Thank you card etiquette

Kaeldrasmommy · November 2012

I'm done with all of the thank you's for LO's birthday....Just in time to mail them with the Christmas cards! Would it be against all the rules to spare myself some stamps and just pop them in with the Christmas cards?

RedCamaro · November 2012

Officially yes it's aginst the rules. But I would do it and I don't think anyone on my Christmas card list would mind either.

lkm2006 · November 2012

As nice as it sounds to save the stamps, I wouldn't.

Last year sucked because I sent out thank you cards for baby, birth announcements, Christmas cards and then thank you cards for Christmas all within two months. Not fun but I felt like each deserved it's own.. it that makes any sense.

mben1119 · November 2012

I was thinking the same thing, but decided against it. I'm just going to buy 2 books of stamps instead of one.

gracefulruby33 · November 2012

Yeah, separate, even though I'm in the same boat and no one would really care.

mama&baby · November 2012

gracefulruby33:
Yeah, separate, even though I'm in the same boat and no one would really care.

Yup... kinda stinks. I got LO's christmas cards in yesterday and thought to myself... what if I hand them out at LO's birthday party tomorrow? Then I thought that would likely be the tackiest thing ever even though most of the recipients would be at the party

shabamwam · November 2012

I wasnt planning on sending thank you cards for DS' birthday gifts. Would this mean every year you guys are sending thank you cards after LO's birthdays? Ugh.

gracefulruby33 · November 2012

shabamwam:
I wasnt planning on sending thank you cards for DS' birthday gifts. Would this mean every year you guys are sending thank you cards after LO's birthdays? Ugh.

Yep. Until she can write them herself. :-)

RedCamaro · November 2012

gracefulruby33:

shabamwam:
I wasnt planning on sending thank you cards for DS' birthday gifts. Would this mean every year you guys are sending thank you cards after LO's birthdays? Ugh.

Yep. Until she can write them herself. :-)

Pretty much! This is really the only time where I sit down and hand write something. If I didn't do it, I'd never have nice handwriting.

Kaeldrasmommy · November 2012

gracefulruby33:

shabamwam:
I wasnt planning on sending thank you cards for DS' birthday gifts. Would this mean every year you guys are sending thank you cards after LO's birthdays? Ugh.

Yep. Until she can write them herself. :-)

Uh huh. I think it's important she learn to appreciate things and respond properly. Although I may not be so particular about how she gets them where they are going.

jb2rn · December 2012

I would mail separatley

Natty13umppo · December 2012

gracefulruby33:
shabamwam:
I wasnt planning on sending thank you cards for DS' birthday gifts. Would this mean every year you guys are sending thank you cards after LO's birthdays? Ugh.
Yep. Until she can write them herself. :-)

Yep on the writing thank you notes for DD...for birthdays AND Christmas coming up. I don't know how other people write them, but at this point, I don't even pretend that they are from her. I write them expressing my appreciation for the gift and thinking of DD, etc. At some point I'll have DD scribble her name or something. And eventually, yes, DD will be in charge of writing the notes.

Side Rant: I went to a party last year for a friend's two year old. Gifts weren't opened at the party (or I left before they were) so I didn't even get a verbal thank you at the party. I never got a thank you note (or any acknowledgement of the gift). So while I know at this age it's not the kid's fault, I'm still thinking about not going to the party this year so I don't have to get another gift that's apparently not appreciated. (This mom also didn't send thank yous for her shower presents which I was also POed about.) Anyway....rant over... *I* care about thank you notes. And I think those are one of the things it is always better to err on the side of sending than not sending. Okay. Rant REALLY over.

OP, yeah, I would go ahead and mail them separately. Going thru a lot of stamps this time of year.....

authorofdreamz · December 2012

Natty13umppo:
Side Rant: I went to a party last year for a friend's two year old. Gifts weren't opened at the party (or I left before they were) so I didn't even get a verbal thank you at the party. I never got a thank you note (or any acknowledgement of the gift). So while I know at this age it's not the kid's fault, I'm still thinking about not going to the party this year so I don't have to get another gift that's apparently not appreciated. (This mom also didn't send thank yous for her shower presents which I was also POed about.) Anyway....rant over... *I* care about thank you notes. And I think those are one of the things it is always better to err on the side of sending than not sending. Okay. Rant REALLY over.

I have never gotten a thank you note for a kids birthday party or anything other than a wedding/shower. I have never even heard of people sending thank you's for kids birthday parties before this thread. Half the people at DD's party didn't even put their name on the present so I couldn't send thank-you's even if I wanted to. I think that's a bit ridiculous that you wouldn't go to the party just because you didn't get a thank you, pretty sure the point of going to a child's party isn't getting a thank you card.

kimeetee · December 2012

Eeps. I'm putting the thank you card in the same envelope as the Xmas card. I'm self-justifying with the rationale that it's the greener thing to do.

Props to everyone that is doing the proper way!

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