Even though its Saturday I swear it has to be Throatpunch Thursday...

cielos1980 · December 2012

I was talking to one of my "friends" today about my second ultrasound I had yesterday and that I was so discouraged, because there wasn't a lot of growth between the two ultrasounds and that they weren't even able to find a heartbeat and that I was worrying that it might be a MMC, and how confused I was because I still have morning sickness, sore boobs etc, and various other symptoms. Anyway, she told be that if she was me she would go for a D&C immdediately and not prolong the inevitable. I told her I had another ultrasound scheduled for a week, but she went on and on about how upset she gets with women who have miscarriages who hold on to hope for way too long and just torture themselves. She told me to face up to reality and realize that motherhood must not be for me, I'm sorry I am not ready to give up yet,

So yes I know my friend isn't really my friend, and is being a inconsiderate !$%#* . I have been reading several posts here lately and I am shocked at the stupid things people say to PGAL people, it drives me crazy. So huge {{{HUGS}}} to anyone dealing with people's ignorance and insensitivity. *vent over*

emeraudecephiro · December 2012

Uhhmmm... saaaaaay WHAT?

I'm sorry, your friend is a twatwaffle for that comment.

You know what you're doing, she's cray-cray *HUGS*

alb245 · December 2012

I'm so sorry your "friend" was so insensitive and rude! I can't believe anyone would say such a thing to you. What is wrong with her that she gets so upset about women who hold onto hope during a possible miscarriage? I'm guessing she's never been in this situation herself, because I don't see how any woman can "give up" and immediately opt for a D&C, knowing they didn't do everything they possibly could to save their baby?

((((Hugs))))

Bizzy80 · December 2012

I'm sorry and I agree she is definetly a douche and deserves a throat punch for that! Has she ever had a miscarriage before? If not then she needs to keep her big mouth shut. She is not your doctor so shouldn't be trying to act like one. I'm sorry you are going through this right now and hope you get good news at your next appointment (hugs)

Luthy · December 2012

Umm... what? I will happily throatpunch your friend for you. What a gigantic twatwaffle. That completely blows my mind. I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time and I think you're doing exactly the right thing, for whatever it's worth. ((hugs))

lindsayanne14 · December 2012

Wow! That is truly terrible! With a "friend" like that, I'd hate to hear about your enemies! In all seriousness though, that was beyond rude and thoughtless and your friend should be embarrassed!

Cherry1111 · December 2012

WTF. I don't get people. I'm sorry she was so horrible and unsupportive.

pkaren · December 2012

emeraudecephiro:
Uhhmmm... saaaaaay WHAT?

I'm sorry, your friend is a twatwaffle for that comment.
You know what you're doing, she's cray-cray *HUGS*

This! That is not something a real "friend" would say. ((HUGS))

HollyBee1022 · December 2012

WTH kind of thing is that to say? Sorry about your "friend," that's truly awful.

ljs4117 · December 2012

.....oh, wow.

So rude, so inconsiderate, and SO NOT TRUE! Think about how many women would end perfectly healthy pregnancies if they just gave up at the first sign of trouble.. Also, unfortunately sometimes women go through lots of loss before their take home baby. Just because someone is having trouble staying pregnant does NOT mean motherhood isn't for them..!! AH! I'm so worked up right now!!

I'm sorry you're going through such a hard and confusing time. Keep your chin up and take care, hon!! ((hugs))

krwact · December 2012

alb245:
I'm so sorry your "friend" was so insensitive and rude! I can't believe anyone would say such a thing to you. What is wrong with her that she gets so upset about women who hold onto hope during a possible miscarriage? I'm guessing she's never been in this situation herself, because I don't see how any woman can "give up" and immediately opt for a D&C, knowing they didn't do everything they possibly could to save their baby?
((((Hugs))))

Ok, I'll admit that twatwaffle is the perfect description for this person and my first instinct is to hurt her but I think alb has a point here. One has to wonder what's wrong with this person that they would think, let alone SAY this to you! I say pity her while you kick her a$$.

yeliza h · December 2012

Ok...your friend really just pissed me off. I am so sorry that she is being such an a$$.

crystal8503 · December 2012

Oh.My.God! I cannot believe anyone would think this is an appropriate thing to say. How completely inconsiderate and hurtful. I'm sorry this person, I can't say friend, said this to you. What a terrible person. Just terrible. I am at a complete loss for words right now.

Good luck with your next ultrasound. I truly hope it shows your baby has grown and wish you a happy, healthy and uneventful 9 months.

sheacox · December 2012

So sorry for dumb friends!

Chocodoxies · December 2012

Oh my LORD! Sweetheart, that is NOT a friend! That isn't even a lack of understanding or empathy, that is just cruelty. This person is very disrespectful of you and of all pregnant women. I would keep my distance.

As for your u/s and your situation, please don't lose hope. My God-sister just went through a horrible ordeal similarly. She experienced terrible bleeding, and lack of a heartbeat. Her doctors insisted on a D&C and she stood firm that she wanted to experience the loss naturally. A full month later she was still experiencing nausea and went in to be checked out for illness. She wasn't sick, she was nearly 12 weeks pregnant and her doctor had been completely wrong! She gave birth to a very healthy little boy just last week. Doctors do the best they can with what they have, and what they have is a fuzzy screen, a large probe, and a baby the size of a poppyseed. Mistakes are made.

I will keep you in my prayers.