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VENT: I hate my boss. Yes, it is long.

CageyMackCageyMack member
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I'm just about 500 pounds of indignation and exhaustion from dealing with my boss.  We've all had one somewhere, so I just try to remind myself that this is my "worst boss ever" time and breathe deeply and laugh it off.  While slowly stabbing my eyes out with dry erase markers.

I just can't believe someone can be such a micro-manager, so inept with people, such a horrible leader, so lost in process that she misses the entire point of her work, and so hopelessly lost in thinking she is even remotely good at what she is doing.

She once told me that her two year old daughter was giving her a hard time, but that she found an article in a magazine that told her how to fix it, so that should work.  O.M.G. I can't believe this woman.  I was thinking to myself, "Well, I hope the two year old read it, too."  

Sadly, she manages her team with that same methodology; if she finds something in a book, she believes it is the gospel truth and makes us all read it and then implement whatever it says.  We have about 20 process steps for being nice to each other and Official Team Norms and Courageous Conversations and all this hullabaloo and yet can barely get our work done.  It makes me crazy.   

The thing that is the hardest for me, and that my work-buddy laughs at the most, is that, every time some little thing happens, I expect the boss to be reasonable and rational.  It is like I am surprised and newly hurt every time that she is awful.  Why can't I just learn that she is an idiot and nothing I can do will help her?  Then it wouldn't be such a slap in the face.  But it is like I cannot see all the ways in which she can botch something up and the things she comes up with would just never even occur to me.  My buddy says I need to realize some people are just idiots and then if they did anything good, ever, I would be surprised.  

Thank you for allowing me to post this here. Please, please let me not yell at her today.  Also, please help me from purchasing numerous books on how to be a real, non-robot person who actually lives a meaningful life and then placing them on her desk.  I would write inside them, "Please, live a real life. Have passion about something. Grow an imagination.  Stop being awful.  It makes me die a little every day."

And now off to work. : )

CageyMack
37, married to my favorite person in the world, DW! One darling surfer-girl (12) and one darling, sweet boy born 3/16/13.

5/2013 Started TTC #3, DW's turn: 5/2013: Diagnostics (shg) and surgery (polyp rem.) for best chances. July-Oct: IUI # 1-4, medicated, monitored, triggered.  All BFN. IVF in Jan May. Sheesh. Whoop! IVF#1 cycle started 4/2/14. 5/1: 19 eggs retrieved, 8 matured, ICSI'd.  4 fertilized.   Only 2 to transfer/freeze stage. 5/6: Two embryos transferred. 5/15: Beta #1 9dp5dt is 134! BFP! 5/19: Beta #2 13dp5dt is 672! B'erFP! 5/21: Beta #3 15dp5dt is 1853.  Yay!


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Re: VENT: I hate my boss. Yes, it is long.

  • Virgo17Virgo17 member

    I'm sorry to hear you are dealing with a difficult boss.  I had quite the doozy in my first full-time job.  I didn't realize how bad it was until I got my nice new boss and then I was like WTF was that crazy person I had to deal with?

    The best thing to do is set your expectations low and try not to be surprised by anything she does.  Soon enough either you or her will be moving on and this will all be a distant memory Wink

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  • AgoAgo member

    I've had similar problems with my boss, and had a truly awful boss in the past.  A couple of things that see me through:

    1) The devil you know is better than the devil you don't know.  This is pretty much my mantra.

    2) Access the small part of yourself that can give this person what they need.  My boss needs a yes-man.  I hate that and I feel like a fake.  My co-worker/friend told me that it isn't me being fake, it is me accessing a part of myself that I don't usually use or identify with.  Helped me still feel genuine.

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  • Netty_3Netty_3 member

    I hope it gets better.

     I had a terrible boss that was such an...um jerk...that I went home every day crying, ended up having major stomach issues due to stress...and didn't realize how much it affected me until I left and felt sane again for the first time in years!  I found out after I left that two other women had left for the same reasons, and that he had been transferred to another position where he wasn't allowed to manage anyone anymore...I am a pretty easy person to get along with and no matter what he just made life miserable.  He has issues...mainly because he was incompetent and didn't liek anyone else that was. I loved that job before he was my boss, I really wish all the mediation we had would have led him to not be my boss before I left, instead of me leaving being the catalyst for why it happened. At least no one else has to deal with him anymore.

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