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How awkward...

Saritaota614Saritaota614 member
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DH and I just went to visit with our friend (at his work) because we rarely see him.  He works full time and goes to school so he's never free.   It's the first time we've been face to face since m/c

and he asks me if I am feeling fertile...

WTF!!! Who asks that?!   Are you feeling fertile?! UGH!!! How AWKWARD!!

I understand wanting to say something about it, but that's not the way to go about it.  Talk about a kick in the teeth..

I'm sure he meant no harm.. but Geez.  

Trying for our first since April 2011
BFP 10/4/2012. Due 6/11/13. M/C 11/3/12
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  • buggirl72buggirl72 member
    Goodness . . . I'm sorry you had to go through that. My DH and I would end up turning that into an inside joke. It's just such a silly inappropriate thing to ask someone!

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  • Saritaota614Saritaota614 member

    I'm sure it will be! haha.. 

    I was just taken back by it!  

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  • yesthisiskim0401yesthisiskim0401 member
    You should have said "Yeah! Can we use your bed?". What a weird thing for him to say. Seriously.

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  • JosiecatJosiecat member

    That actually made me laugh outloud. Who the @#$@%^@ asks ANYONE that???

    Is anyone here keeping track of awkward statements? 'cause I think this one is pretty ripe.

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  • LunaBug924LunaBug924 member
    Ugh. I get it that most people feel this compelling need to say something, but most of the time it would be better for them to keep their mouth shut!  Sorry you had to deal with that. I'm sure he meant well, but what a dumb thing to ask!
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  • kneenah1231kneenah1231 member
    awww I am sure he meant well maybe it just came out wrong.. smh guys..
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  • lindsayanne14lindsayanne14 member
    That is a really, really weird thing to say...to anyone, at any time!

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  • jenn0021jenn0021 member
    Wow, that is awkward. Sorry you had to deal with that.
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  • katharine25katharine25 member
    imageyesthisiskim0401:
    You should have said "Yeah! Can we use your bed?". What a weird thing for him to say. Seriously.

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  • csspencercsspencer member
    Eww, that's a weird question. Definitely not an appropriate question.
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  • SopranoMamaSopranoMama member

    Oh jeeze! That is super awkward!

    Reminds me of one of DH's good friends, we actually call him "Awkward Josh" he is one of the most socially inept people I have ever met. When he last talked about the loss and our resulting TTC the best he could muster was "Well, all the sex must be good, right? hahahaha!" All we could say was "*sigh* Josh"

    Some people just are completely clueless when it comes to social interactions!

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