Thinking about #3...share experience!

Re: Thinking about #3...share experience!

• lynsef member

  December 2012

  No advice except that we are expecting #3 and while we had a difficult few months in the beginning the kids play pretty well together now.  They definately fight, but I figure they always will.  I was an only child until I was 11 yrs old and I had lots of friends, but always wanted a sibling.  My mom has 4 siblings and I always thought it was so cool that they had so many memories together and it was fun to have so many aunts and uncles.  So while I'm already a little overwhelmed sometimes with 2 I am so excited for #3.  Best wishes for you whatever you decide!

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• bride2bsoon member

  December 2012

  I'm hoping you get some advice. I started the baby itch again too. I haven't even brought it up around DH yet. I've heard the jump to 3 isn't as bad. 

  

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• saturdaynightdoubletree member

  December 2012

  I'll let you know. DD and DS were so close in age we never experienced the jealousy thing and they are the best of friends now. I'm hoping this baby just fits right in, but DS is very emotionally needy so I'm nervous. I would think it's one of those things you don't know what's going to happen until you try, so if you want another baby go for it. Eventually everyone will adjust. GL!

  

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• acaudill75 member

  December 2012

  Don't do it!!! JK. I had horrible pregnancies, sick every single day, on bed rest for 4-5 weeks each, swore I didn't want a second, and now I have two. I had a terrible delivery with DD2 where I was in the OR for two hours while they repaired all the tears down there, had two transfusions, and I thought I was going to die. A couple of weeks later, I thought to myself, I could have another one. There's nothing like having a baby inside your body, moving around under your heart. Luckily, DH went through with the vasectomy I insisted on at the end of pregnancy #2. Having said all that, I have heard that having three is no big deal, and I have also heard that with two, mom gets one and dad gets one, but with three, who gets number three?? I can hardly handle the two I have, but I have very little patience. I think if you are ready, willing, and able to care for three, multiply that by 100 and that is probably around what you will be faced with. In the end, you will make it, and have three beautiful children to show for it. Good Luck!

  

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• JillAly member

  December 2012

  I am one of 3 children.  My brother has 3 children.  One day he turned to my dad and said "why didn't you tell me that having 3 was 100 times harder than having 2.  It's not 2 + one more.  It's 2 + 98 more".   He said the same things as the prior poster- you're outnumbered by kids and someone always gets the short stick of having to be without the parent.

  I was the oldest of 3 and I was always the one who had to go on rides withoout a parent - they thought the oldest would be fine without a parent on Disney rides, etc.  Let me tell you- I remember it and still resent it - LOL.  But seriously, I remember all the fights in the car about who had to sit in the middle because there were 3 of us and someone had to be in the middle.  I do remember how things were always designed for a family of 4 and it was always 4 plus one more so it always cost more - like for hotel rooms where you could only have 4 to a room. 

  Do I love my siblings?  Yes- it's always nice when you fight with one to be able to turn to the other one.  However, as a parent, I knew I was stopping at 2.  Do whateve is right for your family -there may be issues with whatever number of children you have, but to me, three is too hard!

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• mrsseguin member

  December 2012

  We had a very difficult time going from 1-2 kids.  So much so, I wanted to get my tubes tied and I gave away most of our stuff.  Well, things have smoothed over and we've gotten into a new routine.  DS is 4 and DD will be 2 this month.  We we always went back and forth about #3.  I knew if we did, they would be further apart in age.  This month we decided to take the plunge and go for #3.  It will 100% be our last, I'm going to get my tubes tied with a repeat c/s.
  

  
  

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• WestCoastMommy member

  December 2012

  JillAly:

  I am one of 3 children.  My brother has 3 children.  One day he turned to my dad and said "why didn't you tell me that having 3 was 100 times harder than having 2.  It's not 2 + one more.  It's 2 + 98 more".   He said the same things as the prior poster- you're outnumbered by kids and someone always gets the short stick of having to be without the parent.

  I was the oldest of 3 and I was always the one who had to go on rides withoout a parent - they thought the oldest would be fine without a parent on Disney rides, etc.  Let me tell you- I remember it and still resent it - LOL.  But seriously, I remember all the fights in the car about who had to sit in the middle because there were 3 of us and someone had to be in the middle.  I do remember how things were always designed for a family of 4 and it was always 4 plus one more so it always cost more - like for hotel rooms where you could only have 4 to a room. 

  Do I love my siblings?  Yes- it's always nice when you fight with one to be able to turn to the other one.  However, as a parent, I knew I was stopping at 2.  Do whateve is right for your family -there may be issues with whatever number of children you have, but to me, three is too hard!

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