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I don't understand new moms don't have 30 minutes for themselves? Or is that an exaggeration? Babies do sleep! I know I have alot to learn and don't have much experience with babies... I just can't imagine not having 30 minutes for myself a day, I guess I am in for alot of change!
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It's really not that much of an exaggeration. When they sleep you either sleep or do other stuff that need to get done. Laundry, dishes, vacuuming, bathrooms, sweeping, etc. The moments where I felt like I had my me time was when she was attached to the boob and I was in front of the tv or had a book.
It also depends on how helpful your DH is and whether or not you are a SAHM. I was back to work at 7 weeks PP. So throw 10 hours a day away that you would have to clean, cook, nap, etc.
It's hard but worth it and it gets easier as they get older. In some ways. In other ways it gets way harder. The newborn stage is very hard. Hell, every stage is hard. But worth it.
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They obviously have time to bump....
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I should also say that until very very recently I would cry out for me time to DH. We would have fights because the strain built up in me so much. There were times I just couldn't take it and I broke down and sobbed because I didn't have time to myself. You CRAVE alone time. Even the boob time starts to get to you because even though they are easy at that moment the fact that you HAVE to do what you are doing is hard.
Go on dates. Get a sitter. You aren't a bad mom for leaving your two month old for a few hours with a sitter. Ask for your alone time. It saves your sanity.
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Yeah because it's so hard to type when you have a baby on your boob.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
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Yes, but especially if you are nursing, you have a lot of time attached to a baby. Bumping or reading on my phone was a lifesaver.
Its really hard to find time for yourself in the beginning. I hate to say it but you don't understand it until you are experiencing it. There were some days that just showering, going to the restroom and finding time to feed myself were accomplishments.
Your baby is constantly nursing, pooping and peeing (think 10-14 wets/dirties diapers a day or more depending on the baby). Its a gauntlet.
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. I'm LOL. Couldn't bumping be seen as "taking some time" for yourself anyway? Or are new moms not allowed entertainment at all?
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I remember feeling that way. You have a little person stuck to you 24/7, especially if you BF. My DD also cried whenever I set her down (and I know some readers are probably side-eying that, but letting your newborn wail is a lot easier said than done when you know if you just hold/rock them they will stop.)
But I adjusted in time and learned to do things like wear the baby in a front pack so I could tidy up the house or get myself lunch going. If you're lucky your baby will nap easily in a bassinet/crib and for a few hours at a time. But not all do, and of course you're wanting/needing to catch up on sleep when baby does since you're up all.dang.night. breastfeeding, changing diapers, and rocking baby to sleep the first few months.
Phew! Can you tell I'm not super excited for the newborn thing again? It does go by fast, though! And I highly recommend getting out of the house alone at least once a week for a few hours. And walks with baby out in the fresh air are great for your sanity. I'm excited to have a summer baby so we can get out of the house easily.
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It's hard in the beginning! Especially if you have a high maintenance baby like I did. My son would literally cry all day and wasn't much of a sleeper during the day either. I had to shower with him in his bouncer on the bathroom floor. But after the first three months it got a lot easier. He would go to bed early and that was also helpful in giving me a chance to "regroup".
It's part of parenthood and you will adapt. It's not like you won't want to be around your child so its not hard to get used to.
This. LOL !
I think the OP on 0-3 was considering time ALONE which I am pretty sure I never was for about the first 6 months. Then it got a lot easier to take time alone.
And I would not trade those months for anything...but it was hard and I never was alone.
This. It's not that they don't give you 30 minutes, it's that you have to fill it doing things like cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc! I now have a 6 yr old and 5 yr old and it's much better but now I also have other things to fill the gaps, like homework, extra curricular s, etc. but it's so totally worth it we are starting over with baby number 3!!
When your breast feeding there's nothing else to do! I had a high-maintenance baby that wanted me to hold him 24/7 so I really enjoyed nursing because I got a break.
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You get bored while feeding and if you do have a high maintenance baby you spend a lot of time just holding and rocking.
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This. I had a really tough time adjusting at first and I had some baby blues for the first month or so. Suddenly this little person was attached to me 24/7 and I was pretty bitter that DH could go to work and do simple things by himself...like shower and pee without feeling super stressed about LO needing something all the time. But after LO gets into a schedule, you start to adjust to this total life change. Now I love it and can't wait for this next little girl or boy to join our family. Also DH is more confident in his ability as a daddy, which I think helps since he's more willing to take an active role.
Sounds pretty accurate. When I had my first, he cried the first 12 weeks of his life unless he was nursing or I was wearing him. For the 1st 6 months he would only nap while I nursed him. I was wiped out. I was so amazed how much more time I had to myself when my 2nd was born because she was so laid back and at that point my older baby was taking a 3 hour nap in the middle of the day.
One of the things I realized pretty early on was that I needed me time fairly regularly. I take "time off" about once every other week. DH is amazing about it and knows I am a better mom for it. Early on with each baby the time off was short because of nursing, but now I can take off for a few hours (occasionally a whole day) and just enjoy myself.
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It depends on the baby - if you have a colicky, fussy, high needs baby then yes- you don't have time for yourself.
If you have a low maintenance, issue free baby (Rare) then you have time. My son takes up more of my time now as a toddler then he did as an infant, but I realize I was one of the more lucky ones.
lol, so true