December 2012 Moms
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i feel like an ass
I work in a grocery store deli and there are only two of us that work the 12 to 9 closing shift. The other lady just called and asked me to work her shift bc her sister's husband is dying. I feel like the biggest ass for saying no but my baby shower is this evening!I told her I could work the majority of it if our boss would let me close early, since my shower is at 7. He said no, so now she has to work while a loved one passes away.
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Re: i feel like an ass
A baby shower can be rescheduled, death is a bit more permanent.
I'm honestly not sure why you posted this? Are you trying to make yourself feel better?
I don't blame you for saying no, because you have plans.
But, I think your boss is an asshat for making her come in, and he should either get coverage, or allow you to close early.
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Is there any way to split her shift up? Like, you work a good part of it (maybe noon to 6) and then a morning person work 6 to close? Either way, don't feel bad. You offered to do what you could, and it's unfortunate that your boss wasn't willing to help too (hey, could he close?).
Oh, and don't try to make her feel bad, she did nothing wrong here. It's not the other woman's husband or son that is dying, and even if it were, it's not the OP's immediate family, either and it's not as though she is going out to the movies, this is her baby shower that has been planned, room has been rented, people invited, food ordered, etc. It's similar to expecting her to cancel her wedding because her coworker's in-law is dying. It's up to the coworker to stand up for herself and tell the boss that she is not coming in.
BFP 12/19/08- DS born 8/25/09 9lbs2oz via Zavanelli Maneuver
BFP 8/26/11- Missed miscarriage discovered 10/19/11 at 11w2d, measured at 9 weeks gestation w/ no HB. D&C 10/21/11
BFP 3/17/12 at 12dpo CP 3/21/12
BFP 4/23/12 at 10dpo Stick my little one! Beta #1: 83.3 @ 13dpo Beta #2: 197.7 @ 15dpo
Our little man is getting bigger every day!
My BFP Chart
I do think it is the manager's responsibility to find another worker. I don't care if the OP works or not, but I didn't really get a sympathetic vibe about this woman who had to work. I just don't think baby shower and loss of a loved one are the same thing.
And you are right, it is a job. Which is why I think the other worker shouldn't be worrying about finding coverage during a serious family emergency.
I offered to come in and work part of it. There are only 3 in our dept. One lady opens, I close, and the other lady works both shifts to cover our 2 days off. So the day lady will have already worked a full shift today and would be on overtime to come back and close. I'm not sure why he won't just let us do that.
Yes, my wedding and baby shower were exactly the same.
I don't care if OP works or not, but I'm not sure what the point of the post was.
Don't feel bad and don't let it ruin your b. shower. If the situation was different and you were sick and couldn't come in, you wouldn't feel bad, so don't let your b. shower being tonight change how you feel about not being able to come in. It's the manger's job to find a replacement for your co-worker, that's what' he/she gets paid for, and if they can't find someone then it's THEIR job to fill in.
Go and enjoy your baby shower.
This right here is why you came across harshly, and perhaps a shower can be rescheduled, but in this case it doesn't need to be. It's not her family member who is dying.
Which I am sorry for and did already own that I reacted harshly.