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February 2012 Moms
"backdoor" sex-- TMI q
Alright, I'm gonna ask something I would NEVER put out there to my IRL friends lol
I see a lot of you ladies have commented through all our sex posts and mention, erm.. "other holes" lol FI and I have tried it a few times-- I KNOW he really wants to, and I shouldddd enjoy it because I enjoy everything else leading up to the Main Attraction. but for whatever reason I cant get past the initial Ow! Factor. We use plentyyy of lube, and start slow with tongues and fingers (lets just put it all out there, theres no sugar coating this post lol), and even though he's plenty for me 
it's not like hes HUGE or anything.
Any tips?? 
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Re: "backdoor" sex-- TMI q
I'm not shy.... LOL
So usually when we decide to do this, I have a decent buzz. It's the only way really. All I can say about how is to take it super super slow. Lube is good, so is spit, come on... I know ya'll (ya'll for bartanoid) tried the spit method. It works!! There isn't really an OW factor if it's done right and done slow. It is the most amazing O ever though!!!!
What the... what? People really do this? It's not just in pornos? Where did I miss this in other posts?!
I just can't do it. I can't. I've tried it drunk, I've tried it sober. When it comes to sex, my back door is more like a brick wall. Ain't nothin' goin' thru it.
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Agreed. I have to have a decent buzz for this going on. And the only way it's gonna happen is if I need to bribe him. So I have it planned all day in my head. After the baby is sleeping, I'll have a couple captain and cokes and attack DH...plus Jackson never sleeps through the night so on top of the "bribe" DH will also get up with him during the night
this.
My H would love you for this post...
He asks me to let him all the time, and I have tried a handfull of times, I think like 4, but I could be lying, could be 3 time, all of which times I was in the limbo of buzzed and drunk. It made me sober because it hurt so d@mn bad. I dont think my H is HUGE or anything, lets just say I have seen bigger, but maybe I just need to relax.
I am not going to lie, I am no prude in the bedroom, and I enjoy a finger or two when I am in the moment, and his finger helps me climax, it takes ALOT for me to reach my O.
So besides booze and lube, and having the remote from being on top.. any other suggestions?
::::: runs to google such stretch toy ::::::
Buy this.
(https://www.adameve.com/sex-lubes/anal-sex-lubes/sp-adam-eve-anal-easy-3374.aspx)
It will change anal for you forever.
Thank you Maam
Its FI's bday next week, I know what I'm getting himmmm! lol
Hahahahaha!! Okay now I want to be there when his mom asks you what you got him for his bday!
haha is it wrong that his sister is a sales rep for adult stores and is the one who gives me to hookup??
omg! That is scary and ridiculous! I'll remember that one.. jeez.
Hahaha! Seriously, I hated it and honestly it's still not my favorite thing, but this makes it 100 time more bearable than before! It's like an epi for your @$$.. You still have the pressure but no pain.
1. Get drunk
2. Relax
3. Don't go too slow either. Honesty in my opinion, it's better to be at a consistent speed, even if it's not fast, than to be going too slow.
That being said, I'm still not really a fan, this is just how I get through it :-P
thought of two more:
4. don't think about it
5. do it in the spooning position
yeah, I am joining this bandwagon. Am I the only one who wouldn't do something in the bedroom department that I really really don't enjoy? Dh would never ask me to, either.
I would actually recommend against this. The active ingredient is Benzocaine, which is numbing. The thing is, it masks pain, which is something you don't want because you might not catch when something has gone (or is about to go) wrong. And you really don't want anything going wrong.
Take things slow. Get some toys to ramp you up with what you can take over time. Thicker lube, and preferably not one that's water based. Silicone based ones are great so long as you are not using silicone toys.
I also find that spending some very slow, minor thrust time in between the two sphincters is good. Generally it works best with very shallow entry, then the vibrator goes on, small thrusting, and then when you get fully aroused again, try to take more. Also, counterintuitive though it might seem, try to push him out rhythmically.
I agree with this. I did pleasure parties for years and I always recommended against this because I had a few people have very bad next day experiences with numbing. You want to feel so you can say when it is too much and readjust.
Hmm.. It numbs it for me, but I can still feel what's going on. Like, if DH gets too rough I can still tell him to stop, slow down or adjust. Maybe it's because I did it without and know what to expect? I never thought of using it being bad. Oops.
It's not "bad" it just can have bad results if you get too numb. Also if the guy doesn't know to still be super gentle regardless of the numbing!
YES! I wanted to say this but was thinking, surely they have considered this???