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cailinmeister
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Don't want one, getting one anyway, and need some reassurance :(
cailinmeister
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Hey folks,
Found out last week that my twins are breech/transverse, so I'm going to need a c section. I'm really scared! I hate surgery, doctors, ORs, all that jazz, and am disappointed at not getting to do a natural birth.
Does the disappointment go away? Do you really forget about it 'the second you see those babies'?
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Re: Don't want one, getting one anyway, and need some reassurance :(
Mine was unplanned after 2 days of labor. I was very, very upset, and that feeling didn't go away when I saw DS. It was awhile before I felt okay about it. I didn't have time to come to terms with it before it happened, but maybe you do.
Do as much research as you can so you can ask the right questions and hopefully have a positive experience. Example - know that you can ask the anesthesiologist to adjust the pain meds if it's making you nauseated.
Mine was unplanned. Long labor, baby was making a sloooowwww desent, then after a long ROM, I got a fever, he got tachycardic. Game over.
The sadness does go away, but it took me several months. However, that might just be me and my personality. He is most likely our only child.
It will be ok, really. Speak up, make your needs know, and ask questions. If you want your twins to BF, I suggest telling all the staff that day no bottles/paci's if they need to go to the NICU for any reason (and your dh goes with them).
I hope it all goes well, best of luck!
DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d
Yes, I was disappointed. The biggest disappointment was that I didn't get to have DD on my chest or BFing until 3 hours later. And the hospital in general was just crappy and mean to me.
I think some things that would have helped me were to be able to really ask questions and have a little "control" over what was happening. My c/s was unplanned and urgent so they didn't really give me much time to question anything.
You have some time to do some research. There are some videos on youtube about a "natural cesarean" which might interest you. It might be worth while talking to your OB about what you can do to still make the birth special even though it is surgical. Like lowering the curtain so you can see your LOs emerge if you want, still having skin to skin contact right away, taking lots of pictures, keeping conversation about outside topics to a minimum, etc.
{hugs}
I was in labor for 28 hours, pushed for 3 and he wouldn't come out
He flipped to be sunnyside up and I was too small to get him out. So we ended with an unplanned c/s. At the time, I was just relieved to finally get to see him, hear him cry for the first time and hold him. I had a great experience, got to hold him right after they wrapped him and while they were stitching me back up. So thankfully I was able to have all of that.
It wasn't until I got home a few days later that it all hit me. It has taken some time for me to get over, and even now I still have some days where I feel like I couldnt' do what I was supposed to do. I think I would have been better if I had the time ahead of it to really prepare myself, research, ask questions...etc. For me, I am just upset I never got to experience going into labor, that I had to be induced. That is my only "regret" so to speak. And that my mom didn't get to see her grandchild be born, like was planned. But he is here, healthy, happy and perfect and that is really what I try to focus on.
I agree with the PP's and figure out your questions now. Ask if you will be able to hold them right away, so to speak. Tell them that is very important to you. Some hospitals may lower the cloth a little bit so you can see them "coming out". You can ask about that too. GL and hugs!
BFP: 10/27/2011 | EDD: 6/30/12
DS born 6/28/12 via C/S
TTC #2: September 2018
Me: 36 | DH: 39
Mirena removed 9/13/2018 after 6 years
BFP 11/11/2018 | MC @ 5.5 weeks on Thanksgiving
July 2019 - Diagnosed with Secondary Unexplained IF
August 2019 - 2.5 mg of Letrozole = Never Ovulated so Trigger and IUI were cancelled
9/30/2019 - IUI #1 (5 mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFP but Betas showed CP @ 4 weeks
10/28/2019 - IUI #2 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN
11/25/2019 - IUI #3 (7.5mg of Letrozole, Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
12/24/2019 - IUI #4 (7.5mg of Letrozole + Crinone after IUI) = BFN
1/24/2020 - IUI #5 (50mg of Clomid + Trigger + Crinone after IUI) = BFN and an Ovarian Cyst
3/2/2020 - Taking a break to reset/NTNP
11/1/2020 - At peace with where things are in life and are no long actively TTC. Whatever happens will happen and it will all be okay.
IVF 1 April 2011 - Cancelled
IVF 1.5 July 2011 - MC
IVF 2 October 2011 - BFP!
*Identical Twin Boys born June 2012*
Here we go again...IVF 3 is underway!
My baby was breech and I wanted a natural birth. I found out I needed a C-section about 4 weeks before it was scheduled. I cried nearly everyday and stressed myself out trying to turn the baby. I was SO terrified of the surgery and so upset and bitter I needed a C-section.
That being said, it really wasn't that bad and recovery has gone really well. I think things go much better when it's a scheduled C-section vs, unplanned. I thought I'd never get over it, but honestly it's true - now that he is here, I don't even care that I had a C-section.
I'm sure I'll be stressed again when I get pregnant next time (now that I have to decide between RCS and VBAC), but for now I'm at peace with the fact that I needed a C-section and it was the best possible thing for me and my baby.
my experience was quite similar to the above, except I had much less notice that a c-section was imminent.
Same with me...found out baby is breech at 34 weeks and havent been able to stop thinking about it and what Im going to miss...I had a doula and a natural birth planned...
Everyone keeps telling me I wont care once I see baby and maybe thats true but I hate not having control. Im hoping perhaps next time Ill have the opp to try a VBAC.
On the other hand, I am trying to be so grateful that I can actually have a baby! I have several friends dealing with infertility and adoption and I know their hearts are breaking.
A lot of this sounds familiar. On one hand, I think about how people who can't have children, or who lost premature twins would feel. My complaints seem like nothing in comparison.
On the other hand, it is genuinely disappointing to never go into labor. It's an experience I always expected to have as a woman, ditto a vaginal birth. I've been imagining what it would be like since I was a child, and to find out just weeks before the event that it wouldn't happen was just...hard.
BFP #1 2-8-09 Natural M/C 6w1d 2-19-09
BFP #2 5-28-09 C/P 6-1-09
BFP #3 10-30-10 Natural M/C 12-8-10
BFP #4 1-16-12 EDD 9-18-12 Stick baby stick!!
I had hopes of a natural, water birth with my first. After 36 hours of labor, and a decreasing heart rate and no dilation, I was taken in for a c-section. Yes, I was upset. Yes, I still wish I could've done a vaginal birth, especially since #2 ended up as a c-section as well. But, I did get over it. I had great c-section experiences. My babies arrived healthy and safe. I carried them for 41+ weeks. My body did amazing things in that way.<br>
I know some people who have become angry because they had a c-section. Don't let it consume you. No matter how they arrive, you still did an amazing job!!
I am in the same boat as you girl. I Just found out yesterday that I have to have a c section as well. I felt terrible at first but I've been doing research and talking to the ladies here and I do feel a lot better. It's gonna be okay, we aren't bad mothers or anything. It is what it is and ultimately we just want our babies to be healthy right?
Hang in there, and don't be afraid to tell your health care team what you want and/or ask questions. GL