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child free baby shower??

brittartistbrittartist
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I'm only 11 weeks but this just occured to me... I don't want kids or babies at my baby shower.... :|

Is that even possible? We had a kid free wedding without apology haha- but can i dare ask for a kid-free baby shower? Please tell me people do this without being burned at the stake.
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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member
    It's not only possible, it's pretty much routine in many parts of the country.
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  • theimpossibleastronauttheimpossibleastronaut member
    Kids aren't usually at the showers I attend. I don't see it as being a problem. Your hostess can just let anyone who asks know that it is an adults-only event.
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  • lisa5201lisa5201 member

    Pretty standard to not have kids, but I guess it would really depend on where your hosts stand on the issue. 

    I did not want kids at my shower, my mom who threw the shower was 100% on the same page, but would have gone either way if I had a strong preference. 

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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    Absolutely. Just make sure your host adresses the invites accordingly.
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  • LatteLady5LatteLady5 member

    imagemabenner1:
    Absolutely. Just make sure your host adresses the invites accordingly.

    Yes this. There have been babies at every shower I've ever been to but if it said no babies on the invite I wouldn't think a thing of it.


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  • Allycat11Allycat11 member
    Children are typically not invited to showers in my family.
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  • laurakaz13laurakaz13 member
    I have never attended a shower that had kids and I wouldn't really be a fan of it either. 
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    All the showers I've hosted have been kid-free (my choice since I never bothered to ask the MTB's).  My own showers were kid-free...although my cousin who was in town from across the country with her breastfeeding one month old brought him.  She never asked...but I wasn't about to turn her away at the door nor was my hostess - that would have been rude. 

    I had a kid-free wedding/reception as well and they were WONDERFUL!  lol

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  • ungraceful13ungraceful13 member
    Most showers don't have kids. So if you don't want them that is fine. My nephew was at both of mine but the first one only bc his mother was coming from a funeral and didn't have time to take him home. The second time only bc it was in his home. His dad took him out to play but had to come home near the end bc it was nap time. But I adore my nephew and he is really well behaved so that makes a difference.
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  • blush64blush64 member
    imagelisa5201:

    Pretty standard to not have kids, but I guess it would really depend on where your hosts stand on the issue. 

    I did not want kids at my shower, my mom who threw the shower was 100% on the same page, but would have gone either way if I had a strong preference. 

    Pretty standard would depend on who you are. I hadn't heard of a baby shower where kids wouldn't be invited until this website.

    That being said, I think it's fine to not invite kids. Let your host know your feelings. 

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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    I've only been to one baby shower that had a kid at it and it was the MTB much older daughter.
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  • RoxyLynnRoxyLynn member
    imageLatteLady5:

    imagemabenner1:
    Absolutely. Just make sure your host adresses the invites accordingly.

    Yes this. There have been babies at every shower I've ever been to but if it said no babies on the invite I wouldn't think a thing of it.

    Actually, an invitation shouldn't point out who isn't invited.  If it's just your name on the envelope, then only you are invited.  If the envelope is addressed to The Smith Family, then the whole family is welcome.

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    imageRoxyLynn:
    imageLatteLady5:

    imagemabenner1:
    Absolutely. Just make sure your host adresses the invites accordingly.

    Yes this. There have been babies at every shower I've ever been to but if it said no babies on the invite I wouldn't think a thing of it.

    Actually, an invitation shouldn't point out who isn't invited.  If it's just your name on the envelope, then only you are invited.  If the envelope is addressed to The Smith Family, then the whole family is welcome.

    I agree with Roxy...but unfortunately this isn't a perfect world and for many people it needs to be spelled out - "adults only".  Proper etiquette has basically gone out the window for a lot of people and they have no idea that just their name on the invite means just that.

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  • kaitylinkaitylin member
    Ever shower I've been to has had kids... I'm shocked so many people on here say the opposite.There was one shower I went to (not a baby shower, a wedding shower) and they had hired someone to babysit in another room. I personally would probably have not gone to a shower when DD was under 1 if I couldn't have brought her. Now I'd leave her home but I definitely would have wanted to bring her when she was an infant - especially when she was breastfeeding. I would take into account the age of the kids of your guests... If they are babies I'd allow it for sure but if they are older then I think either way is fine. I see no problem with kids being there and I loved having my nieces at my shower! They were so excited and it made it so special!
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  • BLPL101BLPL101 member
    I didn't have any kids/babies at my shower.
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  • coromblecoromble member

    imageRiverSong82:
    Kids aren't usually at the showers I attend. I don't see it as being a problem. Your hostess can just let anyone who asks know that it is an adults-only event.

    Yep, I'd leave it to your hostess.  Although I can't even imagine people bringing their kids to a shower!  Honestly, I'm kind of dumbfounded because I don't think I've ever seen that happen.  I can completely understand not wanting kids there.  That's pretty ballsy of those people! 

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  • MCRM22011MCRM22011 member
    It's up to you. You may wind up alienating people. How many babies are in your circle right now? Is it a large number?
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  • bripratt2bripratt2
    The way I see it is its obviously up to you but I would first think of it like "how would I feel if I was in their situation" I was a single mom for a while and child care wasn't exactly financially possible or even reasonable with her nursing. That being said if someone was close enough to me to invite me to there shower I would probably be put off if they told me I couldn't bring DD. If you would find yourself feeling the same way I wouldnt expect that of my guests you know? On the contrary if its something that seems cool to you go for it.
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