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Jazzyashes84
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What was your reason for wanting 2u2?
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TTC#2: 8/17/14 // BFP: 9/5/14
TTC#1: 7/30/11 // BFP: 8/22/11
DS: Carson Robert 4/29/12
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Re: What was your reason for wanting 2u2?
If I could ask a magic fairy to give me 2 kids at the exact time I wanted, I would not have 2u2. It is hard. I started TTC #2 when my first son was 5 months old because I thought IF it was going to happen, it had to be as soon as possible. I'm running out of eggs at age it should not be happening.
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui)
#1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
#2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015
#4!!!!!!! due June 2017
Infertility history here too. I stopped nursing when DD was 6 months to get ready to start cycling again (I have DOR so time isn't on my side). Instead of getting a period I got pregnant with DS.
We are considering TTC #3 next year fully aware that it might never happen due to my dx. So I am very thankful we have 2 happy, healthy kids and that we had them when we did. A third would just be icing on the cake.
Married 6/28/03
Kate ~ 7/3/09 *** Connor ~ 11/11/10
4 miscarriages: 2007, 2009, 2013, 2014
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No more TTC for us. We are done, and at peace, as a family of 4.
"Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.” — Charles Dickens
Several reasons:
1) DH is 1 of four and they are all 18 months apart, and he remembers how great it was because they were all close in age.
2) We wanted a big family and we didn't want to be 35-40 and still having kids.
3) Our childcare is an au pair, so our expenses are "fixed" no matter how many kids we have. It is beneficial to have them closer together, and when the last one is in preschool we will not need one anymore, and save on that as well.
4) Reusing clothes, if our kids were farther apart I don't know if I could convince myself to keep the stuff for 3-4 years (I already find it hard to hang onto the stuff from DS1 and DS2 for DS3 (there is a 4 year age gap between the second and third boy).
5) Diapers, if I was ever "done" with diapers I would never want to go back!
I could go on and on, but these are all personal reasons why it works for us, everyone is different, GL
DD1 Feb 2010
DD2 Sept 2011
All of this! We are done at 2. 2u2 was a definite choice for us. We planned it this way for the reasons stated a above. It's worked so well for us so far. Of course we had no idea they'd be this close, we were aiming for an 18m age gap but getting pregnant right away and then having a preemie made them 13.5m apart. We love it though!
Another "Because I'm older" reason. I will be 35 when this LO is born, and I really don't want to worry about risks of Downs/other complications because of age. While we did initially plan them to be 2+ years apart, we were surprised to get pg as quickly as we did with #2, so 21 months apart it is!
We haven't completely counted out the idea of #3 since I'm in good health and medically my dr said I have the same pg health stats as a 26 yr old, but I'm not 26 so my age and general dislike of pregnancy are very strong factors in the "we are done" camp. If we went for it, we would certainly be 3u4, and that just sounds terrifying!
In my family, when I was born there was a 12month, 2.5yo, and just turned 5 yo, and I loved it!! my DH only had a sister that was 6 years younger and they did not get along. So we decided we wanted them close in ageso they can play together as they growup.
also, I am staying home with them till they go off to school, so the closer they are together, the sooner I can go back to work and earn a paycheck.
mine will be 14 months apart, the 2nd one is not here yet, and I am sure it will be crazy for a while, but I am so excited about it.
This! I turned 40 a couple weeks before DS1 was born and I'll be 42 about a month after DS2 arrives. DH is 18 months older than me, so if we'd waited to have a 2nd one, we'd be well into our 60s by the time all the kids were out of high school, which is also why our family will be complete with just 2 as well.
A big selling point was financial. I wanted to be home with my kids while they were young and a larger gap would mean more years out of the workforce or I'd have the expense of my youngest kid in daycare.
I liked the idea of getting pregnancy/newborn phase over with instead of starting all over again. I'm more of a kid person vs an infant person. I'd rather do the infant phase again while it was fresh in my head instead of having an older, more independent child and starting all over again.
For DH and I we had good personal experiences with our friends/family members close in age. My DH had large spacing with his siblings and didn't really have relationships with them as children which carried over into adulthood. Of course spacing isn't going to guarantee a sibling relationship since it has to do more with personality--but I do think it makes it easier to nurture one when kids share common interests/are in a similar place in life. It does make things like traveling/activities easier as well with children. I think the first year is more challenging with 2u2 but I think it's easier long-term than having kids far apart.
I just really like babies, and I wanted another one.
Almost word for word this is our story. I didn't have DOR, but it runs in my family, and fear of having that with our other IF issues got us back on the TTC roller coaster a lot sooner than most people would have...we had the same success on the first pp cycle after weaning from BFing at 6 months.
We decided to TTC#3 after DD turned a year old - after having 2 so close in age, I didn't want the third to be left out by being that much younger (and I am also 35 years old so I didn't want to be much older than this having another baby). We also decided to only TTC for 1 year, and if we didn't succeed on our own, we were done. After all the trouble we had trying to have #1, we knew we were very lucky to have 2 happy, healthy kids. #3 took a while (about 10 months), but will be here soon!
LOL. This was me the first time I had 2u2. This time, it's the getting older/IF reason. We gave ourselves a short window, starting when the baby was 9mos. It happened when he turned 1.
We wanted our children to be close in age, but, as other PP's have said, weren't quite expecting THIS close in age
However, we're extremely excited! I've heard that having 2 has a lot of benefits -- similar age allows them to play well together, as they grow they may have similar circles of friends, etc.
Also, DH and I plan to have 4, if we're blessed with the opportunity, and we'd really like to be done by the time we're in our mid 30's. Well, I want to be done before I'm 32-33, which would put DH at 36.
Plus.. I loved being pregnant.. I really did, and it was just a shame that my previous pregnancy was so filled with worry and anxiety. I'm really hoping this time around I'll be able to stress less, and feel more confident in being able to enjoy the pregnancy
Fate!
i was ebfing on the mini pill and never had a period. Had no idea I was pg until I was almost 3 months.
Hindsight I am glad they are so close! It was really hard at first for me but DD and DS don't know any different and will always be best friends
if I had to do it over again I would plan for as close of a spacing as possible.
When I took the pregnancy test, and knew there was a baby growing inside me, I knew I wanted 2u2
My sisters are 4 and 14 years younger than me. Essentially I only grew up with one sister and we were not into the same things at the same time at all. DH's siblings are 7, 10, and 15 years younger so they had the same problem. We knew we wanted less than two years apart because of this. Add to the fact that we'll be homeschooling I wanted their subject matter to be close enough they could enjoy some of the same items.
We are going to be close to having 3u3- DS turns 3 right before my due date. I agree w/ all the above except I am a SAHM so child care costs aren't even a factor for us. Another big benefit in our perspective was that our kids will all be interested in similar things at the same time- our kids like the same kind of toys, shows, activities, etc. Personally I think it would be trickier to plan activities out if I had to appeal to the interests of a 6 year old and a 2 year old or something, kwim? Also a small point but we want to be done with baby stuff kind of all at once- once we are done having kids we wont have to go back to baby mode again, we could take family vacations that are fun for ALL the kids vs. just fun for the younger or older kids, etc. We plan on having probably 4-6 kids (possibly more if we decide to foster/adopt once we are done having bio kids which we have always said we want to). I do think we will have a slightly larger gap between 3 & 4 though (1& 2 are 20 mo apart, 2&3 will be 15 mo apart).
Fertility. Our first was a surprise after 3 yrs of trying, even though the drs said it could never happen... and here we are again surprised. I EBF, and didnt figure with my infertility history, plus having cysts and fibroids that it would take a while, wWrong I have a 5 1/2 mo old and am 3 1/2 months pregnant.