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The Binkie Battle

JustcallmeGG2JustcallmeGG2 member
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Hi ladies.  Our twins are 5 months now and just started sleeping in their cribs.  They sleep ok for most of the night, until around 3 or 4 am when they start wimpering or straight out crying until they get a binkie in their mouth.  Then they go back to sleep right away.

Now most moms would say go a few days letting them cry and then they wont want it anymore.

HOWEVER, we can't do that in this case because 1 baby will just wake up the other.   And then we will have babies that are cranky and want to be fed at 4 am.

Anyone have issues like this?  Any advice?  We don't want to keep getting up in the middle of the night just to go plug the binkie back in.




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  • Jen0204Jen0204 member

    Have you tried to let them cry? I was really nervous about doing CIO because I was sure that one would wake up the other one, but somehow they sleep through it.  One baby can be screaming her little head off and the other one stays asleep, it's amazing.  

    We took away pacifiers a couple weeks ago, but just for daytime.  Our girls still use them for sleep and in the car so I have no suggestions.  It's been helpful for us at night for them to still have them - they wake up on occasion, pop in the pacifier themselves and go back to sleep.

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    imageJen0204:

    Have you tried to let them cry? I was really nervous about doing CIO because I was sure that one would wake up the other one, but somehow they sleep through it.  One baby can be screaming her little head off and the other one stays asleep, it's amazing.  

    I agree with this....also if you let them cry they might just get frustrated enough to try and find the soother and do it themselves!! Thats what we did and in my experience it worked! 

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  • angelfire02angelfire02 member
    I'm probably in the minority here, but I keep giving them their nuks back.  I was a thumb sucker for a long time as a kid and had to have a lot of dental work done because of that.  I want them to keep their nuks until they are at least 18 months (don't flame me for that, it's working for us).  I don't want them to start sucking on their thumbs or fingers because they can't find their nuks.  My kids are now 6 1/2 months and most of the time if they want their nuks in the middle of the night they can figure out how to get them back in.  I give them to them during the day, only when they are fussy, but they can usually figure it out when they are awake.  So my advice is if you want them to have their nuks, put them in at night, it's a temporary problem. :)  Otherwise if you are thinking about weaning them from them soon, let them CIO, if you are ok with that.  FWIW, my kids will sleep through each other crying so I have never been worried about that. :)
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  • Jen0204Jen0204 member

    imageangelfire02:
    I'm probably in the minority here, but I keep giving them their nuks back.  I was a thumb sucker for a long time as a kid and had to have a lot of dental work done because of that.  I want them to keep their nuks until they are at least 18 months (don't flame me for that, it's working for us).  I don't want them to start sucking on their thumbs or fingers because they can't find their nuks.  My kids are now 6 1/2 months and most of the time if they want their nuks in the middle of the night they can figure out how to get them back in.  I give them to them during the day, only when they are fussy, but they can usually figure it out when they are awake.  So my advice is if you want them to have their nuks, put them in at night, it's a temporary problem. :)  Otherwise if you are thinking about weaning them from them soon, let them CIO, if you are ok with that.  FWIW, my kids will sleep through each other crying so I have never been worried about that. :)

    I was actually considering giving them their pacifiers back during the day because DD1 has started sucking her thumb on occasion (but it's not often) and asked for advice with my BMB and quite a few women had kids of their own or nieces or nephews who were older who had their pacifiers taken away at an older age (one woman said her niece had hers taken away at 2.5 years old) and they still sucked their thumb after it was taken away.  I'm torn on it because I feel like a pacifier habit would be easier to break but if they're likely to start sucking their thumb anyway after then I might as well not give them back.  DD2 hasn't sucked her thumb at all so I think we're going to stick with the no daytime pacifier rule for now, but I don't blame you for your line of thinking because I'm torn on the same thing.

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  • violaplayerviolaplayer member

    I'm not a fan of letting them cry prior to 6 months old. Or even later if they're just not ready for it yet.

    I would also take the multiple binkie approach. 

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  • SLPMelSLPMel member

    imageangelfire02:
    I'm probably in the minority here, but I keep giving them their nuks back.  I was a thumb sucker for a long time as a kid and had to have a lot of dental work done because of that.  I want them to keep their nuks until they are at least 18 months (don't flame me for that, it's working for us).  I don't want them to start sucking on their thumbs or fingers because they can't find their nuks.  My kids are now 6 1/2 months and most of the time if they want their nuks in the middle of the night they can figure out how to get them back in.  I give them to them during the day, only when they are fussy, but they can usually figure it out when they are awake.  So my advice is if you want them to have their nuks, put them in at night, it's a temporary problem. :)  Otherwise if you are thinking about weaning them from them soon, let them CIO, if you are ok with that.  FWIW, my kids will sleep through each other crying so I have never been worried about that. :)

    Not flaming here, but as a speech pathologist having a nuk until after 18 months can REALLY impact speech and language development.  Just something else to think about if you haven't already.  A nearby county refuses to give any speech and language therapy services to children who continue to have nuks because it's counterproductive.  

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  • leneae10leneae10 member

    We just went cold turkey on the pacifier at night at 6m.  He cried a little (I went in and held and rocked him to sleep) but was over it by the 2nd night.  I think he was still getting 1 feed at night at 6m.  Then we phased out the rocking to sleep and did very gradual sleep training at 8m with Ferber (modified CIO).  CIO sounds harsh but we did 1 minute intervals..  He was 12-14h sleeper per night at 8m old. 

    I'm pretty sure the twins are not going to be so easy.  

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  • JustcallmeGG2JustcallmeGG2 member
    Thank you so much ladies. I don't think they have the coordination yet to find and put in their own binkie, but hopefully that is soon. I'm still not comfortable with CIO, and prob can't do that bc we are staying at my in laws for like 6 months now bc of hurricane sandy. I don't think they will appreciate CIO. LOL



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  • Jen0204Jen0204 member

    imageJustcallmeGG2:
    Thank you so much ladies. I don't think they have the coordination yet to find and put in their own binkie, but hopefully that is soon. I'm still not comfortable with CIO, and prob can't do that bc we are staying at my in laws for like 6 months now bc of hurricane sandy. I don't think they will appreciate CIO. LOL

    If you're not comfortable with it, that's one thing, but I wouldn't let staying with your ILs prevent you from trying it.  If your babies are up a few times a night crying for their pacifiers then in the short term CIO would be annoying, but in the long term it would be better.  CIO took us two nights and the worst part of it (for us) was the initial going down.  The middle of the night crying only lasted a couple of minutes.  If it's something that you're considering I would just speak to them about it and try it over a weekend.  My sister lives with my parents and uses that as her reason for not doing sleep training and now has a 15 month old who won't STTN and fights them for naps and going to bed.  If you're going to be with them until your LOs are about a year old you'll likely want to do some sort of sleep training (there are a few no cry solutions as well) before you leave.

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