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TTC After a Loss
cg0112358
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update on BIL (lots of T&Ps needed!!!)
cg0112358
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I posted on here the week before Thanksgiving about BIL's surgery but I'll recap for those who don't remember.
On Wed (11/15) I received a phone call that doctor had discovered a tumor in BIL's brain. I drove down Thursday morning to support SIL (b/c she had to leave her mom at hospice where she was only given 24-72 hours to live) as her husband went through surgery. The doctors removed a tumor 1.5 times the size of a golf ball BIL and seemed confident that they got all of it. BIL went home on Mon (11/19) and recovery, although painful, seemed to be going well. SIL's mother did end up passing a few days later. I just got a text from DH and now it looks like BIL has a 75% chance of living another 5 years, 50% chance of making it to 10 years, and it just goes down from there. He is not even 40 years old yet, has two sons (9 and 11) and it looks like he won't even make 50. I am crying right now as I right this, I cannot even imagine how the others are handling this...
I know life is not fair but this just goes so far beyond that right now. DH just lost his oldest brother barely two years ago and now is having to deal with losing his other brother. My SIL lost her mother barely a week ago and now has to face the eventuality that she will lose her husband while her two sons will be losing their father. My MIL and FIL have already lost one son and now face the fact that they will lose another. I know sometimes miracles happen and my classes (I teach at a catholic HS) are praying for them daily but any thoughts or prayers for BIL, SIL, DH and their family would be appreciated.
DS1: 8/3/10, DD1: 8/17/13, DD2: 8/13/15
Twins lost to due to partial molar pregnancy: September 2011
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Re: update on BIL (lots of T&Ps needed!!!)
wow. sounds like your family is dealing with a lot right now. so sorry to hear that
lots of T&P's coming your way
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Oh man I'm sorry to hear this. Many positive thoughts coming your way.
((hugs))
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I am so sorry to hear this. Lots of hugs and T&Ps to your entire family.
PLEASE do not put too much weight into those statistics. I know you are all scared and it is hard right now, but I am speaking from a very personal place (have dealt with something similar very recently), and statistics never tell the whole story... they are for an enormous group of people - they do not speak to a specific patient or case. Everyone is different. I cannot stress this enough. Please PM me if you need an ear.
m/c: 9/06/12
LTB: 10/23/13
Many T&P for your BIL's recovery, and peace for his family.
im sorry you have to experience this.
נשמה שבאה לעולם למספר חודשים לשהות במעי האם, היא נשמת צדיק גמור שבאה לעולם רק לתקן פגם קטן ולאחר מספר חודשים אלו היא שבה למקומה לגן עדן להתענג על ה'. לעתיד לבוא נשמה זו תוכר באחד מבנייך ובזכות נשמת צדיק זה תזכי להיות במחיצת צדיקים
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BFP#3:Sep.12.12 - Suspected CP | BFP#4:Dec.1.12 - Suspected CP
BFP#5: Dec.26.12 EDD:Sep.10.13 MC:Jan.7.13 (4WK6D)-Natural
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IF testing, RPL testing, Autoimmune testing = all normal
So lost.
BFP#1 05/08/12 - EDD 01/03/13 - MC 05/23/12 8w6d
PCOS diagnosis 02/13 - Started Metformin 03/13
BFP#2 04/07/13 - EDD 12/17/13
Thank you all for your hugs, thoughts, and prayers. Thankfully DH should be coming home tomorrow so we'll be able to talk about it together. I feel horrible that he had to find all of this out right before he had to go offshore on a 2-week rotation. He did get to see his brother for a little bit before he had to leave thankfully. I'm not too sure about any of the treatment options right now as my SIL has been too stressed to really be able to take in any of the information the doctors have been giving her. Right now she's just trying to keep it all together while taking of their sons and helping her DH as he continues to recover from surgery. I really do appreciate all of you, ladies.
I'm sorry I haven't been on here to offer support and hugs but know that all of you are in my thoughts daily. I teach at a catholic school and we pray at the start of every class so just know that you ladies are in my prayers daily and you have around 125 students praying for you as well.