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buzzbee24buzzbee24 member
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Don't get me wrong here, DH has the best of intentions, but he really doesn't listen to anything I tell him. like today, DS has PT 11. Being a SAHM, I have a pretty solid nap, feeding schedule and DH totally throws that schedule off when he's " trying to help". He let LO sleep til 8:30 with him on couch when normal wake time is 7. So now his feeding and nap before PT is all out of wack. now I will spend the rest of the day playing catch up to ensure he gets enough to eat and is rested enough to make his normal bedtime at 7:30. He no longer requires to eat in MOTN, but when DH does this, and he does whenever he's off of work, DS will not sleep like usual and will need to eat in MOTN. I am so frustrated. WWYD? I can explain this until I'm blue in the face, but DH claims he thought he heard me differently. I have even written it down and he'll forget that I did. ugh!
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  • aeh72aeh72 member
    I totally understand what you're saying about DHs that just don't get how much goes in to making things runs smoothly with LOs.  I might be inclined to give your DH a little slack, though. My husband and I both work, but with my schedule, I get much more time with DS than my husband does.  So, when he has that extra time to play with DS or cuddle up with him on the couch - even if that means they are both napping - I don't have the heart to interupt it.  Yeah, DS's schedule is off the rest of the day, but I know my husband loves that time with him and I really want DS to get that time with his daddy.  So, as long as this is not a frequent occurence, maybe let it slide from time to time.  Just something to consider.  Smile  And, don't get me wrong - I do get your frustration.  On any given day, you could find me on here venting about something my own DH does that drives me crazy! 
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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    I get that schedules can be important, but babies need to be flexible and learn to adapt too. The way I look at it is DH and I have different parenting styles. As long as DS is happy, fed, and moderately clean, he's done his job.
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  • littleredfishlittleredfish member

    imagemabenner1:
    I get that schedules can be important, but babies need to be flexible and learn to adapt too. The way I look at it is DH and I have different parenting styles. As long as DS is happy, fed, and moderately clean, he's done his job.

    I agree with this. DD has a schedule but it's more like;
    Wake up: 7:30-9am (depending on her night)
    Eat and play time: 8-9:30 to 10-12
    Nap: 10am-12pm to 11am-1:30pm
    Playtime: 12pm-4pm to 1:30-5 (with sporatic feedings when she feels like it)
    Nap: 4-5 to 5-6
    Eat and playtime: 5-6 to 7-8
    Bedtime routine starts: 7-8:30 (depending on how tired she is)

    I like having some flexability with her so if I feel like going shopping one day and she falls asleep in the stroller for 3hrs instead of her usual 1hr afternoon nap it's NBD. Plus I find since we let her be flexible, getting her back on a decent schedule isn't as hard as it was when we were more rigid.

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  • buzzbee24buzzbee24 member

    I appreciate the feedback ladies. I guess it bugged me so much today because he had a PT appointment and when his feedings and naps are out of wack beforehand, his PT can't get what she needs accomplished if he's fussing throughout the session and DH knows that. On days when we don't have appointments, I am cool with being a bit more flexible, just really upset me that DH asked last night what the plan was for today and totally disregarded it.

    I do understand he and I have different parenting styles and I respect his. Like I stated before, he has nothing but the best of intentions and he does love guy time with little man...and I love that. But sometimes, I feel like we have to be a united front when it comes to things like PT and what's best to help DS get through his sessions.

    Thanks again for the perspectives and I will try to cut DH a bit more slack.

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  • bpv101283bpv101283 member
    Sorry I have nothing to add except I am beyond jealous you have this thing called a "schedule". I never know from one day to the next what LO's days or nights will look like. Lol.
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  • buzzbee24buzzbee24 member

    imagebpv101283:
    Sorry I have nothing to add except I am beyond jealous you have this thing called a "schedule". I never know from one day to the next what LO's days or nights will look like. Lol.

    I was right there with you at 5.5-6months. I worked extremely hard to read all of his sleepy cues  and tweaked it for weeks until I finally found a routine that worked for him. Also, the Sleepeasy method of sleep training was a LIFESAVER!!!! I think that's why I get so bent when DH messes with the schedule, because I worked extremely hard to get DS on one and when he is on sched, the days and nights go so smoothly and fussbutt stay away! I can enjoy more time with my little man when he's in a good mood and we both are more rested. Good luck to you!!

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