our second slept in a pack n play in the dining room for the first three months until we moved into our new house where she could have her own room. We now have the crib set up for the third in the living room until he is sleeping through the night long enough to move in with DS1. I don't think it really matters where you put the baby or if the room is decorated when they first come home. They don't care and won't remember anyway.

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