TTC After a Loss

Wow, FML

Just got a text from SIL that she is expecting number 2. Her son is about one year now. They want like 5 kids.

So awesome... She is about 12 weeks... I would have been about 12 weeks. Guess we must have got preg about the same time and hers stuck.

I literally could puke. I know I'm being selfish but I don't care right now.

Vent over....
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  • Oh, Jen. That just sucks and is unfair. Sorry Sad

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  • I'm so sorry :( That sucks big time. You have every right to feel the way you do, it isn't fair. Big ((hugs))


  • I don't think you are being selfish at all. I'm sorry it is hard enough having someone close to you be pregnant but it is worse when they are close in timing to you. Big hugs dear!

  • Thanks ladies, DH doesn't understand but I knew y'all would. Hugs back
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  • Oh god that's brutal :( I would be falling apart. You're aloud to be selfish about this, anyone would.
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  • That sucks. Hugs to you. I get a queasy feeling at any announcement, but to have it be about the same due date stings that much worse.
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  • The whole time we were telling his family about the MC stuff they all knew his sister was preg, just makes me feel so strange.
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  • Oh Jen, I'm so sorry. It's not fair at all. ((((hugs))))

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  • I know this must be so hard to hear right now.  It really sucks and it is unfair.  ((HUGS))
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  • I am so sorry.  That completely blows.

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  • The same thing happened to me w DH's best friends wife.  Same exact due date,  yeah, FML.  It sucks.  Sorry, muffin :( big hugs.  Your DH will get it,  mine didn't at first but now he does. 
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  • Lots of *hugs* 

    nothing in this journey is fair.  

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  • I'm sorry. ((Hugs)) I would feel the exact same way.
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  • [[hugs]] I'm so sorry. Life is so flucking unfair.


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  • That sucks.  You're not being selfish - it's natural to be upset/jealous/angry/etc.  I'd feel the same way.  ((hugs))
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  • I'm sorry, and trust me, what you're feeling is normal. Give yourself a break, and big hugs.
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    The whole time we were telling his family about the MC stuff they all knew his sister was preg, just makes me feel so strange.

     

    That just sucks. We have close EDDs and I feel everything that you are saying. You are definitely not selfish.  I am so sorry sweetie.  ((Hugs))

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  • I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this.  

    You're not being selfish at all; that is a ish-ton to have to deal with, and I imagine not having YH get it doesn't help at all.  I hope he comes around soon.

     

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  • I'm in the same boat... my SIL is due a few weeks after I was supposed to be due. I know how it feels. I'm so sorry!

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  • That is so frustrating. I am so sorry! Hugs.
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  • Huge hugs.
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  • Argh!  Sorry, Jen :(
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    IF testing, RPL testing, Autoimmune testing = all normal
    So lost.
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  • I am so sorry. That call never gets easier...big hugs.
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  • I'm sorry. What you are feeling isn't selfish...it's normal. DH's BFF's wife is pregnant and due a month ahead of what I would have been. I told DH that I'm going to need to limit contact with them for the next few months. He doesn't really get it. But I don't like the wife much on a regular basis. 
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  • I'm really sorry.  But please don't feel bad.  I think that what you are feeling is normal  :(

    I'm the same way with a friend who announced she was pregnant the day after I passed my LO.  She was about 3-4 weeks behind me.  That was over 3 months ago now.  I still avoid her.  It pains me to see her.  I'm OK with other pregnant women and other babies .... just not her.  :(

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  • There's nothing wrong with how you feel. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this situation. hugs
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  • I'm so sorry Jen. That really sucks. You're not being selfish. It's really hard being close to someone that is pregnant, let alone being due around the same time you were. I'm sorry. Hugs.
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  • Ladies your amazing as always.  The universe finally stopped throat punching me and I got AF today after 29 days.  She is back with a vengeance but I couldn't be happier to see her today.  After last night, a bad fight with DH this morning, and a horrible day at work I was almost at nervous breakdown point.  Now I'm at CD 1 again and back in the game.  Want to give hugs back to everyone and another thank you.
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