TTC After a Loss

TTA & Provera... SUCKS.

My doc just called. These past few days have been horrible, which is why I haven't posted too much. Didn't wanna be grinchy or anything. Lots of stuff happening, and then today the icing on the cake.

So I was supposed to start Provera this upcoming Friday, but doc called just now & told me to wait 4 weeks and use protection during that time, to be sure I am not pg before starting the medicine. I am let down, because I was happy that I could finally start my period and maybe get my body to start ovulating (if it isn't already). I am on cycle day 40 right now (counting the D&C as day 1). 

To be honest, I thought about just starting it anyway, but I won't. Doc knows best, right? I won't go against her wishes. This is the worst holiday season ever. Then the 2 ladies whom I was close in due dates with keep posting about their pregnancies on FB. Today, one found out she is having a boy. Yesterday the other one started having a conversation with lady 1 on a picture of mine, and so easily talked about her pregnancy on MY photo with lady 1. Are these people flucking dim!???

I also got drunk the last 2 nights in a row all alone, on Merlot, Chianti, and Cabernet Sauvignon. I feel so terrible for it, but might get drunk again tonight. I don't want to make this a habit, but hell, I really dgaf right now. My husband tries his best to console me. It just isn't working though. I hope you ladies are having a better week than I.

Thanks for reading. 

PG MENTIONED!! 

Edit: going to get a thermometer today to start temping... and pretty sure I had a chemical pregnancy last week. Had positive lines for 4 days (barely visable), but 2 days later absolutely nothing again.

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Re: TTA & Provera... SUCKS.

  • Im sorry. I can totally relate, Its been 42 days since I was diagnoses with my m/c and Im so ready to put it all behind me and start TTC again. This TTA, when all I can think about is being KU sucks :( I think coming here and venting  even if your upset and you think your going to  be all grinchy is what this board is about! Its better to be able to express yourself in a nonjudgemental place then to keep it all inside. *HUGS* *HUGS*
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  • Thank you! I am so confused, because as far as I know Provera is just progesterone and would not hurt my child if I were indeed pregnant while taking it. Also, I would just not have the period Provera should induce if I am actually pg. So if all of this is true, I do not see why I have to wait 4 weeks to take the Provera, or TTA during this time. Maybe someone has insight. I am making an appt with a new doc this week just to get a second opinion.

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  • It is all confusing isnt it. I am not much help since I am still waiting on a period after my D&C. I  call my DR friday and update her about my lack of AF and will be starting progestrone on monday. My birthday is next week maybe I can get AF to send me a gift :) good luck Hun, I know someone will be able to help you more than I could.
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  • imageJiffyJiffy:
    Thank you! I am so confused, because as far as I know Provera is just progesterone and would not hurt my child if I were indeed pregnant while taking it. Also, I would just not have the period Provera should induce if I am actually pg. So if all of this is true, I do not see why I have to wait 4 weeks to take the Provera, or TTA during this time. Maybe someone has insight. I am making an appt with a new doc this week just to get a second opinion.

    My understanding is that the issue is when you stop taking progesterone. The steep drop in progesterone is what imitates the end of a normal cycle and stimulates your body to start your period - so, if you were pregnant and taking Provera and then suddenly stop, it could cause you to have a miscarriage. 


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    imageJiffyJiffy:
    Thank you! I am so confused, because as far as I know Provera is just progesterone and would not hurt my child if I were indeed pregnant while taking it. Also, I would just not have the period Provera should induce if I am actually pg. So if all of this is true, I do not see why I have to wait 4 weeks to take the Provera, or TTA during this time. Maybe someone has insight. I am making an appt with a new doc this week just to get a second opinion.

    My understanding is that the issue is when you stop taking progesterone. The steep drop in progesterone is what imitates the end of a normal cycle and stimulates your body to start your period - so, if you were pregnant and taking Provera and then suddenly stop, it could cause you to have a miscarriage. 


    This. It's also a synthetic progesterone versus a natural one, so it's not the best for taking while pregnant [they would use a natural progesterone to supplement a pregnacy]

    Based on you edit though, when was your last negative? It can take a few days for your body to catch up after a chemical. Mine last cycle it took aAf 4 days to show up after my tests went negative.
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  • Oh! Well then I guess I do not need a second opinion from a doctor. That is great to know. My last negative was Sunday. The positives were 2 weeks earlier (about).

    I just bought my thermometer. So when is the best tome to record my temp for the day?

    So what about when I do take the Provera? Lets's say I take it from 1st til 10th. Then have my period on the 19th. That will not be enough time to show a positive on a hpt before I start the next round.  

    Edit: i got my first negative about a week ago. 

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  • I'm very confused by your time line, but you're saying you got a positive hpt that then went negative a week ago, and you have not had your period since?

    You only ovulate once in a cycle, which you've already done if you had a positive pregnancy test. I really don't understand why you wouldn't have gotten your period though if you are now getting negative tests then your progesterone levels have dropped and you would have bled... Something is very confusing here. Provera is only used if you haven't ovulated ... It essentially tricks your body into thinking it has so through progesterone. When you stop taking it it tells you uterus to shed your lining.

    I also don't understand the 4 weeks your doctor wants you to wait. If adter 60 days from your last cycle you abstain for 2 weeks and still are not pregnant or had your period, then you are not pregnant.

    As to temping, start when you get your period. Read through the fertility friend lessons and the book "take charge of your fertility" Is the best source to learn about your body and charting.
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  • I will try to break it down as good as I can, because I am also confused. 

    First, I do not have regular periods. So no, I do not bleed every month. It has been 1.5 months since my D&C. The Provera is to get me to have a period. I will take the first pill on Christmas Eve. I hope though that I will have one on my own, though doubtful.

    When I was 18, I was put on BC to have a period each month. I got pregnant 2 months after I stopped BC at age 24.   

    I had a positives for 3 days in a row, although very faint. This was 11/10-11/13 then I started getting negatives.  

    Now, the reason I am not supposed to take Provera starting on Friday, as was originally planned, is because we have been TTC, and the doc does not want to risk me being pg and start the Provera. Which is where I get confused. I didn't know Provera would hurt a fetus so early, and wish I could just go ahead and take it!! So I should wait 4 weeks from our last intercourse (last night), and use condoms during this time, then test again. If negative I can start the Provera. If positive, well, happy day, but yeah right. 

    Does that make better sense? 

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  • Also, I do not have PCOS or Endometreosis as of yet. I haven't been diagnosed with it, and was told my insides are in great health, nothing wrong, so apparently nothing keeping things from happening. I just don't know. I am so glad I have these women to help me and explain things. I was on the phone with the nurse for 30 minutes today and she made no damn sense. I got pissy and said I had to go. I will probably call back tomorrow and talk to a different nurse.
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  • The breakdown helps tremendously. Final question, did you take a pregnancy test BEFORE November 10th? My response below is based on the assumption this answer is No.

    If you in fact did have a chemical pregnancy on Nov 13th you would have bled by now. That's just a medical fact. In order to become pregnant you need to ovulate, and if you ovulate you will either be pregnant or get your period. You didn't have a chemical. [i have one possible exception to this, but i don't think it applies here] The most likely answer is you had remaining hcg left over from your miscarriage. On average it takes 3 weeks for hcg levels to drop after a d and c, but some women take longer. On Nov 13th, you finally got back to zero. It takes an average of 6 to 8 weeks after a d and c to get yor period. You're only about 6 weeks at this point. Add that with your already naturally longer cycles and you could be facing a bit of a wait.

    Don't be too concerned by the Provera. There's basically only a 2 week window [from ovulation to implantation] where it's possible to be pregnant and not know it. Your doctor sounds like hes just playing it super safe by saying 4 weeks, or he's just trying to get your body To restart on its on, which very likely could happen. Almost every woman on this board was directed by their doctor to wait a minimum of one cycle before trying again.

    LISTEN to your doctor. Once you get this all sorted out, I HIGHLY recommend you start charting with temping. It's the absolute best way to understand what is going on with your body. It also helps us understand to, and enables us to help you more.

     

    One of the biggest things you need after a loss is patience. Lots and lots of patience. The majority of women here will say that there cycles changed after loss. Even if you had been regular before doesn't mean you will be regular afterwards

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