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3rd Birthday and Alphabet Soup
DS turns 3 technically in one hour. We got our PDDNOS diagnosis today and I'm not even sure how to feel.
The school district declared he was not on the spectrum during his IEP and even our new Developmental Pedi said he just barely barely qualified. It makes a lot of sense to me about the ways be acts or doesn't act and how hard it is to teach him new things. Overall, I think I am overwhelmed as usual but hopeful that we can start getting some services to help our son be the best boy he can be.
Can I explain this to others like if the Autism spectrum was a fish, he is literally hanging onto the last scale of the fish's tail? That is when I am ready to share. It took me a few months to share his CP diagnosis and there are still many people that don't know. Honestly I can't imagine being able to verbalize the diagnosis in a conversation without bursting into tears.
This timing is shtty though. The baby will be six months old in a few days and I'll be returning to work full time next week. As if being mostly AP, EBFing and having never left baby for more than 4 hours isn't hard enough. Now I'll be gone 14 hours 3 times a week and still responsible for everything.
One more random thought I get so frustrated that my son is so much more difficult / needy than our new baby. He should be a little more able to selfregulate than a baby. Obviously personalities play a factor but assuming the same scenario with both NT, is it ever normal for the toddler to be far more difficult than an infant? I don't think I'm explaining this very well...
Thanks for letting me vent.
The school district declared he was not on the spectrum during his IEP and even our new Developmental Pedi said he just barely barely qualified. It makes a lot of sense to me about the ways be acts or doesn't act and how hard it is to teach him new things. Overall, I think I am overwhelmed as usual but hopeful that we can start getting some services to help our son be the best boy he can be.
Can I explain this to others like if the Autism spectrum was a fish, he is literally hanging onto the last scale of the fish's tail? That is when I am ready to share. It took me a few months to share his CP diagnosis and there are still many people that don't know. Honestly I can't imagine being able to verbalize the diagnosis in a conversation without bursting into tears.
This timing is shtty though. The baby will be six months old in a few days and I'll be returning to work full time next week. As if being mostly AP, EBFing and having never left baby for more than 4 hours isn't hard enough. Now I'll be gone 14 hours 3 times a week and still responsible for everything.
One more random thought I get so frustrated that my son is so much more difficult / needy than our new baby. He should be a little more able to selfregulate than a baby. Obviously personalities play a factor but assuming the same scenario with both NT, is it ever normal for the toddler to be far more difficult than an infant? I don't think I'm explaining this very well...
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Re: 3rd Birthday and Alphabet Soup
The timing does sound overwhelming. It's a lot to process at once. Auntie's already given a lot of good answers and advice. I agree it's probably not a bad idea to see a counselor yourself to help you process all of this.
Also, I will say, it's not uncommon for a toddler to be more high-maintenance than a baby. It does depend on temperament, like you said. Some babies are pretty mellow as infants, sleep a lot, etc., and then are into everything and throwing seemingly endless tantrums as toddlers. 2 and 3 can be pretty tough ages! Your son may not be where other kids his age are in terms of self-regulation but to some extent it really might just be the age. My boys though have both been overall more challenging at 2-3 than they were at 6 months. While logistically having two preschoolers is a lot easier than having two infants was, dealing with the behavior and tantrums at this age has been more draining for me as a parent.
Auntie the perspectives and advice you provide here is so incredibly helpful to so many of us. I really appreciate your time and effort here. Thank you!