Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
. I always planned on having him vaginally and didn't even want to be induced, if I could avoid it, let alone a c-section. So obviously, I'm going to try everything I can to get him to flip, but the real possibility of a c-section is depressing and scary for me. I guess I just need some words of encouragement for me to put a positive spin on the situation. 
Re: Terrified
It took a few days before I was ok with it. I realized that I'd do whatever it took to get DS out safely.
The experience was actually really great. My water broke, I went to the OB ER and had a c/a a few hours later. My recovery was great and i would do it all over again. I hope you have a good experience as well and just focus on getting your LO out safely!
I had a C-section with my first, and both of my sisters had vaginal deliveries. After comparing stories, both of my sisters say they wish they could have had C-sections, too.
My recovery was so easy. There was no worrying about tearing down there, or fearing going to the bathroom afterwards. The whole surgery was super-fast. After I arrived at the hospital, I was holding my beautiful son in my arms within a couple of hours.
And it was convenient for my family, because they live in another state, so since we knew the birth date/time, they could make arrangements to be here without feeling rushed and harried.
Plus, on a completely shallow note, my baby looked really pretty because he wasn't all squashed and cone-headed. :-)
I remember being disappointed, too, when I learned I would have to have a C-section, but it turned out to be a blessing, and I'm really glad I'm having one with this child as well.
My situation was pretty similar! I had planned for and wanted a vaginal birth. Of course I knew a c-section was a possibility, but that seemed so unreal, and I think I just refused to believe it would actually happen.
After having my c-section though, I'm very happy that I did. I had a wonderful experience. I knew exactly when I was going to be able to meet my daughter, which was awesome. I liked being able to know that on this set day, I was going to have a baby.
It also made it easier to plan. I knew the type of things I'd want to bring to the hospital, I was able to make sure the people I wanted to be there were available and could make it. My family was able to be there as well because they knew when to take off work.
The surgery itself was quick, and was over before I knew it! I even got to hold DD when they were done with her as they were still stitching me up.
My biggest fear was the pain/recovery. I was very lucky and have had a very smooth recovery. It wasn't near as bad as I was afraid of. I also loved that I wasn't all torn up below the belt. That was my biggest fear about delivering vaginally. Going to the bathroom was never really a huge issue, there's no pain or tearing, and my bleeding has been very light.
I went into this c-section thinking that next time I'll be trying for a VBAC, but honestly this whole experience was so great that I'm seriously considering a RCS.
I'm doing CS#3 in March--they really aren't that bad
Sure, I would choose a vaginal/natural birth and do think it is weird I will never know what it feels like to go into labor...but both have been trauma-free. The second one was the best because it was planned so I was well-rested and knew what to expect.
I hope the baby turns for you and you get the birth you were planning on. But just in case, find out beforehand the procedure so you know what to expect: When can DH be there (often they come in OR after spinal), at what point will you get to hold the baby (OR, recovery, your room), be sure to have DH stay with baby while they are finishing up with you and recovering.
And have a plan for family too. How do you feel about people waiting at the hospital while you are in surgery and then chomping at the bit waiting for you to be out of recovery? Since my first C Section was unplanned we had no plans in place--DH stayed with baby, but while I slept in recovery (for 3 hours) all the family that was waiting in the waiting room was holding our baby--before I did! With #2 my surgery was at 10am and we told family they could come after 3pm, that gave me plenty of time to recover and the 4 of us got to hang out for a while before visitors.
I had a very unexpected and unplanned c-section. After four hours of pushing my OB told me the news and I was terrified as well. My OB was shocked when he pulled out an almost 10# baby (he was convinced he would be under 8#) and my labor and pushing was a pretty traumatic experience.
The bottom line is to remember what is best for you and for LO. After it was over nothing mattered but LO made it to this earth perfect and healthy.
FWIW I would of much rather known in advance so I would of been more prepared for the outcome. Take this time to learn as much as you can in case it does end up happening.
Wishing you the best of luck mama, you can do it.
(Sending flipping vibes your way)
GSx1 - 05/13/2013
GSx2 for T&B - EDD 6/21/2015 - They're having a GIRL!
Not sure if you're still checking the responses on this post. However I am a surgical sales rep and recently stood in on my first c section case. Now after finding out that I need a c section, I'm actually not as concerned about having one now that I actually witnessed one. Honestly, I feel like there are a lot of misconceptions out there about how scary and bloody a c section is. Yes, you're having surgery and its always scary. However like a pp said, there are cons to vaginal delivery as well. Either way, lets face it ladies. Having a baby whether its via c section or vaginal is not the best thing in the world. But we do it to reap the rewad(s) afterwards. I know it's scary, but just know that c sections are for the most part very safe.
Lastly, my friend who is a PA said that between witnessing a c section and vaginal deliveries while in school, she's much more scarred by the vaginal deliveries. Haha just a side note to make you laugh a little. Good luck!
Don't be terrified! Baby could totally flip before delivery, but if not a c-section is okay too. I had a really good experience with mine. I actually talked about baby showers and nursery with the anesthesiologist through most of it (his wife was due two weeks after me). I am actually looking forward to mine this time because I can schedule it and not have 14 hours of labor before hand. I actually wish I could have just scheduled the first one and not had to go through an induction and labor.
I wanted a drug free birth and then my son and wound up scheduling a c section when I hadn't dilated a week past my due date. It was not what I'd planned for, but in the end, he was delivered healthy and I felt fine with in a couple of days. I was disappointed at first, but now plan to go for a repeat c when we have our second,
I had the same experience a month ago - found out that my lower twin had flipped from vertex to breech at full term. I had been hoping for an unmedicated, vaginal birth. I was so frightened and so, so upset for the weeks leading up to the c-section. At the hospital, I couldn't stop crying, and I was so scared and upset in the delivery room that I was shaking and barely able to control myself.
Having been in your situation, I can honestly tell you that it isn't that bad in the end. I still feel sad about missing labor, and the surgery was scary, but if it's necessary, you'll get through it and you'll have the consolation of knowing that you did it for your kiddo! It's true that once you're with the baby, the whole thing will seem less important and significant than it did beforehand.
Good luck!
hey! try these exercises! This lady had all different types of babies that were not head down--so she made this video on how she got them into optimal position! Don't lose hope! Baby can still turn!