My MIL is driving me insane. (vent)

blowfish11 · December 2012

MIL lives in CA, we are in CO and I know she means well, but she is texting me like 20 times a day asking for pictures. Every time I send one, she responds with, "Keep them coming!".

She texts me on her lunch break to say, "I don't have any new pictures to look at on my lunch "

I want to scream. When DD1 and DS were born, she didn't have a cell phone so this wasn't an issue. I don't know how to get her off my back without hurting her feelings. I just have to deal with it and it sucks.

I can't even nap with Audrey without her interrupting my sleep with her incessant texting.

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cowgirltu · December 2012

Put your phone on silent

blowfish11 · December 2012

cowgirltu:
Put your phone on silent

I have it on vibrate all the time. I'd turn it off, but I need it on for alarms for things like medicine, picking up DD from school, etc.

I just want her to stop texting me so much Even she knows she's driving me crazy cause she'll say things like, "I know you're probably annoyed with me texting so much but..."

cowgirltu · December 2012

I would agree with her. "Well, yes the text messages are a little overwhelming". Can you maybe limit her to 1 or 2 pics a day? Even that really seems excessive to me lol but maybe it will make her leave you alone more?

blowfish11 · December 2012

I think I'll have DH talk to her. She's sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings.

If it were my mom, I'd just tell her to back off a little lol but my mom and I have that type of relationship.

chavatziporah · December 2012

I would ignore some of them. So maybe send her a picture at the end of the day and mention that you are sorry you couldnt send her more, since you were really tired and trying to rest, or something like that.

kerbear135 · December 2012

My phone has a volume setting called "alarm only"...maybe you could do that, or just turn your ringer off (it should still allow your alarm to work as usual)..or you could drop her a text and tell her that you all are about to take a nap and you will try to send her a pic when you all wake up.

+Sparky+ · December 2012

If you have an iPhone the "Do not Disturb" setting works great. Alarms and such will still go off but calls (unless they are on your favorites list) don't ring or even vibrate.

choppinbroccoli22 · December 2012

blowfish11:
cowgirltu:
Put your phone on silent
I have it on vibrate all the time. I'd turn it off, but I need it on for alarms for things like medicine, picking up DD from school, etc.
I just want her to stop texting me so much Even she knows she's driving me crazy cause she'll say things like, "I know you're probably annoyed with me texting so much but..."

I think airplane mode (on an iPhone) will handle this... you will still get your other functions.

If she asks why you didn't respond, say that you were SLEEPING or TAKING CARE OF THE BABY and will reply when you can. End of discussion.

MrsBigTime · December 2012

Sweet that's she's excited about your baby, but ANNOYING that she won't leave you the heck alone to enjoy your new daughter!

I'd ignore her, or even all but one or two texts a day, for a few days and hopefully she'll get the hint.

I mean, hello, you have three kids now?!! As if you have time/desire to text your MIL all the time? Seriously, some women are amazingly able to block out and forget what it was like when they had their own littles they wanted to enjoy.

magnoliablossom00 · December 2012

ILs and my fam did that with LO for a while. We finally told them it was running up our phone bill (we have unlimited, but they don't know that). Wink

ilenegrace · December 2012

My mom does this now with DS (age3) and she lives 40min away. But she's obsessed with him. I'm sure its going to get so much worse when DD is born. I agree with having DH talk to her or maybe have him send the pics so she'll start hitting him up. Good luck!

Amaryllis619 · December 2012

honestly? I'd ignore her... if I was feeling generous I'd send her ONE pic every two or three days.... multiple times a day is ridiculously exessive IMHO.

of course i have the inlaws from crazytown, so i tend to ignore most of what they do and let DH deal with them. good luck!

ConyersHoney · December 2012

chavatziporah:
I would ignore some of them. So maybe send her a picture at the end of the day and mention that you are sorry you couldnt send her more, since you were really tired and trying to rest, or something like that.

This! If you consistantly ignore her for a certain amount of time, and then send her one at the end of the day, or even some days just send a text that says you didn't have time for a pic, but the baby and you are doing great... etc. then, you can start to stretch it out to like every other day... You are busy and have a life... Live it on your schedule

perfectlove09 · December 2012

ConyersHoney:
chavatziporah:
I would ignore some of them.  So maybe send her a picture at the end of the day and mention that you are sorry you couldnt send her more, since you were really tired and trying to rest, or something like that.
 
This! If you consistantly ignore her for a certain amount of time, and then send her one at the end of the day, or even some days just send a text that says you didn't have time for a pic, but the baby and you are doing great... etc. then, you can start to stretch it out to like every other day... You are busy and have a life... Live it on your schedule 

I agree. It's so easy to ignore texts and later just say "oh just saw this. We were napping and feeding all day. Here's a pic" And leave it at that.

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