Moms back at work...

JubilantJill · November 2012

How is being away from your baby? You can be honest with me. Smile

I go back on Monday. Part of me is excited to go back, but I have bouts of sobbing thinking about how much I will hate being away from LO. I'm a K teacher, and most days, I genuinely love it. I hope I will get wrapped up in work and not think about missing LO.

How long does it take for it to feel ok leaving him/her?

LLeeD14 · November 2012

I didn't cry like I thought I would. The hardest part for me is the feeling that someone else is raising my child. Her and I spent so much time together that she KNEW who I was and wanted me and I don't want to be the person who's arms she cries in now because I'm not the one who's around her most. I know it's a silly thought but that's just how I feel.

mrsjenni · November 2012

I go back on Monday as well... just talking from experience with my other two, you should give yourself an extra 30-45 minutes to get ready and try to get as much done as you can the night before.

Also, it gets easier and easier every day!

JubilantJill · November 2012

LLeeD14:
The hardest part for me is the feeling that someone else is raising my child.

I know what you mean. I don't want to miss out on all of his smiles and coos throughout the day. Sad

JubilantJill · November 2012

mrs.jenni:
I go back on Monday as well... just talking from experience with my other two, you should give yourself an extra 30-45 minutes to get ready and try to get as much done as you can the night before.
Also, it gets easier and easier every day!

Good luck to you, Mrs. Jenni! Thanks for the tips, and I'm so glad to hear that it gets easier.

leavitt1 · November 2012

I went back on Tuesday. To be honest, I'm having a tough time with it, but I know I am fortunate, as DH is home with the baby when I'm at work (he works from home). I teach, and work is busy enough that I don't have too much time to dwell and be upset when I'm there. My DH has also been wonderful about sending me pics of our LO during the day, And I'm only gone about seven hours total. That said, when I get home, I feel like she is looking at me with accusation in her eyes, and it takes a bit of time before she starts giving me smiles again. I really hope this gets easier.

Good luck to you next week. I think it's a struggle for everyone in the beginning, but it should get easier.

Kikabell · November 2012

LLeeD14:
I didn't cry like I thought I would. The hardest part for me is the feeling that someone else is raising my child. Her and I spent so much time together that she KNEW who I was and wanted me and I don't want to be the person who's arms she cries in now because I'm not the one who's around her most. I know it's a silly thought but that's just how I feel.

this! I also hate that I only get to spend a couple hours of awake time with him. I can't wait for the weekend so I can have all day with him to see his smiles.

MrsAB1316 · November 2012

Kikabell:
LLeeD14:
I didn't cry like I thought I would. The hardest part for me is the feeling that someone else is raising my child. Her and I spent so much time together that she KNEW who I was and wanted me and I don't want to be the person who's arms she cries in now because I'm not the one who's around her most. I know it's a silly thought but that's just how I feel.

this! I also hate that I only get to spend a couple hours of awake time with him. I can't wait for the weekend so I can have all day with him to see his smiles.

It does get easier as far as you're not as emotional each day you drop him off, but I agree with LLeeD14...I was just thinking tonight...I have about an hour with him in the morning that is spent trying to get both of us ready for the day and then I get to the daycare around 5:30, get home around 6, feed him a bottle, snuggle for a minute and by 7:30 or so he's winding down for sleep and is usually out by 8 at the latest. I get 3 hours a day with my baby. I'm really struggling with this realization.

Meghkannkenna81 · November 2012

I have been back at work for four weeks (went back when baby was 7 weeks old). I love my baby and being home was great, but I was looking forward to going back. I have a great job that I worked hard for, so I always knew I would go back. The first day was difficult because I was always thinking about what she was doing. It had helped that I had left her with someone else a few times before (it gets easier every time).

It definitely hasn't been as hard as I thought. What I am most surprised by is how excited and happy I get at the end of the day and on my way home. Also, I have made it very clear to my caretakers that they should call me with any questions and if anything is wrong, but I avoid calling them because it leads to undue worry. For example, if I call and my nanny says she's been a little fussy or isnt sleeping well that day, I think about it ALL DAY. She's a baby and will have off days. As long as she isnt sick (in which they should call and I should worry), I dont need to know about every single thing that happens becuase I overanalyze. I have found my "no calling" policy to be very helpful.

JubilantJill · November 2012

MrsAB1316:
Kikabell:

LLeeD14:
I didn't cry like I thought I would. The hardest part for me is the feeling that someone else is raising my child. Her and I spent so much time together that she KNEW who I was and wanted me and I don't want to be the person who's arms she cries in now because I'm not the one who's around her most. I know it's a silly thought but that's just how I feel.

this! I also hate that I only get to spend a couple hours of awake time with him. I can't wait for the weekend so I can have all day with him to see his smiles.

It does get easier as far as you're not as emotional each day you drop him off, but I agree with LLeeD14...I was just thinking tonight...I have about an hour with him in the morning that is spent trying to get both of us ready for the day and then I get to the daycare around 5:30, get home around 6, feed him a bottle, snuggle for a minute and by 7:30 or so he's winding down for sleep and is usually out by 8 at the latest. I get 3 hours a day with my baby. I'm really struggling with this realization.

I think about this a lot, too. I have tried and tried to think of ways that I could be a SAHM, but it's just not feasible. I'm just going to try to make those 3 hours count.

JubilantJill · November 2012

Meghkannkenna81:

It definitely hasn't been as hard as I thought. What I am most surprised by is how excited and happy I get at the end of the day and on my way home. Also, I have made it very clear to my caretakers that they should call me with any questions and if anything is wrong, but I avoid calling them because it leads to undue worry. For example, if I call and my nanny says she's been a little fussy or isnt sleeping well that day, I think about it ALL DAY. She's a baby and will have off days. As long as she isnt sick (in which they should call and I should worry), I dont need to know about every single thing that happens becuase I overanalyze. I have found my "no calling" policy to be very helpful.

That's a good idea. I have a feeling I will want to call all the time at first, but I'm hoping as time goes on, I'll worry less about him during the day. He's going to be with my MIL, so I know he will be loved and cared for, I just wish it could be me who's caring for him all day.

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