Anyone else struggling to adjust to their 'new' role, or relationship dynamic since LO came along? Not only is any romance that we once shared now non-existent, but I feel like hubby's concern or thoughtfulness for me has evaporated, as well, and he has become very self-centered and, well - sort of a jerk. He has stopped helping with dishes or cleaning bottles/pumping parts. If he changes a diaper he just leaves the dirty one sitting around on the changing table, can't quite manage to THROW IT AWAY. I get up with baby each and every morning and have asked on weekends that he give me one morning to sleep in, but that only seems to happen once every month or two and he grumbles about it, at that. On weekends, he typically will sleep until 10:00 a.m. (me and LO are up between 6 and 7) and then make a point of either telling me 'how tired' he's been lately, or 'how amazing' it felt to get so much sleep. I just want to cry.
Every night, he comes home from work, sits down in front of the TV(which never used to be on so often), picks up his laptop and... that's it. I come home from work and don't stop working at least until the baby is asleep... laundry, cooking, dishes, playing with baby, changing, feeding, etc... I can't think of one time in the last month where he has offered to help or just taken any initiative, other than to play with the baby. I also do all the grocery shopping and now with the holidays, it is my task to figure out what to give, and purchase all gifts, for both sides of the family. He is also drinking a lot but tries to keep it on the down low and is sort of sneaky about it.
This is not what our day-to-day was like before. I mean, lots changed once we were married, but we still had this real 'partnership' that included sharing chores, having fun, goofy romance and a somewhat decent sex life...I have tried to talk to him about why I need him to do more, and how it is making me feel but he just gets very angry, defensive and sarcastic. I feel like our relationship is now more like two roommates, who happen to share a baby.