Bedsharers

ellcore · November 2012

Bedsharers

Talk to me about bed sharing. How do you, personally, do it? Is your SO on board about it or was it something that just works for you? Any other information about it would be great.

I would like to learn about it but the internet sucks and I like hearing it from first hand experience.

jlr1988 · November 2012

Baby H and I have bed shared since before we left the hospital. At first he slept on me, but he progressively kept moving to the bed. So now he sleeps next to me and we side lie nurse at night. Which for us was a godsend. Anyways, my bed is against a wall, so I have a slim body pillow tucked between the wall and bed so he can't roll between the two. I have another pillow on the side of the bed. And two pillows at the head of my bed.

Babies will always sleep closer to their mothers than further away, especially if you BF. Also, keep the baby at breast level so they are away from pillows and fluff. I covers us up to his lower back with the sheet and comforter. My shoulders get cold, but the rest of me is so toasty I don't mind. And he is plenty warm enough from being covered like that and my body heat.

I hope that helps! Let me know if you have any questions about how we sleep or more bed sharing questions.

fatpenguin4304 · November 2012

We started out being very against bedsharing but after 3 days of her not sleeping for more than 10 minutes in the PNP... I held her on my chest and she slept for 3 full hours - it was glorious. We kind of do half and half. We have her crib mattress pushed up between the wall and our bed ( Note: we have our bed on just the box spring and mattress so its only about an inch or two higher than hers) She starts out sleeping on her bed and then when she's ready to eat I put her on ours we side lie nurse (and I sleep right through it...its awesome) I always sleep on my side facing her whether shes in her bed or ours. I do swaddle her still and then cover her up to her waist with my blanket. She sleeps about boob level and goes right back to sleep after nursing. Sometimes I move her back and sometimes not. She sleeps WAY better in our bed... even during the day if I just set her on it shes out.

Wally3 · November 2012

Check out the attachment parent board. THose ladies will have lots of good advice.

CnAnA · November 2012

When she is in our bed, she is at chest level between me and husband. I sleep facing her, he sleeps facing away. I keep my arm surrounding her. Not holding her, just around her. I will pull my sheet over her but usually not the comforter. She sleeps layered so i dont want to overheat her.

ETA: Husband was iffy about it at first but now he kinda likes having her so close.

CLLDLL · November 2012

Search co-sleeping on www.kellymom.com. Lots of info about how to do it safely.

We co-slept with DS1 from 3 months to 7 or 8 months. It worked for us. DH didn't really care for it, but I told him either he got up 100 times a night to put the paci back in his mouth or he could deal with the co-sleeping. After one night of paci duty, he gave in. We always had DS1 next to the wall/bedrail, then me in the middle and DH on the outside because he's a heavy sleeper and moves a lot in his sleep. That way we didn't have to worry about him rolling over on DS1.

We are not co-sleeping with DS2, but only because he took to sleeping in the RnP on the first night. I would have gladly done it again had he not like the RnP.

greeneyedjess · November 2012

Gibson usually starts the night off in his PnP and when he wakes to nurse around 4, I nurse him on my side and he stays in bed with me until we wake up in the morning. I keep him swaddled, head at breast level, with my bottom arm under his head and my top arm over his body. I pull the blankets up to chest level on him. I'm a single mom so I don't have to worry about anyone's input

[Deleted User] · November 2012

I too usually pull C in our bed after our MOTN feeding, usually around 5. Some nights she's in our bed most of the night if she's really fussy, I'll hold her on my chest and recline a bit, supporting her under her butt. I usually pull the blanket up to her lower back. She doesn't move at all. When I put her in bed after our MOTN feeding, I lay her on my right side between me and the cosleeper (which is attached to our bed). I keep a pillow shoved in between the gap between the cosleeper and our bed so there's a little "wall" to keep her in place. Then I turn her slightly towards me, keeping her at breast level. I pull the blanket up to her waist level or so, but I keep us both dressed fairly warm so we don't get cold. I'm very aware of her, and she really doesn't move (yet lol).

blackcat3163 · November 2012

I bedshared right from the hospital, something I was against. He sleeps in his crib now though until around 5:30 when H goes to work. He doesn't care but he will sleep in another room because L is such a loud sleeper. He slept a full night with me last night after a month of not doing because he had his shots and I wanted to keep a close eye on him for fever. He slept 6 hours straight and i woke him up so he might have slept longer... I remove the pillows from my H's side and move the covers down past where his legs reach, I also put his sound machine on that side of the bed (it's a big frog shaped thing) so he doesn't roll off that side and we listen to womb noises for 30 mins til he's asleep. Even though it's "safer" for him in the crib I worry a lot less when he's in bed with me.

gusabbey · November 2012

We still bedshare with ds1 who is 3.5, so when ds2 came, he and i moved to a separate bed and dh and ds1 cuddle. I dont feel its safe having the boys in bed together.

With ds2, we have a futon mattress on the floor, one pillow for me, a small blanket for ds. I sleep in a nursing tank and long sleeved shirt. He stays in the center of the bed and i switch sides based on which side hes nursing on.

When he wakes up, we get out of bed, i feed on one breast, change his diaper, feed on second breast, then switch breasts back to the first one, and move to side lying and fall asleep together. My back would KILL me if i slept on the same side all night long.

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