*Me 28 Husband 31
*TTC since 10/2009
*10/2010Tried 1 cycle of clomid 50mg with no results
*12/2010 On break due to needing a new OB and money reasons
5/5/12 Underwent exploratory surgery and had tubes blown out- no issues found
5/5/12 DH had SA and numbers look great
7/2102 50mg dose of clomid with ovulation and timed sex no results
8/12 Clomid cylce #3- no success
8/30 Went to see RE and we have decided to move onto IUI attempts
10/18 IUI#1 BFN and cyst developed so on hold
11/17 IUI cycle #2 BFN
IUI #3,4,5,6 =BFN
First round of IVF- 2 fresh transfered Beta=20, 37 than ended in M/C- Will do frozen transfer in Sept!
Re: update and huge decision
First off, that's awesome that you have got some coverage should you need it. But you need to call your insurance and find out exactly how it works- lifetime max, number of cycles, yearly max all could be options.
After that, you can look at your financials, see what kind of fee schedule your RE has, if any, and figure out how much you will be OOP.
Most importantly, you and your DH need to be on the same page. If he is not comfortable moving on to IVF yet, then you need to talk it over and decide what to do until then. More IUI's might work. At least if you did one or two more he might begin to warm up to the idea of IVF. This would also give you time to figure everything out as far as how you were going to pay for IVF. With all the time, money, and emotional and physical stress created by IVF, I wouldn't move on to it if one partner was uneasy about.
JMHO.
June- Femara 7.5mg + Trigger + IUI = BFN August- Lap & Hysteroscopy = Blocked & Partially Blocked Tubes
September- Femara 5mg = CX - No Response on Left = BFN October- 100mg Clomid + Trigger + TI = BFN
IVF # 1: Stims 11/30 ER 12/12/12! (10R, 10M, 8F, 2T, 6 F) :: Beta #1- 176 c/p @ 4w4d
FET #1 February 26th :: Lost 4 to Thaw, Transferred 2 = BFFN
IVF # 2 Stims 5/10 ER 5/21 (15R, 13M, 13F, 2T, 7F- 6d3 & 1d5) :: Beta # 1- 15 c/p @ 4w
FET #2.2 Scheduled for September 20th
2 Thawed, 2 Transferred! Beta #1- 96, Beta #2 906! :: EDD June 10th
2015- 2 failed FET. We are done
SURPRISE! BFP 8/8/16 EDD 4/1/17
TTC #1 since February 2011
Me: 29 (3/5/13- high NK cells) DH: 28 (5/8/12- MFI low morph and motility)
Cycle #21 (IUI#1), Cycle #22 (HSG 9/21/12) and Cycle #23 (IUI#2)=
Cycle #24- December Snow Bunny IVF #1
ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies
Bleeding and low betas=very cautious C/P 5W3D
Cycle #26 March Lucky Duck- FET #1
scheduled 3/20/13- CANCELLED- lining issues
Cycle #27 May Emerald- FET #1.2
delayed- Starting Trental for 3 months + natural cycles Cycle #28-30=
Cycle #31 August Shooting Star- FET #1.3
transferred 1 hatching blast 8/21/13= Betas 8/30 (108) and 9/3 (565)
U/S 9/19/13- HR is 128! U/S #2 10/4/13- HR is 174!
It's a BOY!
I would definitely want to know what "ivf coverage" is before I made a decision. We have coverage but have a lifetime max of 10k.
If it was completely covered, personally I would do 3 IUIs first. They are a lot less invasive and "easier". My RE said after 3 the chances go down so that's when I plan on moving on to IVF.
11/1- IUI#1,12/1- IUI#2, 1/2- IUI#3 all BFFN
IVF#1. Long Lupron.ER 3/8 10R,4M,5F. ET 3/3-one 1AB, 2 frosties 5dp5dt-BFP!! Beta 3/25-794 Beta 3/27- 1794
First u/s 4/8 saw hb. 4/22 missed mc 8w3d. d&c 4/26
FET #1- bcp start 6/9. ET 7/12. 2 perfect blasts.5dpt-BFP!!
This is me too - except Dr said the best chances are the 1st two IUI....
Trying since Jan 2011. Unexplained IF.
2 IUIs = BFN.
1 IVF (Dec 2013) = BFN.
FET, 2 frosties (June 13, 2014)
14dp5dt-June 27 -BFP, beta 2061. 2nd beta >5000, 3rd beta >5000, 2 sacs 06/30.
Twin Girls - 02/11/15 - at 37 weeks (no NICU, home with me at 3 days).
TTC SINCE 7/2010, BFP-10/2010 ended in miscarriage 11/2010 : (.....
Progesterone level 4/2011= 11.29. SA normal. HSG normal.
8/11 Clomid 50mg=BFN progesterone level 35,
10/11 Clomid 50mg =BFN progesterone level 31,
11/11 Clomid 50mg=BFN progesterone level 12,
12/11 Clomid 50mg=Progesterone 31
01/12-Break from meds-BFN
Feb-cd3 blood work FSH(5), AMH(0.56) 02/12 Break....
03/01/12-Clomid 50mg with IUI #1=BFN.
04/01/12-Another round of clomid with IUI#2=BFN.
5/8/12-Diagnostic Laparoscopy-found minimal endometriosis and small fibriod.
June and July-much needed break
August-Bravelle 75 with IUI#3- BFN
September-Bravelle injects with IUI #4-BFP!! MC 10/7/12 : ( Sonohysterogram-Normal
December- Bravelle(3 good follicles & E2 1252) with IUI#5 BFFN (
July IVF #1- BFP! : ) Beta #1-245, #2- 703, #3- 1655, #4- 3553 YAY! Praying and Praying this one sticks around!
1st U/S scheduled for Aug 23rd!
Twins!!
We are having a BOY & a GIRL !!
I'm sorry for your BFN. I would get all of the paperwork and financials before you sit down and have a serious conversation with DH. Ask him what are his hesitations with IVF? This is certainly a huge decision and you both need to be on the same page.
TTC since 10/2010 (Rhythm method since 2007)
September 2014 DX Hashimoto's; November 2014: PCOS IR
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DH (37) Sept 2012 SA Normal; October 2014 Mild MFI count 42 Million, Motility 36%, Morphology 2%. Clomid 50mg,
2004 Cyrosurgery, LEEP
July 2012 - October 2012 - Clomid 50mg W/ TI & Progesterone 3 mature follicles- BFN
January 2013 IUI #1 (900,000 post wash) Clomid 50mg, TI & Progesterone 2 mature follicles - BFN
February 2013 IUI #2 (1.3 Mil post wash) Clomid 50mg, TI & Progesterone 4 mature follicles - BFN
March 2013 IUI #1-3 (2.5 mil post wash) Clomid 50mg, Baby Aspirin (lining thinned) TI & Progesterone - 2 mature follicles BFN
April 2013 Benched due to cyst, May 2013 WTF appointment
June 2013 DH SA mild MFI break for 2 months to re-test; August 2013 - DH SA 36 Mil count, 36% Motility, Morp 2%
September - December 2013 - Mental sanity Break
January 2014 - IUI #4 switches to natural due to scheduling conflict Femara TI & Progesterone - 1 mature follicle - BFN
May 2014-June 2014 - DH Appointment w/ Urologist to check Bi-lateral Varicocele; 2nd opinion w/ another urologist - bi-lateral varicocele dx is slight no surgery
July 2014 DH starts clomid 25mg daily SA 53.8 Mil count, Motility 37%, Morph 3%;
September 2014 DH Repeat SA after being on clomid for 3 months 42 Mil Count, Motility 36%, Morph 2%
October 2014 Me: Hashimoto's DX, DH taken off clomid;November 2014 Me: new RE PCOS IR Diagnosis
December 2014: IUI #4 Follitism 75iu 7 days, TI, IUI & Progesterone, BFMFN
January 2015: IUI #5 Gonal-F 75iu 7 days, TI, IUI & Progesterone, Another BFMFN onto IUI #6
I would definitely call the insurance company and find out exactly how much coverage you have. Hopefully they cover everything (FX for you!) I am sure it is a difficult decision to decide between pursuing another IUI and going through IVF, however in my opinion if that is your doctor's recommendation and if you have the coverage for it I would definitely go in that direction.
I know that my insurance company will allow us to do four rounds of IVF in our lifetime. So far we have used one round that resulted in a chemical pregnancy. According to my RE's office, my insurance allows for unlimited FET. If they did not cover it we were prepared to cover it out of pocket. The financial aspect of everything plays a HUGE part in the decision making process so I would start with my insurance company before and that will aid you in making your decision. Good luck!
I would def call your insurance co and find out exactly how much you will be paying OOP. IUIs are a great way but they don't always work. I would go only, take a look at the success rates or ask your RE and go from there.
I would def talk to your hubby though sounds like he is having a rough time with all this and don't forget that men digest all of this differently than women. My DH has always been a wonderful money manager, so he would go directly to the funds first its just the way it works but he is prob upset too! Make sure you talk to him get on the same page! Good luck!
That's kind of a d!ck thing to say, quite honestly, IMO. You keep going because that's what you have to do - whether it be moving forward to have a baby or making another plan. You don't get to just throw your hands up and quit. And IVF is a huge decision, even when there is coverage, so it's not as easy as just saying "I'd be doing it if that's what my doc recommends."
OP, I would definitely call your insurance provider and find out exactly what their IVF coverage is. It could be a dollar amount, a number of cycles, drugs included, drugs excluded, etc. There's no way we could possibly tell you what your coverage is.
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7DPO Progesterone: low. CD3 BW: normal, HSG: clear
DX: severe MFI (low all 3) and low T. Undergoing replacement therapy.
*Me 28 Husband 31
*TTC since 10/2009
*10/2010Tried 1 cycle of clomid 50mg with no results
*12/2010 On break due to needing a new OB and money reasons
5/5/12 Underwent exploratory surgery and had tubes blown out- no issues found
5/5/12 DH had SA and numbers look great
7/2102 50mg dose of clomid with ovulation and timed sex no results
8/12 Clomid cylce #3- no success
8/30 Went to see RE and we have decided to move onto IUI attempts
10/18 IUI#1 BFN and cyst developed so on hold
11/17 IUI cycle #2 BFN
IUI #3,4,5,6 =BFN
First round of IVF- 2 fresh transfered Beta=20, 37 than ended in M/C- Will do frozen transfer in Sept!
FX that your insurance coverage for IVF is good, and good luck talking things through with DH. Sounds like you are moving in the right direction!
Its a big decision, I'll be thinking of you... (((HUGS)))
I agree with BP here. Moving to IVF is a huge decision, for both emotions and finances. It brings up all kinds of dilemma's you wouldn't ever imagine having to think about (will you freeze embryos? what happens to any frozen embryo's if one or both of you die?). Every day and every shot can be an emotional rollercoaster. IMO, it's not a flippant, just do it because someone tells me to, kind of decision.
TTC #1 since February 2011
Me: 29 (3/5/13- high NK cells) DH: 28 (5/8/12- MFI low morph and motility)
Cycle #21 (IUI#1), Cycle #22 (HSG 9/21/12) and Cycle #23 (IUI#2)=
Cycle #24- December Snow Bunny IVF #1
ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies
Bleeding and low betas=very cautious C/P 5W3D
Cycle #26 March Lucky Duck- FET #1
scheduled 3/20/13- CANCELLED- lining issues
Cycle #27 May Emerald- FET #1.2
delayed- Starting Trental for 3 months + natural cycles Cycle #28-30=
Cycle #31 August Shooting Star- FET #1.3
transferred 1 hatching blast 8/21/13= Betas 8/30 (108) and 9/3 (565)
U/S 9/19/13- HR is 128! U/S #2 10/4/13- HR is 174!
It's a BOY!