So my BFF since Middle School is a fertile. She has 4 kids, all unplanned, has complained about getting KU each time and her unsupportive SO. I've been there for her through all of it!!! Lately she has taken to complaining about her fussy baby and how her SO doesn't help her out, etc. etc. I finally had to tell her that it upsets me when she complains about her baby... rational or not... it upsets me so please don't.
She went off on me!!! Telling me its impossible to talk to me any more because everything upsets me! Oh, and we "both know she can't magically make my pregnant so what do I expect her to do".
This is my BFF! She never asks me about my IF or whats going on, but I'm suppose to listen to her whine about her family?? UGGGHHHHH!!!
Thanks for letting me vent!
Me: 34 - Hydrosalpinx
DH: 33
Previous history
IUI switched to TI x6 = BFN
IUI x2 = BFN
Essure procedure for hydro
New starts
*Possibly starting clomid in Sept or Oct
Re: As if IF isn't bad enough.. stress on friendships (kids mentioned)
I am so sorry.
I find as I get older my friendships change-- especially friends that I have had since I was young- because over time we all change as people. Some friends that I was really close with, I just can't be anymore because we have just grown so much apart. Others who I used to only be casual friends with have developed into some of my best friends.
I am not saying not to be friends with your BFF anymore, I am just saying that maybe this is an example of you two growing apart a little bit (or maybe her not growing enough--sry but she sounds a little immature)...I really don't know. It is just my two cents, but again, I am just so sorry you had to hear those words from someone
TTC since 10/2010 (Rhythm method since 2007)
September 2014 DX Hashimoto's; November 2014: PCOS IR
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DH (37) Sept 2012 SA Normal; October 2014 Mild MFI count 42 Million, Motility 36%, Morphology 2%. Clomid 50mg,
2004 Cyrosurgery, LEEP
July 2012 - October 2012 - Clomid 50mg W/ TI & Progesterone 3 mature follicles- BFN
January 2013 IUI #1 (900,000 post wash) Clomid 50mg, TI & Progesterone 2 mature follicles - BFN
February 2013 IUI #2 (1.3 Mil post wash) Clomid 50mg, TI & Progesterone 4 mature follicles - BFN
March 2013 IUI #1-3 (2.5 mil post wash) Clomid 50mg, Baby Aspirin (lining thinned) TI & Progesterone - 2 mature follicles BFN
April 2013 Benched due to cyst, May 2013 WTF appointment
June 2013 DH SA mild MFI break for 2 months to re-test; August 2013 - DH SA 36 Mil count, 36% Motility, Morp 2%
September - December 2013 - Mental sanity Break
January 2014 - IUI #4 switches to natural due to scheduling conflict Femara TI & Progesterone - 1 mature follicle - BFN
May 2014-June 2014 - DH Appointment w/ Urologist to check Bi-lateral Varicocele; 2nd opinion w/ another urologist - bi-lateral varicocele dx is slight no surgery
July 2014 DH starts clomid 25mg daily SA 53.8 Mil count, Motility 37%, Morph 3%;
September 2014 DH Repeat SA after being on clomid for 3 months 42 Mil Count, Motility 36%, Morph 2%
October 2014 Me: Hashimoto's DX, DH taken off clomid;November 2014 Me: new RE PCOS IR Diagnosis
December 2014: IUI #4 Follitism 75iu 7 days, TI, IUI & Progesterone, BFMFN
January 2015: IUI #5 Gonal-F 75iu 7 days, TI, IUI & Progesterone, Another BFMFN onto IUI #6
Im so sorry you have to go through that. I went through something similar a few months ago w my BFF from kindergarten. She reamed me out because I was so withdrawn & how I can't "blame the fertility meds". She also chose to tell me that she "knows how I feel" because she had a recent ectopic she chose not to tell me about and an elective abortion(she doesn't want kids). Yeah, that makes me feel so much better, thanks!
Me:29 DH:29 TTC since 1/11 Dx: unexplained IF/early DOR/immune issues
8/30IVF#1 Antagonist protocol- ER 9/11-8R, 7M, 5F.
IVF#2 Antagonist protocol plus baby aspirin- ER 12/5-16R, 12M, 8F!
ET 12/10 5dt! 1 fully expanded blast & 1 early blast. No frosties. BFN
3/13 hysteroscopy & polypectomy, Consulted w Dr. Kwak-Kim.
ER 7/19 14R, 11M, 9F(4 natural fert, 5 with ICSI)
ET 5dt 7/24 2 fully expanded blasts. SURPRISE 3 FROSTIES!!!
Beta #1 8/2 335!!!! Beta #2 829!!! 1st u/s 8/14 showed TWINS!!!!!
3/21/14-L&W born at 37w via csection
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PAIF/SAIF welcome!
Wow that is awful! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I feel like infertility has kind of caused a slight distance between my BFF and I too which is a bummer. I think it is mostly because she doesn't know what to say or how to comfort me. If people only knew that a simple, "hey how are you?" instead of trying to avoid the topic completely is actually comforting (to me anyway). All I need to know is that someone cares. Good luck with everything!