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EMF70 · November 2012

Hi. I've been lurking for a while and decided to finally join in. I am a 42 y.o. PGAL I'll be 43 when I deliver, assuming I can sustain the pregnancy. I had a miscarriage in July at about 7 weeks and conceived again in Setember.

With the first pregancy, I was scared but excited. This time around, I'm very disconnected from the pregnancy because I know what can happen, particualy at my age. I hope I'll be able to connect with the LO. I already have depression and anxiety issues that I'm dealing with. I don't want to deprive the LO of my full attention and love while its developing.

My therapist says I may feel this way until delivery which, of course, causes me more anxiety.

What can I do to connect with my LO in light of my history of anxiety, particularly now since I had to stop taking my anti-anxiety pills when I found out I was pregnant?

Thanks

kiki1978 · November 2012

First of all, why did you have to stop taking your anti-anxiety pills? I was on Paxil so my OB switched me to Zoloft. She told me that in some instances it's better to take a safer anti-anxiety pill then to have the constant anxiety. I wonder if you could take something as well? That might help you connect with your LO.

EMF70 · November 2012

I'm currently taking Zoloft and Wellubutrin which I will take through the delivery. I'm also on a safe "anti-anxiety" medicine, Buspar. But the medication that helped me the most is a diazepam. I took it 3 times a day and was on a very high dosage. When she put me on the diazepam, she told me I'd have to safely ween myself from it if I ever got pregnant because of the risk to the fetus. The Buspar doesn't help at all so I'm a bit desperate. I have an appointment coming up next we so hopeful she can recommend something.