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"my" baby

Tula214Tula214 member
in August 2012 Moms
I love my SOs family, and I know Jayson is SOs sibling's first nephew... But if I see them call him their baby again I might spaz!! I already had bumped heads with my SO because I said I didn't want him putting pictures on instagram of the baby. Well his brother and sisters keep putting them on there.... I know I put pictures of him on here, but for some reason instagram just unnerves me.

Anyways, I was having a good old time pumping in peace... My men are asleep, I had a good day... Go on Facebook. SOs sister put a collage on instagram of jayson and the caption says, "my little baby is always smiling..." With all this other hashtag nonsense sheittt.


How do I approach this without seeming like a huge bish?
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  • nicnac817nicnac817 member
    Please don't take offense but, you are lucky to have an extended family that loves and is proud of your little one. Being upset with them for calling LO "my baby" seems childish. As for the social media issue... I would just tell them that you are not comfortable having your child's picture posted to such public forums. That is a legitimate request which they should respect.

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  • trying4babyhuntertrying4babyhunter member
    imagenicnac817:
    Please don't take offense but, you are lucky to have an extended family that loves and is proud of your little one. Being upset with them for calling LO "my baby" seems childish. As for the social media issue... I would just tell them that you are not comfortable having your child's picture posted to such public forums. That is a legitimate request which they should respect.


    This exactly.
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  • Tash13Tash13 member

    Yes, you are lucky to have an extended family that loves your LO so much, but it would annoy the crap out of me too.  BUT I'd probably let it go, chalking it up to choosing my battles and that one not being worth the fight.  Or tell them you don't remember them in the delivery room, so he must not be theirs.

    The social media thing, I told my sister that I preferred for her to not post pictures of my LO's.  I told her that I have strict privacy policies on anything involving pictures of my kids and I didn't know if she had the same. I also didn't know her friends, so I wasn't comfortable with pics being posted in an atmosphere that I wasn't controlling.  It was all BS, since I obviously have pics here, but it got the point across.  HTH. 

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  • Manda-KayManda-Kay member
    My MIL calls DS her baby. Yeah it bugs me especially when I bring him to her house and he's crying because he hates the car and she says, what have you done to my baby? I know she's kidding but DS screams the whole car ride over which makes me cry so when she says that it takes every ounce of my being to just smile.


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  • SpruceGrouseSpruceGrouse member

    My mom calls DS her boy. I think it is sweet, she loves him so much. I think it would bother me coming from anyone else but I wouldn't say anything and let it go.

    I think that they should respect your wishes about pictures, you are the mother.

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  • ryeleeandroriryeleeandrori member
    This really bothered me with my first DS. I never said anything about my IL's calling DS1 "my" baby. Now with DS2 they still do it, but it doesn't bother me this time. I'm not sure why.

    As for the picture thing, just tell your SO's sister your not comfortable with her putting pictures on Facebook. I had to do this with my SIL and she had no problem with it and still follows my wishes.
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  • Tula214Tula214 member
    Thanks ladies. About them calling him theirs, I don't like it, but I never intended to say anything to them. I just cringe every time. Maybe its selfish, but I don't care. I had to sit wafting in my own jealous as everyone else bonded with my baby for weeks, and I didn't feel that bond until maybe 6 or 7 weeks. This might be why I don't like it, but I know its petty.

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  • Jnmac83Jnmac83 member

    I see why this would bug some people, but I don't think it would bother me. Also, I call some of my friends babies and my nieces/nephews "my baby" jokingly at times. I'll say "how are my babies doing?". I don't think it bothers them, I guess I should ask!

    I do appreciate having so many people love Oliver enough that they want him to be their baby. I mean, he is pretty awesome! Stick out tongue

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  • MPJR91910MPJR91910 member

    I'm with you on this one.  I know it's petty and not worth saying anything about, but it drives me nuts when MIL calls DS her baby. I called my mom one day to whine to her about how MIL always calls our baby her baby, and she and my dad cracked up.  Now they call to ask how "MIL's baby" is doing. 

    Having said that, I would much rather deal with that than a MIL who doesn't care for DS, so I do realize I'm fortunate. 

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