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Need advice from other SAHM's

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I am on maternity leave with #2, I am debating not returning to work after my leave. My job was horrible while I was pregnant and wasn't the most family friendly when #1 ever was sick. If I had to leave work to pick her up and find arrangements for family to watch her. My supervisor was not the most understanding.  It made things very stressful for me but I stuck it out until after #2 was here. I have #1 in daycare while home with #2. I have tried to figure out a lot of scenarios. Do other SAHMs have the older child being cared in early learning? or do you have both children at home with you? I can't do much with #1 until #2 gets a bit older I feel like I can?t keep up with her while with #2 and I feel bad I can?t give her my full attention all the time. I feel like at school she is learning more and socializing more with children her age. She has been there for 2.5 yrs.  I love her madly she is very active and busy. I?m trying to look at every aspect of how to juggle both.  How have you mom dealt with this? 

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  • jensriotjensriot member

    I worked full time before DD2 came as well. When she arrived I stayed in the house for a few months and went stir crazy. It didn't take me long to figure out we were all happier if we got out and did things, even if it's just the grocery store. Can I ask why you feel you can't do much with #1 while #2 is around?

    On the daycare situation, when DD2 was really little, DD1 went to an in home daycare twice a week. Now they each go once a week on separate days. This gives my nice one on one time with each kid.

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  • MamaKajsaMamaKajsa member
    I know it can be overwhelming to take care of two little ones. I had my two 16 months apart and it was hard but it can be done. You get into the groove of things after some time.  That being said, DD is at preschool one day a week and I make sure that I spend one on one time with DS that day. I also set aside time for one on one time with DD. Of course it's up to you if you put your eldest in early learning.
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  • NHbride129NHbride129 member
    yeah no daycare for my older one here either.  I think you just have to realize that life for the older one is going to be nothing like it was in daycare, but it's not better or worse.  'You get used to being home with two kids and most sahms I know get out of the house daily.  If you plan to do something every morning like park, storytime, toddler gyms then that's plenty of stimulation for the older one and the baby just tags along and tries to keep up with their brother/sister.
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