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TTC After a Loss
brockerln
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Greetings
brockerln
member
Hi everyone,
Two years ago I had two miscarriages (1 being ectopic) and we think we're ready to start TTC again. It was really hard on me physically (gaining about 30 pounds) and mentally after our previous attempts but I'm feeling more confident about things now. It adversely impacted me so much that I volunteered at a hospice as a way to come to terms with the losses. As of this January,I blew up to 193lbs and now I'm down to 165 and running about 10-15 miles a week.
I was a first year law student when we experienced our losses but now I'm finishing up my first semester of my final year. So from this point on, if we got pregnant, I would be in the clear in terms of finishing law school and completing the bar exam. I also feel a lot less pressure from DH as we hear about many of our friends who are struggling with fertility. He didn't know it was so difficult given our age (now we're 28), so it was particularly stressful after the first one for me to make it work. And my doctors, of course, could not explain why I had my miscarriages except for bad luck and maybe stress.
Anyway, a few years ago when we were TTC, I was staying free of caffeine, alcohol, and eating a very good pre-natal regime. Now, I am just doing my thing and hoping that it inadvertently happens. I haven't been on the pill since Aug 2010 and the only prophylatic measures I'm taking has been to cut down my 4+ cups of coffee a day to about two + two diet cokes each day, keep taking my vitamins, and keep u my work out routine so I can keep my stress levels low. I know caffeine increases your likelihood for miscarriages, but again, when I took measures to really mitigate my chances of miscarriage, it did no good. So I say whatever. I hear people all the time tell me "well we gave up trying and then it happened" or "I got wasted a few days before I found out I was pregnant."
Oh, and this time DH and I are not telling ANYONE we are TTC. I will only tell a few close friends when or if we do get a BFP, but no one else shall know until it's obvious.
Sorry for this long, drawn out message.
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Re: Greetings
Welcome and sorry for your losses (((hugs))). I understand the frustration on doing everything right and having everything go wrong. I added caffeine back into my diet in October (I was not sleeping good and needed it for school) and am now working on weening it back out. There have been enough studies showing that it can effect fertility that I do not need to add that to the other issues that I have.
Good luck on your finals!
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbow Baby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
DX: Uterine Septum - Resection 9/5/13 || MTHFR Hetero A1298C || My Chart
TTC Since 8/2011
BFP #1 5/13/12 * EDD 1/24/13 * MC at 7 wks 4 days on 6/11/12
BFP #2 5/13/13 * Current EDD 1/23/14
Baby N born 2/8/14
m/c: 9/06/12
LTB: 10/23/13
Married my very own GI Joe May 2002
**BFP#1 9/5/12 EDD 5/15/13 changed to 5/25/13 after u/s, missed mc 10/19/12. D and C 10/22/12**
BFP 4 10/28/19 EDD 7/6/20
BFP: 2/4/13 EDD: 10/11/13
Patiently waiting for Buggirl to join me!!
Beta #1 11dpo:89 Progesterone:38.9 Beta #2 18dpo:1940
HB seen at 6w HB 8w 5d 176bpm! Its a BOY!
grow rainbow grow!!!!
All Always Welcome!!
BFP #1 9/1999. DD Born 6/7/2000
BFP #2 10/2011. EDD 7/11/12. MMC discovered 11/2/11. D&C 11/4/11.
DX PCOS 10/2012.
BFP#3 1/11/13. DS Born 9/17/2013
BFP#4 9/30/17. Grow baby grow!
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