Nice to know I've still got it.
I totally was checked out at the grocery store in the beer aisle by a cute 20-something. I haven't been eye-banged like that in a while, and darn it felt good.
(mild bummer warning): There was a time when I could come home and tell DW about those sorts of encounters at it would lead to hot monkey love. These days, it would probably just make her feel insecure. And THAT is why I hate her post-pregnancy body. I hate it because she's not happy with it and doesn't want me to see any part of her naked. I get that pregnancy and parenthood changes things. I'm just a little bummed we can't have our little miracle and still have the hot passionate sex life we used to. I know I have it better than a lot of married guys so I shouldn't complain. But yeah, still a little bummed, but also optimistic that things will get better as the kid gets older... until we decide to have another one :P
Re: Nice to know I've still got it.
Its rough being on the "my body is totally fvckered up and I hate it and its stretched and saggy and fat, and lord my bewbs are totaled worst than a 15 car pile up on the freeway."
I'm sure its hard on the dad side though too, because you love your wife and her body and you love what her body did, but there is basically NOTHING you can say to make her see it that way.
I have self-image issues and often get depressed, thinking I don't have "it" anymore. And then I or my DH will catch someone checking me out.
For me, it's not so much my post-PG body as it the ageing that has come along with parenting. I feel like being a parent has aged me 10-15 years in the past 2 years. I think I look way older than I really am.
The funniest used to be when gay guys did it. Because we all know how subtle they are. But it's not like they were a legitimate threat to her.
But no, she wasn't with me. Someone did have to stay home with the kid while I went on our beer run.
Tried to initiate. Shot down. She feels exhausted. I rubbed her back. She liked it and put her shirt back on after. Can't win em all.
When my H and I go out we get great amusement from each other getting hit on.
It happens to me more than him (I'm chatty and flirty when drinking) but the last time we went to a bar I left to go to the bathroom and this group of about 8 women totally pounced on him and left him flabbergasted. It was hilarious.
I don't know if this would be something youre open to, but what about showing her this thread? You may tell her she's beautiful all the time, but I think reading that you said it to complete strangers might show her that you really mean it
Congrats on your eye-banging. I was slightly flirted with a week or two ago and it was like Christmas morning for me.
That being said, I can see where your wife is coming from. I have many issues with my body. I got all the bad stuff...weight in all the wrong places, stretch marks and of course your vag just never feels quite the same. She just needs a little confidence and self esteem. As bad as I sometimes feel about myself, I am very lucky to have a dh that looks at me like I'm a supermodel piece of sex-meat. His amorous behavior definitely helps me forget my problems. So although it is something she has to work out for herself, compliment her and just make her feel sure and secure that she is still the most beautiful,sexy thing you've ever seen.