Sharing stuff/ blog post / wdyt

Re: Sharing stuff/ blog post / wdyt

• nunzchucks member

  December 2012

  mrscjmb9410:

  I've read this post before. And I agree with it for the most part. 

  I have also employed this 'sharing policy' with the kids I watch...though I don't save their toys for them if they walk away from it. If they walk away to get a drink/go to the toilet, fine I will vouch that they still were playing with it. If they go get a snack, wander around, look at a book...no, you were not still playing with it and OtherChild can have it.

  It actually works pretty well, IME. It also encourages kids to ask for things nicely, compromise and play cooperatively.

  In a sibling situation, I would put a time limit, ie you can play with it until you're finished or until lunchtime, whichever comes first. You'll have to give it to Sibling after lunch because it is a family toy/object. [caveat: if it was Child's Christmas/birthday gift, they don't have to share unless they want to.] 

  This for sure. I think the one example where the kid used the toy for the entire play hour was unfair. Taking turns is a valuable concept, too.

  Thanks for sharing! 

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• countrygrl5533 member

  December 2012

  We would do the "you need to wait until Billy is done then it will be your turn" thing too at most the daycares, etc. I have worked. Also would do a "you have 5 more minutes then it will be Susie's turn" with reminders at 3 and 1 minutes. Just making a child give something up for someone else does not teach them anything. And if it is their personal toy, they don't have to share it at all if they don't want to. Siblings, maybe depending on the item, but not just peers.
  

  
  
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