I'm too scared...anyone else?

DemoDoll · November 2012

I'm just too scared to put DD in her crib. She is almost 4 months and I've heard that 4 months is a good time to get them into their crib so they don't form bad habits of sleeping in a RnP, bed sharing, etc.

DD has been rolling for a couple weeks now and I'm scared she will roll and then get too tired to roll back over and suffocate. Am I being paranoid? Sometimes she gets her arm stuck after she rolls over and puts her head into the blanket and cries.

We tried doing the crib tonight and she instantly wakes up and screams. She is fine in the RnP though. Maybe she's not ready for the crib? Also, she's sick so she's extra needy...maybe this is the wrong time to try?

What are everyone else's crib plans?

mindymaske · November 2012

sadly, I think that my LO is going to sleep in the RNP until she starts school Wink

Cheerilee · November 2012

I'm having DD sleep in our room until she's 6 months old. For now, she only sleeps if she's touching me. My plan is to get her into the co sleeper or RnP. So far, she'll do 2 short naps on the floor or in her RnP. I finally got her to sleep and swaddled. I'm about to try to put her in the RnP to see if she'll sleep... She's slept less than an hour and a half since 5am and I need sleep!

DemoDoll · November 2012

Is it true that SIDS is less likely to happen if baby is in the same room as you so they can hear you breathing? I read/heard that and it's the main reason I want her to sleep in our room until she is 6 months. I'd rather have an alive baby with bad sleeping habits.

Every time I try to put her in the crib I'm scared it's the last time I'll see her alive...ugh...I'm so morbid.

thepretzelchick · November 2012

He spent the night for the first time in his crib last night. He slept three hours, woke up to eat, finally went back to sleep two hours later, woke up an hour later and decided to eat again since it'd been three hours, then fell asleep in his RnP when I set him down so I could go pee. I didn't have the heart to move him and he slept 4 more hours in his RnP.

My plan is to get him used to his crib little by little. He naps in there in the afternoon since he only sleeps an hour at a time in the afternoon anyway. I also set him in there when I'm folding clothes or whatnot during the day in his room. I don't want his crib to seem like some foreign place where Mommy leaves him at night. I'd think that after 9 months in the womb and almost 4 months by my side at night, sleeping in his crib in his room alone is probably really scary, but I'm hoping that if he becomes better acquainted during the day, especially with me in there half the time, it'll be easier when we completely transition out of the RnP.

Nighttime is going to be hard because I know he'll probably be a belly sleeper, I'm too paranoid to let him belly sleep yet, and he hates being on his back or side without the swaddled feeling of the RnP. I've discovered that it's not the incline but the enclosed-ness of the RnP that he misses when he sleeps in his crib.

As for your LO, since she's sick, I'd hold off at the moment. She needs sleep and Mommy more than anything else right now.

DemoDoll · November 2012

Bluenoser4ever:
DemoDoll:

Is it true that SIDS is less likely to happen if baby is in the same room as you so they can hear you breathing? I read/heard that and it's the main reason I want her to sleep in our room until she is 6 months. I'd rather have an alive baby with bad sleeping habits.

Every time I try to put her in the crib I'm scared it's the last time I'll see her alive...ugh...I'm so morbid.

That's what I've heard and I've thought the same morbid thoughts you have. It doesn't help that my older brother passed away when he was 6 months old (not from SIDS). I'm so paranoid/worried.

I'm so sorry to hear that, my heart breaks for families that lose infants...it's got to be the hardest thing to go through.

Maizey06 · November 2012

mindymaske:
sadly, I think that my LO is going to sleep in the RNP until she starts school

Agree. I need to start my campaign to Fisher Price to make bigger ones

ImRonBurgundy69 · November 2012

Ron Burgundy doesn't get scared

punkrockabye · November 2012

DemoDoll:
Every time I try to put her in the crib I'm scared it's the last time I'll see her alive...ugh...I'm so morbid.

I'm right there with you. My fear might have lessened a bit, but I still can't do the crib. And the crib is right next to my side of the bed. Like, I barely have room to stand between the crib and bed.

DemoDoll · November 2012

ImRonBurgundy69:
Ron Burgundy doesn't get scared

What a dumb axe thing to hijack a post about real parent concerns , GTFO!!!

Tash13 · November 2012

mindymaske:
sadly, I think that my LO is going to sleep in the RNP until she starts school

Yep. Mine will be taking hers to college.

Tash13 · November 2012

I also don't have her crib or anywhere to put it until we finally get out of my parents house. Once we do that, she'll stay in her crib in our room until she sleeps through the night consistently.

Maizey06 · November 2012

We did start the transition this week because our pediatrician recommend we get her out of the RnP for her nigts by 4 months. DD goes down at 7pm so DH and I check on her at least 20 times before we go to bed.

DD is used to sleeping in the RnP so I have made a few adjustments to the crib based on posts on this board which then makes me a little more nervous. I hate to admit this but I have been sleeping in DD's room since she was born but I am still paranoid about SIDS. I feel so much better with her in the RnP.

klp28 · November 2012

I'm also too nervous to put DS in how crib. He sleeps in the PNP in our room now. Oddly enough, I wasn't nervous to put DD in her crib and she did great when we transitioned her at 2 months.

I'm also nervous that DS's night time fussing might wake up DD. That would be nightmarish.

OP, I wouldn't move her while she's sick.

rp-chicago-mom · November 2012

Like Bluenoser I'm waiting out the highest SIDS risk. I also like having him near. I'm going to try to go a year.

Manda-Kay · November 2012

We've been doing a sidecar for a few weeks now. I'm paranoid to put DS in his own room. That and he stopped STTN when we stopped bedsharing so it's easier still having him close to pop the paci back in his mouth when he wakes up.

bigbootyjudi · November 2012

We're not doing the crib until 6 months.That is when the AAP recommends and I read in one of our Parenting magazines that the risk of SIDS peaks between 4 and 6 months. I'm in no rush to put him in his crib. It's easier with him in our room, TBH, and he sleeps really well.

JayandEmm · November 2012

We're not doing the crib until he's ready. Right now he won't go to sleep or stay asleep unless I'm near him. All babies are different, some are ready to sleep on their own at a few weeks old, others not until a year old.

Babies are meant to be close to their mothers, that's the way nature made them.

JAO2011 · November 2012

We have the crib in our room so DD has slept there since day one. However, we have the Angelcare monitor. Without that, I would never sleep at all. I am so paranoid about SIDS.

krissi813 · November 2012

DemoDoll:
Is it true that SIDS is less likely to happen if baby is in the same room as you so they can hear you breathing? I read/heard that and it's the main reason I want her to sleep in our room until she is 6 months. I'd rather have an alive baby with bad sleeping habits.
Every time I try to put her in the crib I'm scared it's the last time I'll see her alive...ugh...I'm so morbid.

I'm terrified whenever I put LO down period. It's horrible. We co-sleep and I am in no way ready to transition DS. I love being close to him at night. Also, DS is not even close to STTN and I refuse to have to go back and forth to his room. I need sleep too. He also hates to sleep on flat surfaces so I really don't think he would do well in the crib.

mollyxcate · November 2012

She will only nap in her crib until she is 6 months old and I'm confident in her ability to roll over both ways and lift her head. My pedi stressed sleeping during the night next to me until she is 6 months old and I am okay with that.

mollyxcate · November 2012

DemoDoll:
Is it true that SIDS is less likely to happen if baby is in the same room as you so they can hear you breathing? I read/heard that and it's the main reason I want her to sleep in our room until she is 6 months. I'd rather have an alive baby with bad sleeping habits.
Every time I try to put her in the crib I'm scared it's the last time I'll see her alive...ugh...I'm so morbid.

This is how I feel every night, crib or not.

CoUnTryBB1 · November 2012

I find myself always checking on her when she is sound asleep, especially if she has been sleeping for a while so you are not alone.

She sleeps in the PNP for now but we try to put her down for naps in her crib so she can get used to it. I am actually the only one who puts her in her crib though so this may take longer than I planned since SO won't even try.

nicnac817 · November 2012

We transitioned DD to the crib at 5 weeks. Between DF talking is his sleep, the dogs shaking their head in the middle of the night and DD chatting it up in her sleep I never slept longer than 30 min at a time. Honestly if you let you head get carried away you'll never move her to her room. It's a process just like everything else... just do a little at a time.

byrne15 · November 2012

I don't have any plans of moving him to his crib.

I moved ds#1 at 11 weeks, but I just don't want ds#2 to go!

AggieDaner · November 2012

anbeck4:
We're not doing the crib until 6 months.That is when the AAP recommends and I read in one of our Parenting magazines that the risk of SIDS peaks between 4 and 6 months. I'm in no rush to put him in his crib. It's easier with him in our room, TBH, and he sleeps really well.

Just FYI, it peaks between 2 to 4 months, not 4 to 6.

I have the same horrible thoughts and it sucks. She's not leaving our room until at least 6 months, I just can't do it before then.

Andreabks · November 2012

we started with one nap a day in the crib a couple of weeks ago, then more as we got closer to all the family in town for the Thanksgiving holiday. DH goes back to work next week so I decided now might be a good time to do all night in her crib too since we have a monitor at last.

looks like she was ready for her crib because she's not had any issues sleeping in there. granted i have a divider so the crib is only half as big for her (read somewhere that they don't like the big open space right off.).

MeredithML · November 2012

Can you sleep on the floor in her room during the transition?? That way she gets used to the crib but you are also right there. That's what I did. And yes, sleeping on an air matures was uncomfortable. It was well worth it. DS has been in his crib since 3 weeks. However that is more because of our sleeping habits like having the tv on and DH snoring too loudly.

Ladiebug710 · November 2012

I started in the crib at 3 weeks. Before that he was sleeping in the swing or in the recliner if we fell asleep together. It was hard but I'm glad we did it early, I think the longer you wait the harder it gets.

hooslisa · November 2012

Bluenoser4ever:

I briefly brought it up when I was talking to my mom the other day and told her that now that I have a child, I can understand a bit better as to what she must have gone through. My mm/c was bad enough- I couldn't imagine losing an infant/child.

i could have written this myself. my mom also lost her oldest child at around 2.5 months (from trisomy, not SIDS). after 3 decades, she still can't talk about it without crying. my mom is a drama queen to begin with, so i growing up i always felt like she should do a better job of moving on. now that i have my own daughter, i just cannot comprehend what this must have put her through. i don't know how you ever recover. ever.

hooslisa · November 2012

No, to answer your question, I'm not scared about SIDS, but the thought of not having her right by me is enough to send me into a fit of tears. i would feel very, very alone if she was in the next room. i know i need to get over this, but i'm not ready yet. my husband told me it was enough to get used to sending her to daycare this month. having her sleep in her own room can wait until next month (which is tomorrow. gulp.) or the next

xxbabycakesxx · November 2012

I hven't read the other posts but I would wait until shes healthy to try to switch her to a crib. This could be very overwhelming for her so I'd recommend waiting.

I've had both LOs in their cribs since the beginning. We also use an angel care monitor. Would that calm your fears?

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