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***jillianmb***

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I am curious to know if you read my response to your post about Arie's life book.  I know I gave a lot of unsolicited and somewhat unrelated advice, but I am curious as to how you received it.

I guess what I'm asking is whether I overstepped, or if that kind of post is welcomed.  I don't want to offend you, but I just feel as if I've walked many of your steps recently, and if I can help you avoid any of our missteps or how often we felt blindsided, I'd like to.

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  • jillianmbjillianmb member

    Oh good grief I totally forgot to reply to you! I'm sorry!! I really loved what you had to say and especially the part about how we just don't know how major or minor a role the child's adoption will play in their lives. I was thinking about that after you wrote it and it my experience with friends who were adopted, for some of them it is a piece of their story that they cherish and for others it is something they can't seem to come to terms with. Not sure why the difference but I agree that we have to expect any outcome and walk with our child through that.

    Your advice is very welcome! Thank you for sharing it with me! 

    TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
    SA February 2011: Normal
    RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI

    Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption

    Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
    Court trip October 2012
    Home November 24 2012!

    Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues: 

    Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count 
    Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???

    Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013

    Adding a Burden
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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member
    Okay, good!  i just wanted to make sure I didn't go way overboard and leaveyou running for the hills!  No appologies necessay!  I know I have a tendancy to put a lot out there, but it's always intended to help, based on what we experienced.  Sometimes, I think I see so many similarities is IA posters journey and ours, and I get all excited and want to reach out and help smooth your way if I can, and I forget that part of the journey is learning through experiences with your child and that my enthusiasm can come off as pushy if I burt out too much unsolicited advice.
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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member
    In other words, I just wanted to make sure my crazy wasn't showing.
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  • jillianmbjillianmb member

    imageCaptainSerious:
    In other words, I just wanted to make sure my crazy wasn't showing.

    lol! It was showing just the right amount. ;-)

    TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
    SA February 2011: Normal
    RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI

    Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption

    Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
    Court trip October 2012
    Home November 24 2012!

    Back to RE Summer 2013. TTC journey continues: 

    Dx DOR, endometriosis, low sperm count 
    Clomid + IUI#1, #2 = BFN / IUI #3 = ???

    Laparoscopy scheduled December 2013

    Adding a Burden
    Report Reply
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