Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: I just broke up with my bf
I am so sorry! I know things are rough right now....but it sounds like he needs a break. He is going to have to come around to the idea of being a dad all on his own. If you keep pushing the issue, it will probably just push him away.
Hang in there!
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You can't convince him of anything he doesn't really want. Take a break. If he loved you as much as he says, he'd accept the fact that you are ready and willing to keep the baby. If he's not 'there' for the baby, then he won't ever be fully 'there' for you, either.
This is TERRIBLE!
I really do feel for you, BUT your baby is depending on you to love him or her and keep him or her safe in your belly! If you want to keep the baby do NOT let him sway you into such a terrible thing. Put your baby first because your baby will love you unconditionally and deserves a life, whether it be with you or if you chose adoption (I am not telling you to choose it). It is your little baby too and if he cant respect that you choose to keep your little baby then you need to cut him out for a while. If he truly loved you like he says he does then he would never ask you to do such a thing. If he really does and he is just afraid and reacting selfishly then he will come around eventually. But NEVER let a guy talk you into abortion. Baby has a right to live. You are mommy and its your job to protect your little baby! Hopefully your guy will come around, but it is best for you emotionally right now to just turn your back on that guy for a while. Baby is apart of you, so give him an ultimatum, he either respects your decision to keep the baby or he leaves you alone. He doesnt need to hurt you anymore!! I know this will be the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but making a decision like this is apart of being a mom and i PROMISE you that when your little one is placed in your arms you wont regret your decision of being a mom. EVER. There is no love like the love of a child. Do what you feel is right, and remember no matter how bad this guy hurts you, when you feel baby move in your belly you will know you are doing the right thing 
I find it funny that you quoted this, when I found out I was pregnant unexpectedly I was TERRIFIED, and I went to a pregnancy center, and my counselor quoted this exact verse to me... It changed my perspective! I loved it, it is such a comforting reminder!
OK. Telling you right now, while everyone is capable of change, IT IS NOT LIKELY. No person who loves another would tell them they love them and want to be with them without their child. That's selfishness, not love.
You can't convince him to want the baby. Period. He is capable of making his own decisions and right now that doesn't include a child.
You need to draw the line. It's going to suck, trust me. But you need to tell him you are keeping the baby, that you and the baby are a package and if he doesn't want it and want to treat you well and be a stand up father, then someone else will. BECAUSE IT'S TRUE.
You love him. That's okay. But you need to love the baby, and yourself, more than to let yourself be emotionally abused like that. Right now the baby feels everything that you feel. The stress will hurt you AND the baby. He may love you, but he admits he's not ready for a baby. Honestly, that's good of him. Better that you figure it out now than when the baby is here and he walks out on both of you. Better for your baby not to know him then to have memories or him leaving you guys!
Your first concern should be your child and how to take care of it. Period. I ended up wasting all of my pregnancy being concerned about my relationship with the father and I missed out on all the joys of being pregnant. It's one of my biggest regrets now. Don't make the same mistake. If it's meant to be, he'll come around. You have nine months for him to grow up. Step away from the situation and maybe he'll figure himself out and come back. If he doesn't, then it's okay. You'll make it through it no matter what.