I thought she was supposed to be oblivious!

LollyBug18 · December 2012

I'm pretty sure EVERY (ok, maybe not every) post I saw before DS was born said that older sibling hardly noticed little sibling and just went on with their own little life. But DD has definitely noticed! And I'm not complaining too much, because she's noticed in a good way and seems to really like her little brother, but man, I really wish she'd leave him alone sometimes! She's turned into a little momma and wants to help with everything...but she's so darn rough! She thinks she can help change his diaper but it's more like ripping his clothes off. She thinks she can cover him with the blanket in the swing but she completely covers him up, face and all! She thinks she can rock him in the car seat when he's fussing but she nearly tips it over forward! I think she really loves her little brother but I almost wish she'd be oblivious sometimes so I wouldn't have to constantly be correcting her and saving him. Any other LO like this? How has it been as they've gotten older?

etude de la vie · December 2012

I had to set "off zones" DD could not even touch his blanket for tummy time (found her laying top top of him once when I left for 2 seconds to get a diaper) or he did tummy time in the PnP.

I also didn't let her "rock" the swing or the car seat. I had a dolly and she would rock the baby doll in the car seat if he was in the swing or something, change dolly diaoer,,..A lot of it was a diversion. She wasn't interested too much because I could create an activity (like play doh) while he was sleeping. If I was nursing and she came over I had a ton of snacks or she rode "horse" on my legs. Even with all my best efforts she would still go to kiss him and scream in excitement right into his ear, or Tap him on his head with both hands.

Her new play kitchen and ride on toy helped a ton!!

MammaBear81 · December 2012

I guess I really didn't count "positive" interactions. Most people are concerned with jealousy and in that respect I can say my others haven't really cared. I did notice that the girls do "mommy" more than the boys. The boys might give the baby a toy, or a hug/kiss, while the girls wanted to feed/change/hold the baby. I just kept showing them the right way to do it and eventually the "over loving" was tamed.

kcisthebombdotcom · December 2012

Yes, it definitely gets better as LO gets older (and your second child gets larger/less delicate). Just redirect to more appropriate behavior and have a positive spin on it. Say "it's so nice you want to keep baby warm with blankie! Try it like this" and mirror what you want her to do.