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July 2013 Moms
Ashleyallsmiles
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Bridesmaid in Destination Wedding
Ashleyallsmiles
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So, a few months before I found out I was pregnant I agreed to be a Bridesmaid in a friends wedding. We're not super close, but she's cool and I have never been to a destination wedding, I was VERY excited for me and my husband to attend this wedding in Cuba!!
Well, now that I'm pregnant, I really need some opinions. The wedding is 1 month after my due date, and we would be gone for a week in Cuba.
I don't think that it's a good idea to leave your newborn for a whole week, when they are only a month old, what do you think? I'm a first time mom and would love some feedback.
I plan on breastfeeding too, so that would also need to be taken into consideration, how would you feel about leaving your newborn at home with your parents (mom doesn't work, neither does mom in law) for a week while you and your husband go to Cuba?
Good idea? Bad idea? Would I still be recovering from birth? How about dress size? Plus the $4000 that it would cost my husband and I to go would be better spent on baby. What's your take?
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Re: Bridesmaid in Destination Wedding
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I agree. But I think it would be hard to travel to Cuba with a 1 month old for a week. Is it possible to trim down the length of the trip? Possibly just go for the rehearsal dinner and wedding night?
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What about if you shortened your trip (maybe do 3-4 days instead of 7) and took the baby with you? Or leave the baby with mom/mom-in-law? I think a few days is reasonable, but a week may be too much that early on...
Plus, would you really want to be away from your baby for that long, so early on? I dont think I could handle it..
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Well, despite it being Communist, it wasn't a part of the Eastern bloc and Cuba didn't side with the US after WWII so, yes, it's a Third World Country. But that doesn't mean anything as far as safety goes. In fact, if you're concerned about medical care and treatment, Cuba actually has a pretty advanced medical care system. Their ranked 39th overall for healthcare and the US is only 37th so we're not that far ahead at all. And it has a higher literacy rate over the US. And it's education system is ranked #1 in the world. In comparison the US is 13th and Canada is 6th.
Honestly, while there are many countries I'd be concerned about when it comes to diseases and health care, Cuba isn't one of them.
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I wasn't saying anything about Cuba specifically only that in general, at 1 month old, your child is not fully immunized to many of the diseases that are out there. Flying anywhere would be a concern to me at so young.
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Thanks everyone for the commens. As much as I would love to go, I believe that I shouldn't. I didn't even consider the possibility of delivering late! There is no way I can take my baby to Cuba under 1 month old, or even leave for whole week so soon.
Your so right about the recovery and the breast pumping, probably wouldn't be as much fun as I'd expect.
Easy decision, I will have to tell her soon after Christmas once the news is out, and hope she understands. *her Maid of Honour just cancelled too ... so I feel pretty bad but my situation seems understandable!
Looks like you've decided, but I was going to also say I'd decline. If you have a c-section you might still be very limited in mobility at that time. Also god forbid there are other health issues that arise with yourself or the baby, you really don't want to be out thousands of dollars on top of it. Also as others said delivering late is an issue.
I'm in a wedding about 2 hours (drive) away a month after I'm due. It's my sister in law, so I know I can bring the baby and I know my parents will be there and stay in the hotel there, but I'm also aware that I could have issues that arise and keep me from the wedding and I'll be out a dress. But I'm OK with that. I wouldn't be ok with being out $4k.
This..definitely.
It sounds like it would be fun at any other time, but I agree with some of the others, it is just too soon. You can't bring the baby, my doc said to really limit other people until after 6 weeks and it would be hard to leave for a week. I actually think it is asking a lot of your mother and mother-in-law to watch a newborn for a week. You will understand once the baby is born, but it requires quite a bit of energy, especially the overnights. They might not be up to it full-time for a week. I hope your friend will understand, it is obviously the most important thing in her life, so you don't want to alienate her, she may or may not be super happy about it.
Too bad it isn't like a month later, could be a nice little break!