We have a 3.5 year old dd and still have all of the baby gear. I'm not a fan of people having another shower for a second or third child, however a few people have asked if I'm having one. When I say no, they say, but you're having twins! Am I missing something? We need another carseat and stroller, but other than that we're set. I have a friend giving me all her extra baby gear (seats, exersauxer, swing, etc), so we don't need those things.
I've been to "sprinkles" when friends have their second or third and think those are cute, but I'm just not sure. So, if twins were your second or third pregnancy, did you have a shower? Is it a must do?
Re: Baby shower or not?
I have heard of people having a shower for a third child. If you don't feel like it's necessary then it's up to you if you want to have one or not. Maybe just have a sprinkle?
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My mil and mom threw us a surprise shower. DD is almost 9 and we didn't have anything from her because we borrowed most of it. I kept turning them down but friends and other family said you are having it no matter what so you might as well create a registry.
I would do what is comfortable for you. Maybe a sprinkle with a small amount of people.
Make sure you check the expiration on the car seat you have. You will need a double stroller, another crib, more bottles, clothes and burp cloths. Not to mention you may want a pnp, rnp(s), swing, etc. I would think abt a sprinkle in the least.
I didn't have one, pretty much for the same reason you were thinking. Also it just felt weird to ask friends and family to come give us MORE gifts. In the last five years we'd had a wedding (+bridal showers), a housewarming party, and a baby. It just seemed like people had already given us SO much.
We had a big lovely co-ed shower for DD, and since we were team green most of our baby stuff was unisex. So we didn't need much.
People insisted it would have been acceptable since we were having twins and they were a different sex than the 1st baby, but I just didn't feel comfortable with it.
This is what I feel like, it seems greedy to me. We are so grateful to have so many hand me downs from friends that are done having babies and I just don't want to ask for more (even if I'm not the one pushing for it). Our family and friends will buy us things anyway, they just want suggestions. I thought about creating a registry so I can get the discount on the stroller at the end, so maybe I'll do that and tell them they can look their for suggestions if needed.
Also, I really just want meals that we can freeze and cook when the babies come, that would be a tremendous help. Maybe I can give that as a suggestion. Thanks for your input ladies, it's so helpful!
I was going to suggest the meals thing. A few years ago my friend had twins and her mom threw a "bring your favorite meal" party haha. It was really cute, everyone brought their favorite dish (frozen) and gave it to mom! She had enough frozen meals for about a month!
I love this idea! You will definitely appreciate this