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My SIL called me to lay into me....(vent)

AppleMommaAppleMomma member
in September 2012 Moms

A mutual friend had told me my SIL is planning a homebirth for her twins. So far there are no issues at near 23 weeks.

I told mutual friend, that it would be cool if she had them at home as long as she & the babies are safe (she's had 7 homebirths including one breech). I said it in a tone that you can't mistake for anything but delight for SIL, knowing mutual friend may talk to her.

Apparently mutual friend heard me say "She's crazy!" so SIL gets that message from mutual friend and calls me today to say I'm a freaking idiot and that just because I chose two hospital births doesn't make me an expert on childbirth and the risks of homebirths, and that my kids will be stupid because I got an epidural twice. Say what???

I reminded her I did not plan a hospital birth with E, I had pre-e and instead of homebirth was induced. I chose an epidural for both hospital births so I could focus on pushing my baby out, not because I was a wuss! I did have a succesful homebirth with DD and I wanted one with E but it just didn't happen that way.

Anyways, needless to say she blasted me, barely let me get a word in, and hung up on me. What a big baby.

Ugh... needed to vent. I will no longer be discussing any inlaw stuff with mutual friend.

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Re: My SIL called me to lay into me....(vent)

  • cbrookegrowcbrookegrow member
    Wow, sensitive much! I would politely let her know she should ask for your side before insulting your children. That's ridiculous!
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  • HyalineHyaline member
    Yeeeaah, and that mutual friend sounds like a piece of work, too.  What amazed me in your post is that someone could have 7 kids and still be that immature.
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  • LegallyBlonde217LegallyBlonde217 member
    I think attempting a home birth with twins is pretty irresponsible.  Most OB's require that twins be delivered not only in a hospital, but in an operating room in that hospital.  There's a reason for that.  Huh?
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  • AppleMommaAppleMomma member

    imageHyaline:
    Yeeeaah, and that mutual friend sounds like a piece of work, too.  What amazed me in your post is that someone could have 7 kids and still be that immature.

    I know, I was blown away. And the comment on the epidural thing, oh I got mad. 

    And I stand corrected, it's 6 homebirths and an emergency c-section (in 2005) for the fact she was filling up with too much amniotic fluid, in which she had to get an epidural regardless.

    As for mutual friend, she's more a mutual acquaintance now

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  • AppleMommaAppleMomma member

    imagesmurray217:
    I think attempting a home birth with twins is pretty irresponsible.  Most OB's require that twins be delivered not only in a hospital, but in an operating room in that hospital.  There's a reason for that.  Huh?

    Yes I'm in agreement with that. One thing for a healthy mother & baby in a single birth at home, but twins? On top of that for someone who has had a c-section in the past, irresponsible.

    I would not ever want to risk the lives of my children for a homebirth with twins.

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  • mommy510mommy510 member
    imageAppleMomma:

    imagesmurray217:
    I think attempting a home birth with twins is pretty irresponsible.  Most OB's require that twins be delivered not only in a hospital, but in an operating room in that hospital.  There's a reason for that.  Huh?

    Yes I'm in agreement with that. One thing for a healthy mother & baby in a single birth at home, but twins? On top of that for someone who has had a c-section in the past, irresponsible.

    I would not ever want to risk the lives of my children for a homebirth with twins.



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  • L8kissieL8kissie member
    Pregnancy hormones can be a biitch. Your kids will not be permanently damaged by your selfish use of the hospital or the epi. :] Maybe the mutual friend got her all fired up and really stirred the pot. Try calling a truce and being the bigger person. It probably isn't worth a fight. Darn friend.
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  • AppleMommaAppleMomma member
    Yeah, I received phone calls from MIL and way to close to sister BIL, who both asked me to apologize to SIL. I let them leave VMs on that one...

    I haven't talked to mutual friend, and probably won't talk to her about my ILs anymore.
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