pre pregnancy bucket list?

lettygonzalez88 · December 2012

Okay so new moms out there or those of you that are waiting, what are some things that you would like/would have liked to accomplish before a baby comes along?

My husband and I have been married for 1 year and 6 months now and we have decided to wait. Sometimes when we babysit for some of our friends' babies I think about how great motherhood could be but at other times I am also likely to freak out about giving up our "newlywed" stage (where all we need to worry about us is each other) and about the whole birthing process. I seriously sometimes freak out about the thought about having a baby inside of me. We are thinking of trying to conceive the Summer of 2013. Since we have around 6-8 months before we start buying our share of pregnancy test I am wondering what are something that you wish you had done before you became pregnant because now you and your husband are not able to/what are something you and your husband did before becoming pregnant and that you would recommend.

bugandbibs · December 2012

My list was all practical. I wanted to own a house, have a good emergency fund, and have enough money to cover my unpaid maternity list. The first 2 were in place before we started ttc, and we got serious about saving for maternity leave after we got our BFP. When we have kiddo #3, I will likely SAH so we have to budget for that.

KenziK · December 2012

I would like to get a couple more trips out of the way, which we will be doing in the next year.

DH is currently trying to become a police officer, so we are both wanting him to get hired into a department and go through the police academy before a baby arrives, but after hearing how long it could possibly take, I am thinking we may have to compromise depending on how long this whole thing goes on.

I would also like to work on putting as much money towards my student loans as possible to pay them off quicker, and build up a nice savings for any unexpected issues. I have what I call my "baby fund"/emergency fund and it's doing well, just have to get DH to start saving as well haha

kali55 · December 2012

Sleep in as much as possible. Go to the movies. Go out with friends. Go dancing, go drinking, have some fun.

We didn't own a home before becoming pregnant but bought our first house when I was about 6 months pregnant and moved when I was 7 months.

If there are any trips you want to take, I would take them before. I just did a 14 hour flight with DS and although he was really really good, it was hard work!

But I would have to say, savor the sleeping in.

staycee · December 2012

I was 38 when I got BFP #1. We'd pretty much done it all and were way beyond ready. Owned house, good jobs (he'd been at his 20 years already), trips, hobbies, big toys, etc.... done.

annieb627 · December 2012

DH and I have been married for a little over 2 years now. We own a home and we have a good amount of savings set aside, but here's our current pre pregnancy bucket list as well as some things we enjoy about being childless at the moment ...

- Being the last people to leave a party

- Travel - we are planning a long trip to NYC in the fall

- Spur of the moment date nights

- This goes along with spur of the moment date nights, but I love that we have time to enjoy just the two of us.

chels0120 · December 2012

For us, waiting wasn't an option. I have a health condition that gets worse and worse with age and is in my uterus and ovaries so we started trying immediately (lol ok so like the night he proposed). But we made sure before we had baby that we had a good nest egg saved, had taken at least one good trip together and had individually done a fun girls/guys trip with friends.

anssett · December 2012

I'm in the waiting phase. Planning to start TTC in July 2013.

* Education - I required that I finished all the education I wanted for my career path (PhD 2010)

* Stable Finances - I have a job I love (so does my sweetie). I make more than we need so we have lots of savings and stability.

* Travel - I have always loved to travel and have been to 20+ countries (5/7 continents down for me, 4/7 for him; already thinking about a space vacation for our 10th or 20th anniversary)

* Get outside your comfort zone - I worked for the opportunity to visit slums in Nairobi and poor medical clinics in Mombasa. This changes your world view in a way NO TV show or Economist article can

* Self-exploration - I've spent a lot of time (years) reading books, having philosophical discussions, therapy, etc to best understand myself and how to be the best me I can

* Play for yourself, not others (aka suck the marrow out of life) - I have hobbies I love where I've found great community. I've performed on international stages and the major music venues in Seattle. I'm in my first musical this spring. We're taking SCUBA diving lessons to meet fish up-close and personal. I won't stop (most of) these when I'm pregnant or have new babies, if possible, but I know it'll all be different.

I see this list as a big part of what makes you an adult. There's a lot more to 'adulthood' in my mind than paying your own rent. Also, everyone's idea of play and getting outside their comfort zone is a bit different, but those are the big themes as I see them. Stable finances to me doesn't require owning a house because in Seattle a starter house is 300-400K and it'll take some time to work up to buying that much house responsibly. Stable partner isn't technically on my list of requirements but I'm awfully glad I found my sweetie and we're undertaking the adventure of parenthood together.

GWUAlum · December 2012

DH and I have been married for 4.5 years. We've traveled and loved every minute of it. We are starting to TTC and there are somethings that we still want to do, but there's things we can still do and share w/ our children if we are so blessed. We're gonna try and squeeze in one more major trip before we have a child.

JCWhitey · December 2012

It's funny, I got my BFP at about 8PM at night and at about 5PM I was talking with a couple of other friends about all the things we wanted to do before we got pregnant. We even were just saying we were too selfish with all the things we wanted to do to get pregnant. That night... SURPRISE!

I'm just happy that I am married and in a solid relationship with a man who's beyond excited to become a father. We don't need a house (even though we technically have one) or a ton of money. Just each other and we'll get along just fine. Although I do wish we had managed to move away from the ILs first. They are driving me batty right now!

hesakeeper · December 2012

- Finish school
- Have decent jobs
- Pay off some debts
- Build our e-fund
- Go on a few trips

Like PP mentioned, I plan to stay active once I become a parent but things will obviously change and be different so I want to get some things done beforehand.

victoria+james · December 2012

Pay off our last credit card
Build our savings
Send DH on a backpacking trip

I just added the last one because he didn't get to go earlier this year and he loves going backpacking with his best friend. We bought the house about 1 and a half years ago and took our honeymoon back in September. I've paid off 2 of our 3 cards!

saraeric · December 2012

I really wanted to go on a big trip before TTC. This past summer we were able to go to Europe (Paris, London, Edinburgh) and I am so glad we did! So glad we were able to do that together without the stress of traveling with kids. We also own our home, have great, stable jobs, and have a good amount in savings so I feel like we're ready.

GWUAlum · December 2012

krystlelynn212:
My list is pretty short. I just wanted to make sure we were actually married and had a house before we got pregnant. Both of those are now out of the way..I want to renovate our bathrooms before kids and make sure we do have some savings to fall back on. I like to travel when we can but its not often due to our jobs so I doubt that will change. We have the money put back now to renovate one of the bathrooms but for some reason we're holding off at least until January. I think we're pretty set and we're no longer preventing just not actively TTC but after a few months if we don't get pregnant just by not avoiding we'll reevaluate at that time and see if we want to push harder.

We did this! and this is where we are at. We've decided to actively TTC and see where it takes us.

Want a personalized experience?

pre pregnancy bucket list?

Re: pre pregnancy bucket list?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards