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KJsbabeKJsbabe member
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I'm starting to fill out DD's baby book (I'm behind, I know!) and I really hate the question "What was your first reaction to becoming pregnant?" If I were to answer this truthfully it would be "Terrified! And 100% sure I was going to MC". I know that's a normal PgAL reaction, but I don't want Lexi to read this years from now and think that I didn't want her or that I didn't have any faith that we'd get to keep her. At the same time, though, I don't want to lie and say something fake like "Totally stoked!" In hind sight, I feel guilty for have such a bad reaction. 

The question "How did you tell daddy the big news?" is equally bad. I told DH "I'm pregnant again, but don't get your hopes up because I think I'm MCing already". I know our TTC and pregnancy journey is what it is, and DH and I are both stronger and better people for it, but I just wish I had a better, or at least happier, answer to these questions. I feel like DD's book should be all puppies and rainbows and I'm sad that I didn't have a more "squee" reaction. 
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BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
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  • CnAnACnAnA member
    Understood. I have left that question blank for now too. I think I'm going to put something like "excited and scared" I think. As far as husband's reaction, Maybe "disbelief" or "shocked and overwhelmed."

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  • WearingRedWearingRed member
    So I just thought of an answer for the ages. "i'll tell you when you start trying for kids" then have what you really would answer written down with explainations of why you felt that way somewhere else to hand over when she gets old enough. This way you will be true to how you fell and your full journey to have her and she will know how hard you tried for her and she will be old enough to understand that life isn't always easy.

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  • gilmoregirl105gilmoregirl105

    For dd's book, I wrote that we were so shocked and excited since we had been trying to get pregnant for about a year and a half.  

    I did not add how our reaction once the news sank in was us fearing I would have another m/c, so we did not get our hopes up.

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  • Ladiebug710Ladiebug710 member
    Mine is still blank too!  I can't decide whether to write excited and scared or just hopeful.

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  • KJsbabeKJsbabe member

    imageWearingRed:
    So I just thought of an answer for the ages. "i'll tell you when you start trying for kids" then have what you really would answer written down with explainations of why you felt that way somewhere else to hand over when she gets old enough. This way you will be true to how you fell and your full journey to have her and she will know how hard you tried for her and she will be old enough to understand that life isn't always easy.

    I like this a lot! Wonderful idea! Thank you!!

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    BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11
    BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12
    BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
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    imageKJsbabe:

    imageWearingRed:
    So I just thought of an answer for the ages. "i'll tell you when you start trying for kids" then have what you really would answer written down with explainations of why you felt that way somewhere else to hand over when she gets old enough. This way you will be true to how you fell and your full journey to have her and she will know how hard you tried for her and she will be old enough to understand that life isn't always easy.

    I like this a lot! Wonderful idea! Thank you!!

    Really great answer! I think she'll probably really appreciate your candor, too, once she's mature enough. 

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