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February 2012 Moms
kittyh8r
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BIL/SIL vent. Long.
kittyh8r
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Okay so I love my IL's. Some are kind of kooky, but it could be waaaay worse.
A couple of months ago my SIL had a baby boy. She was in labor for a total of 7 hours, and pushed for 9 minutes. She went all natural! Before she left the hospital she was BELOW her pre-pregnancy weight. Breast feeding came so easily to her, OH and she never had the baby blues.
With all that said, I am SOOO jealous of her experience. Bitter, really. I know I shouldn't be, but I am. I wanted a natural labor and delivery but ended up having to be induced. I was in labor for 7 hours when I got the epi. I pushed for 2 and a half hours before I had a c-section. Emma had a bad latch which made BF SOOO painful. I quit BF when Emma was 3 days old and EP until 6 months. I hated having to give Emma formula because I wanted to just be able to BF her. I am still 15 pounds above my pre-pregnancy weight, and I had the baby blues SO bad.
My SIL thinks formula is satan's milk or something. Seriously, the girl thinks it's poison. A different SIL of mine has to start supplementing with formula due to supply issues and SIL 1 is completely disgusted with SIL 2. Her words "How could she even THINK of giving that stuff to her baby before he's 6 months?". I don't want to know what she thinks of me. Not that I care.
My BIL got an awful stomach flu yesterday, it must have just been a 12 hr bug because he threw up for literally 12 hours straight and then all of a sudden stopped. I was telling my BIL that they could have our Lysol spray to help prevent SIL and their son from getting the bug. And he said.."Well WE don't have to worry about *son* getting sick, HE is breastfed."
Am I just being over sensitive, or do they think that because their child is BF that there is no way for him to get sick. I was too annoyed to say "Uh, he can still get sick despite having the blessed breast milk"
I think AF is coming soon because I am kind of an emotional tornado. Ask DH. I told him how I felt and he said I was being sensitive.
Okay sorry. I just had to vent. My vent is over.
BFP #1 July 4, 2011 Baby girl born Feb 22, 2012!!
BFP #2 December 17, 2012 MMC January 24, 2013
BFP #3 April 7, 2013 Baby girl born December 11, 2013!!
Amelia has Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. She has had 3 open heart surgeries, 1 g-tube surgery, and one tracheostomy. She is the strongest, most precious little fighter.
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Re: BIL/SIL vent. Long.
I think BFing lowers the chances because there are antibodies in breastmilk, but it's not foolproof by any means.
Perhaps you think you're being sensitive, but this "holier than thou" vibe I'm getting would rub me the wrong way any time of the month.
All I have to say is I hope there's such thing as karma.
BFP #3 - 05.20.11, EDD - 01.31.12, Logan is here! 02.05.12
BFP #2 - 03.16.11, M/C 03.24.11
BFP #1 - 10.17.10, Blighted Ovum dx, M/C 01.09.11
My DD has been exclusively BF since day one and she has been sick countless times. I mean really? That's a bit naive of them. If children never got sick will BFing we would probably all do it until they left for college.
I hope their LO doesn't get the stomach bug but a little Lysol wouldn't hurt his chances of staying well.
I am still breastfeeding my son. He hasn't had formula yet. We spent all of last week taking it easy because he had a fever for 6 days and he is still a snotty little mess. So he has been sick now for 11 days. In October, we ended up in the ER twice along with a trip to the pedi, because he was sick. So, your SIL and BIL are ridiculous for thinking there is no way he can get sick. Laugh it off, knowing you are smarter than them.
As long as your daughter is happy and healthy, do not let others make you feel bad for what you feed her.
I'm so sad that you are dealing with a SIL who is so ignorant and self-centered. Formula was made for situations like yours, not to hurt babies. I hope she doesn't have problems, but until she does she will never know what it feels like to struggle and bear that guilt. I don't think you're being sensitive. I BF and *I'm* annoyed.
You are hilarious! That was too funny!
I'm sorry you have to deal with comments like that. That really sucks. I have a friend that told me no woman should get an epidural. She also pushed for less than 5 minutes with both of her babies. It's so annoying.
FWIW, my EBF baby just got over a stomach bug. Maybe my milk isn't as magical as your SIL's.
My SIL is having a baby in Feb. and I dread a similar circumstance is going to happen. I would feel the same way.
BUT she may not have had it as easy as you think. Just because she acts like its all so easy for her doesn't necessarily mean it is.
It will come back on them I promise. Their kid will probably be a horrific toddler.
People who pretend like they have it easy annoy me even more. I have one friend who while I was pregnant and venting about back pain or whatever would say "oh, I LOVE being pregnant, it was so easy for me!". Her husband was with us one day when she said that and he said "really? you complained the whole time!". It was awesome. But why act like everything comes so easy to you when it doesn't and someone that you know is struggling or has struggled? Then it seems like they're just trying to make you feel bad, even though they had a similar experience, which seems so much more vindictive to me.
I agree which makes OP's SIL even that much more annoying. Given the fact that she's so over the top about formula it makes me wonder if she's compensating for her struggles with BFing and new motherhood. Not saying it's right, just wondering if that's the reason.
The first 2 months were hard for them because their LO had colic...but God forbid you call it that. I mentioned colic or gas one day when LO was 1 month and my head is still spinning from the response. One day LO was so fussy and I asked if I could try something and I grabbed him and did bicycle legs with him and he was instantly better. I mentioned gripe water and she snapped that she doesn't want to MEDICATE him. ugh, one day I just bought it for her and took it to their house and showed them how to give it to him. They let me give it to him and BAM instantly a different baby. He has been better ever since and they MEDICATE him with gripe water. haha
They don't know everything, but act like they know it all. SO FRUSTRATING.