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TTC After a Loss
vent session ....little long
Hey guys,
I am pretty new to posting, I just had a thought tonight( after an emotional breakdown) maybe I am trying too hard to get pregnant. My first pregnancy me and my husband were trying for one month and BOOM pregnant. I had a mc a little over 2 wks later. the last two cycles after that I was pretty much out of the game and I REALLY had my hopes up for month three ...what a big let down. I bought opks and timed everything .I think it was too forced and now my new philosophy is to take things slow and hopefully there will be a healthy and happy pregnancy. The emotional break down was the " I would of been 20 weeks by now" and by husband saying " you would have been showing by now" that realization hit me like a ton of bricks!...Maybe I am in the angry/accepting phase of grief.
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Re: vent session ....little long
BFP #1 4/10/12 D&C 6/5/12@ 12.5wks EDD 12/17/12
BFP #2 9/10/12 CP 9/19/12@ 5.5wks EDD 5/21/13
BFP# 3 12/3/12...Lukas James born 8/15/13
BFP# 4 8/4/14 EDD 4/13/15
I am sorry you are having a rough time but there is no such thing as "trying too hard". And frankly it's pretty darn offensive to those who've been trying MUCH longer than you that you are complaining that you aren't pregnant in three cycles.
I find the angry/accepting/sad/breakdown phases of grief come and go repeatedly. Just close your eyes, breathe, and wake up again tomorrow. :::hugs::: your way.
The crazy-train check ins are probably a good place to post things like this without hurting ppl who have been ttc for extended periods, since those are sort of acknowledged "I know I'm being impatient/crazy, but this is still how I feel" posts.
I hope tomorrow is a better day for you, and relaxing and taking things slow works out.
BFP 08/05/12. EDD 4/15/12 m/c 08/27/12
PGAL/PAL Welcome
Okay. You introduced yourself to this board when you were about 12DPO (according to OPKs) and were stressing out about the waiting game of TTC. I'm sorry you got a BFN. I suggested then that you start charting your BBT. That is the only way you will be able to tell if you really O'd. More importantly, you need to lurk and learn the etiquette of this board. I would also suggest that you read the TTCAL blog - it will answer a lot of questions for you.
I believe that you did not intend to offend anyone on this board but a vast majority of us have never experienced BOOM pregnant. Sorry your second cycle TTC did not work out but the chances of a healthy couple with zero fertility issues conceiving any given cycle is only 20%.
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise