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we are all mothers...

smilormariesmilormarie member
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So one of my favorites books so far: "what your doctor may not tell you about getting pregnant" by Raymond Chang has a chapter that popped into my head today at work. I had barely given it any thought when I read it, but now I'm starting to get it. He asks the reader to look inside and recognize that she already IS a mother in so many ways. The desire to be a mother, any changes she may be making to prepare her body for a new life, and even our very essence as females make us motherly. He told the reader that she already encompasses what it means to be a mother. I'll know imn a few days if this IUI worked but now I'm finding comfort in this thought that I had barely let myself believe til now. We usually beat ourselves up for so many things: past bcp, choosing career before starting a family, any sip of alcohol, and why wouldn't we? We're mothers and its our job to worry and we expect a lot of ourselves and others. Hope this helps you all, evenm if only a little.
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12 weeks 3 days


TTC since Oct 2011
Me: 33, hypothyroidism since 14, cleared all HSG, US, Pre-pregnancy panel tests.
Hubby: 36, testicular Ca, chemo April-May 2012.
Natural cycle IUI #1 with trigger and Progesterone Suppositories (Jun 2012) Neg
Natural Cycle IUI #2 with trigger and Progesterone Suppositories (Jul 2012) NEG
Aug 2012 - break due to needing a girls' weekend in Cape Cod
Natural Cycle IUI #3 with trigger and prednisone (Sep 2012) NEGATIVE
Switched fertility clinics - forced break Oct 2012
Natural Cycle IUI #4 (Nov 2012) no trigger, no progesterone, no prednisone (Nov 2012) - Neg
1st round Clomid Cycle IUI #5 (Dec 2012) - POS
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  • Ruger04Ruger04 member
    Thats alot to think about, thanks for sharing! :)
    ITS A GIRL!!! TTC 8/11 November Clomid 150mg+trigger+IUI+TI= BFP<br>
    You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' 
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  • nlscrogginsnlscroggins member
    this made me smile. thanks for sharing!
    trying for #1 since May 2012... we're adopting! bringing home baby boy in january 2015!


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  • Aurora1181Aurora1181 member
    An interesting perspective! Although I don't feel very motherly...
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    Me: 32, DH: 34  / TTC since February 2011 / SA: all normal, HSG: all clear! / on Lovenox for anticardiolipid antibodies
    4 IUIs with Clomid, Letrozole, and Menopur. All BFN.
    9/12: lap / hysteroscopy: found and removed mild endometriosis, cervical polyp, and 2 para-tubular cysts
    5/13 IVF #1: Follistim, Menopur, Ganirelix, 10R/4M/4F, ET of 2, 5 cell and 4 cell, no frosties = BFN
    12/13 IVF #2 = November / December 2013. Microdose Lupron Protocol: 15R/6M/6F, Froze all 6 due to high E2 and P4
    FET 1: Jan 22, 2014 of one 4AB blast and one 3BB blast (3 blasts on ice!)
    BFP on HPT 4dp5dt, Beta #1 9dp5dt: 310, Beta #2 11dp5dt: 899
    First u/s on 2/17/14: TWINS!!!!! both w/HBs of 114 at 6w3d, HBs 150 and 152 at 7w5d
    5/27/2014: Team purple!!!!  EDD 10/10/2014 / 
    Delivered by c-section at 32w0d 8/15/2014 due to preeclampsia/HELLP syndrome
    Baby Boy 4lbs 1oz, 17 inches
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  • MochadoodleMochadoodle member

    imagesmilormarie:
    So one of my favorites books so far: "what your doctor may not tell you about getting pregnant" by Raymond Chang has a chapter that popped into my head today at work. I had barely given it any thought when I read it, but now I'm starting to get it. He asks the reader to look inside and recognize that she already IS a mother in so many ways. The desire to be a mother, any changes she may be making to prepare her body for a new life, and even our very essence as females make us motherly. He told the reader that she already encompasses what it means to be a mother. I'll know imn a few days if this IUI worked but now I'm finding comfort in this thought that I had barely let myself believe til now. We usually beat ourselves up for so many things: past bcp, choosing career before starting a family, any sip of alcohol, and why wouldn't we? We're mothers and its our job to worry and we expect a lot of ourselves and others. Hope this helps you all, evenm if only a little.

    Yes

    Mr. & Mrs. - Est. 10.03.2009

    TTC #1 since 06.2011 Me-24 DH-24

    12.2011 SA = Normal

    06.2012 First visit with OB/GYN

    10.2012 Clomid 50mg + TI = BFN

    11.2012 Clomid 50mg + TI = BFN

    12.2012 Clomid 100mg + TI = BFN

    01.2013 First visit with RE

    02.2013 Clomid 150mg + TI = BFN

    03.2013 Femara 5mg + TI = BFN

    05.2013 Femara 5mg + TI = BFN

    06.2013 Femara 7.5mg + TI = BFN

    *Taking a break*  

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  • sundowner85sundowner85 member
    imageAurora1181:
    An interesting perspective! Although I don't feel very motherly...
    I agree. Maybe because it's yet another CD1 right on time for me today/tomorrow and we are still on the fence about spending thousands OOP for testing (no testing or treatment coverage), but I don't feel like I'm becoming a mother anymore. Lately I just picture it being me and H and trying to make that feel like maybe the two of us is enough. But I'm glad this message brought some hope to a few others. Good luck and *hugs* to everyone.
    TTC from May 2011 to Jan 2013. Due 9/11/13
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