Did you just know?

alleycat39 · November 2012

Did any of you ladies feel like you "just knew" when the baby stopped growing? I had a sudden loss of pretty much all symptoms overnight right around my 6 week mark. Paranoid, I called my doctor who said that if there was no bleeding or cramping there was nothing to worry about. So many women I talked to tried to calm me down and say how I was "just adjusting to the hormones", etc etc. But still in the back of my mind, I knew something wasn't right.

When I went in yesterday for a 9 weeks ultrasound and the baby only measured 6 weeks, (D&C is scheduled for tomorrow). I had that feeling of "I told you so." I didn't want to be right, but I guess I just know my body best.

Anyone else have something similar happen and want to just scream "I told you so" to everyone out there who told you that you were just overreacting or being paranoid? I was doing ok with the initial news yesterday but woke up today just feeling empty.

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ac5008 · November 2012

Were you on the July board? I made a few posts about how my symptoms had disappeared, and got a lot of ?be grateful? and ?youre so lucky? because other people were getting very sick. I know its not their fault, I know they never imagined I was going to have a m.c, but in the same right I want to tell those people BE GRATEFUL AND YOURE SO LUCKY to be sick. To be tired. To have to get an IV line because your baby is growing. I want that. I wish I was throwing up right now, on Zofran, feeling horrible. Id take it to have my baby back.

I knew for awhile something wasnt right. Im so sorry that you have had to go through this. NO ONE should ever have to go through this

alleycat39 · November 2012

Yes, I was also on the July board. I posted something similar to you and also got those same responses which is super frustrating. I think this all just gives me a stronger sense of that we know our bodies and have to be an advocate for ourselves if something feels off.

My thoughts and prayers to all of us that we will never have to experience this again.

ac5008 · November 2012

This has definitely made me feel like I will advocate for myself more, and I wont let anyone tell me that Im overreacting or that I just need to relax. If I ever am lucky enough to get pregnant again I will be as paranoid as I need to, to get through with my sanity.

bellybaby · November 2012

Every one of my MC has been different. The first one I never got pregnancy symptoms, my next loss was at 14 weeks and all my symptoms stopped at 12 weeks (Vomiting constsntly, etc), and my last loss at 9 weeks my symptoms lasted a couple days past my D and C. You know your body best! Sorry for your loss.

Junebug060609 · November 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Every pregnancy is different.

My first I knew immediately when it was over. I had horrible cramps and then never a symptom after that. My second had minimal symptoms in first tri, but thankfully a happy ending. This third one seemed similar to the second, but ended around 7w...I had no clue until an ultrasound at 11w.

TicaAngel00 · November 2012

This is my first pregnancy and I found myself incredibly, overly cautious and determined to wait until we saw the heartbeat. I was on the June board, and literally, we would see at least 1 post a day from someone saying goodbye. So something inside me just felt nervous about being too excited. Our litle one stopped growing at 6w6d and we found at the 8w6d appt Friday. Of course, hindsight is 20/20. But here is what I noticed on or around the week that LO stopped growing: 1) My only symptoms were fatigue and breast soreness/enlargement. I attributed my heartburn to the heartburn I normally had. The fatigue actually started about 2 weeks ago coincidentally. 2) My "glow" left in that week. I have been pale ever since. (And this is while I've been eating tons of veggies and making my breakfast fruit smoothies.) 3) I started getting colder when normally I always felt warm. When women on our board would say they "felt" they were having a girl or a boy, I legitimately couldn't feel anything. Maybe that's because we don't actually "feel" the sex, we just hope for a certain sex. Or maybe it was a premonition. I dunno.

Laurakat81 · November 2012

I can somewhat relate to this with my first miscarriage. As soon as the excitement wore off from getting my BFP I just knew that something was going to go wrong. There was never a particular moment but I knew all along that I was going to miscarry. Despite one good ultrasound, I still couldn't shake the feeling. Then the second ultrasound showed what I'd suspected and while devastated I wasn't surprised. And I did have this sense of "I told you all!". Everyone thought I was just being paranoid and negative. But I knew.

However, with the next 3 losses, I feel like I've been blindsided each time.

Temp246483875007510 · November 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss.

This was my second pregnancy, so at first I just thought I was busy with my son and work and just not noticing that I was missing symptoms. I did have a weird feeling the week leading up to my 8 week appointment but I just kept pushing it aside.

I wasn't running to the bathroom as frequent, my hair was still falling out like crazy when I blew it dry and in general I just didn't have any other symptoms.

My D&C is scheduled for Thursday..

MPLSdesigner · November 2012

Yes. Absolutely.

Actually, when we got our BFP I knew something was 'off'. I cried because I had a feeling the baby was going to have problems or not make it.

Best wishes in your healing process....

djtippietoes · November 2012

I have some issues with anxiety/pessimism, so it's hard to tell if I "knew" or I was just worrying. I think at first, I felt fine and maybe because everything was fine. But then I didn't get any symptoms. I know that some people don't (this was my first pregnancy, so nothing to compare it to), but that worried me. After the first ultrasound, we heard the heartbeat but the baby was measuring very small and after that, I just sort of was convinced that something was wrong.

I wasn't shocked when I went in a week and a half later and there was no heartbeat (also, I was bleeding), but I don't think I knew exactly when it happened inside of me or anything.

Plssmom · November 2012

With my first miscarriage I felt pregnant but I had that bad gut feeling...it was twins then one of the twins "vanished" and then I just had that bad feeling something was wrong...I'm so sorry for your loss..

waterfall11 · November 2012

I had a dream that the baby was born (6 months early but somehow survived). The next morning I woke up and felt like I had an infection so made an appointment with the OB (had one with DD and wanted to get on antibiotics ASAP to get rid of it). DH felt my belly and said it felt different- like I wasn't pregnant anymore. Told DH about if the baby had died I would want surgery and not to prolong it (a lot of my friends have had miscarriages) but still wasn't expecting anything to be wrong with baby. Was in shock when they couldn't find a heartbeat and ultrasound confirmed no heartbeat and baby was measuring a couple days behind (had been a week ahead at 11 week u/s), but I feel like somehow I was a little more prepared to hear the news than if the events of that morning hadn't happened. Results came back negative for infection so I think it was just my body's way of letting me know things weren't ok anymore.

kr_ry · November 2012

I don't know if I knew exactly. I had many pg symptoms at first and at the 1st u/s I measured a week and a half behind where I should have been but there was a heartbeat. Since I have irregular cycles I just though maybe I ovulated a little later. My dr wanted me to come in for a follow up in few weeks to make sure. A few days after my 1st u/s my nausea went away but still had other symptoms and sometimes symptoms just come and go I have heard. I was still nervously optimistic that since I had seen the heartbeat we would be ok. The next u/s showed that I lost my LO 5 days after the 1st u/s.

j2beaty · November 2012

I "just knew" something didn't feel right last Monday when I woke up. I had A LOT of energy (no caffeine needed) and my books were not as tender. Also, I had noticed that I had the butterfly feeling a few weeks before I tested and I didn't feel the butterflies that Monday....by noon I was cramping and spotting. In my gut I knew what was happening....

I'm sorry you are going through this! I had the empty feeling for about 2-3 days and it didn't go away but I was able to accept it. I still catch myself touching my belly...

TKtravels · November 2012

I felt totally blind-sided by my miscarriage. I knew how common they are, but I thought that it was something that happens to other people.

When the doctor told me that I had miscarried, something did click with me though.

I had a pretty rough upbringing, and I'm no stranger to disappoint or being shat on by the universe. And upon hearing that my baby was not growing, I knew it had been too good to be true. I'm still somewhat disappointed and angry with myself for being so naive and getting so excited about something that ultimately just led to some of the most raw pain that I've ever experienced.

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