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February 2012 Moms
Bella61811
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Wonder Weeks leap help..
Bella61811
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Did anyone read the recommendations from Wonder Weeks on how to help our LO?s through the current Sequences leap? It basically says to give the baby what they want/need for comfort. Well my problem with Audra during this leap is she is SUPER clingy to me and her DCP only. She doesn?t want DH to hold her at all. She instantly reaches for me. This is cute but annoying at the same time. The thing I?m really concerned with is her sleep habits at night. She will sleep in her crib once going down for 2-3 hours and then will wake up constantly (every 10ish mins) and automatically pull herself up on the side of the crib by the door (she?s smart and knows that?s where we come in). This cycle repeats for an hour tops until I give up and bring her in bed with me because I cannot get up every 10 minutes. According to Wonder Weeks, I am supposed to give in to her. Can this be seriously accurate?! I don?t want to get her in the habit of sleeping with me but I can?t just leave her there standing to cry, can I? She doesn?t know how to get down yet and ultimately ends up knocking the camera from her monitor over.
I am at such a loss on what to do because Wonder Weeks confuses me by saying to do whatever it takes to get her through this leap. Help! WWYD or is anyone going through anything similar?
BFP #1 6-8-11 EDD 2-19-12. DD born 2-3-12 via induction due to pre-e.
BFP #2 9-7-13 EDD 5-22-14. It's a GIRL! DD#2 is on her way.
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Re: Wonder Weeks leap help..
I have heard of Wonder Weeks, but haven't really done much research about it. My only advice is from when Austin started pulling up in his crib. It was a nightmare! He would do the same thing- pull up and wait for us at the edge by the door. I went in a few nights and then just stopped. After a night or two he was fine and stopped.
As far as the clingyness goes- Austin can be like that too. I think it's just phases and there really isn't anything that can be done. Good luck!
I just carry on as normal.
This... I rarely go by what literature, apps, etc. say. I go with what works best for us.
What's up with the font?
I've never heard of Wonder Weeks or Leaps, but I personally wouldn't agree with any theory that says to change your routine or expectations. I mean, we obviously need to have flexibility in our routines and expectations - especially when they're sick or teething or whatever - but I think it's best to stay consistent and try to keep things as normal as possible. Your LO needs to sleep, so I don't agree with giving in to her demands not to sleep. I think they're also at an age where it's easy to form bad habits. Let's say you bring her in your bed now because she's going through a "leap" (what the heck is that, anyway? she's going to hit a milestone? teething?) - how do you know when the leap is over? When you try to make her stay in her crib after the leap is over, she's going to cry and do the same thing, so how do you know if she's just developed a habit that you need to break or if she's going through another "leap"? And I've done zero research on this philosophy, but if it names certain weeks and being important weeks I wouldn't buy into that at all. As we've seen on this board, kids do things at all different times.
My thought process is that our kids are little and are changing and growing every day. I saw a tooth in Olivia last night that I didn't even know was coming in! They were super fussy the last few days but I know they're working hard at walking (Natalia took a step for us last night! And they've both taken steps at daycare). For the near future there won't be a time when they're not going through something, whether it be teething, working on a milestone, growing, etc. So I personally feel it's best to have a consistent routine and try to stick to it as much as possible.
It's a fast development growth period not the flu. If I stopped to coddle my LO everytime she made a fuss over something just because she never made a fuss before I'd get nothing done.
I do like to hear about these "leaps" because I can know what to expect or know why she is doing it. I don't follow the tips.
She has started to be a little more verbal ( high pitched whines) with certain transitions. like from my arms to high chair, my arms to the floor, my arms to the car seat, my arms to the crib. Or when I take something away. When she does this I just keep doing what Im doing and hand her something to distracter or just join in on her pitty party but then explain we have to go do so and so.. like, " oohh I know we ride in the car forty times day but John and Anna can't walk home from school." Then buckle her up and give her some toys.. life goes on. The last thing I want to do is " give in" and keep holding her.
I typed my post out in my work e-mail and then copy and pasted-haha. I didn't know it would keep the same font. I guess I never thought of it like you have written it out saying that in the future there won't be a time when she's not going through something. I'm going to try not to bring her in bed with us starting tonight but it's just so hard when she's literally waking up every 10 minutes. How is one supposed to do that on a work night?!
I have the book. I'll try and look it up later and write back. I'm all for offering comfort, but pretty sure I won't be onboard with the "give them everything they want" aspect of things.
And this stuck out to me, so I wanted to say something. Is the camera for her monitor within reach of her crib and is it corded? If it can fall into the crib, it is a strangulation hazard with the cord. I'm sure you've got it under control, but it was making me itchy not to mention it - just in case.
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We did sleep training on the weekend. I would strongly recommend doing it at a time when you can catch up on sleep the next day. But what time does she go down? Let's say she goes down at 7. If she sleeps 2-3 hours, she'll be up at 9 or 10. The hardest part of sleep training for us was the initial going to sleep part, but we also had some issues with the first wake-up. It took us two days to break both of those habits (and we we did sleep training it was to bring them down to getting up just once a night to eat). I would say that there is a strong possibility that the first wake-up will be the hardest and the rest will be easier, so if that's how it works out at least your tough stuff will be at 9 or 10 instead of the middle of the night.
Of course, it could work entirely different for you.
Good point. My nephew pulled his onto his head and gave himself a nice bump - now it's mounted on the wall.
And OP, I hope you don't take my posts to mean that there should be no flexibility. Heck, Natalia woke up at 10:30 last night and I missed our cuddling and H was playing video games so I brought her into bed with me (and was rewarded with constant tossing and turning, whining, hair pulling, and smacks to the head so she was brought back to her bed by 11:30, but that's not the point!). I would just be much more inclined to go with your mother's intuition on when you think something is wrong to break routine rather then a given week or because you think she's hitting a milestone.
and this! MOVE THAT CAMERA!
Right now it kind of is where she can reach it. It's not mounted to the wall because we're moving in literally 3 weeks. In the new house it will be up on a shelf where she cannot get to it at all. Jen, I completely understand what you're saying. It has just been this past week or so where she has been waking up shortly after going down, which is normally between 7:15-8PM depending on when we can start our bedtime routine. She was sick last week with a chest/head cold so I knew that was contributing to it. She's better this week. At the initial wake up between 10-11 I can get her back down somewhat easily but it's the wake ups after that which are horrible. She will take her paci and close her eyes for a few minutes but she'll know when I stop patting her butt and back away. She immediately flips over and pulls herself up looking for me. This happened literally every 5-10 minutes for an hour last night until I gave up and took her in with me. It's just very exhausting. Before she got sick she was doing well and only waking up 1-2 times.
My advice is this:
DD just went through the leap earlier this week. I followed the advice, she got over it within 48 hours. Her sleep is back to normal now. My perspective is help her get past it by doing what she needs to obtain a sense of security and stability, and then it will be that much faster to go back to normal and work on those previous things you were working on developing with LO.