I hate being the center of attention and didn't really want a shower because it just seems so overwhelming to have all these people from all walks of my life come together for ME. But my friend really wants to throw me one and I think her idea might be okay. I just want to make sure there is nothing tacky I'm not thinking of. It'd only be about 9 people and we'd eat lunch at a local farm-to-table restaurant. People would be busy eating so we wouldn't have to do any silly games or anything. I think it'd be rude not to open presents at the end of lunch, but that'd pretty much be the extent of it. What do you think?
Re: Does this sound ok?
A shower without games is just fine. And if your hostess is willing to pay for lunch for 9 people, that's a lovely way to spend a shower.
That said, it's rude not to open the gifts. Suck it up.
Ask your hostess about budget concerns. Farm to table sounds like an expensive situation, so I'd run the idea by your host first. She would be paying for the guests' meal.
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I don't think I've ever gone to a shower at a restauarnt that had games. It would be pretty difficult to do that. Ya...make sure you open gifts at the shower. 9 people is pretty small so it shouldn't take long. Oh ya...make sure your hostess knows she is responsible for paying for the guest's meals.
As said - as long as the guests aren't paying, this is fine. And yes, definitely open gifts at the end.
That being said - you CAN have a regular shower w/o games. I had one and I've been to a few like this.
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I think that sounds lovely. One of my showers was a lunch for about 10 people at a Tea Room and it was perfect. I had a wonderful time and actually felt less awkward opening gifts because it was more intimate and I could still sit at the table.The hostess paid for the entire tab and they brought in our own cake.
FWIW, I had three other "traditional" showers and we didn't play a game at a single one of them.