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Cho78 · November 2012

I am still on the fence - with our first I was adament about not finding out the sex. But also with my first I was 100% sure he was a boy from the start - before any ultrasounds or anything.

This one I have no "feeling" of what it is. Part of me wants to find out when we go for the ultrasound and part of me wants to wait the next 22 weeks to find out when we meet this little bean!

How sure were you that you wanted to know?

BananaBudBear · November 2012

I am in the same boat. I did not want to find out with my second daughter. I wanted that surprise so badly. My husband wanted to know though (I already knew the baby would be a girl). Half way through the ultrasound he said to me "please find out. If you do you can name the baby anything you want and I will love the name". I should note i like names that are different and he likes traditional names so this talked me into finding out the gender. I was right, the baby was a girl.

This time though he agreed he wants this baby to be a surprise until the birth, and as much as I want that surprise at the end too. I am finding it harder this time to not find out the sex. And I don't have a feeling either way.

This baby was a complete surprise too though. We were not supposed to be able to another any more children. So I do not have any baby stuff left at all and will have to start over with buying baby gear and clothes. Which is one reason I find it harder not to find out the gender this time

lhull · November 2012

I am kind of like you. With my first we didnt find out, but I always knew and felt that it was a boy and he was!

This time, I want to wait as well. But I feel like it would be nice to know. I am still Team Green, I think it's an awesome feeling to wait. Plus, I love when people get mad at me for not finding out!!

AlyssaJoy1210 · November 2012

We are Team Green for now, but very much on the fence still. We found out with our first child and didn't feel disappointed or cheated, but we also kind of want to know what the other side feels like! We have until the 20th to make up our mind!

flyliceandcoffee · November 2012

I'm on the fence. I honestly can't make up my mind if I want to know or not. We think this baby is going to be a boy (mostly from family history, s/he will have no girl cousins that are blood-related), but at the same time, because of that, everyone is hoping it's a girl. I decided at the beginning of this pregnancy I was going to leave the decision up to my husband, and initially he wanted to know for sure, but as it's getting closer (we haven't actually scheduled the u/s yet, but will most likely be doing that on friday at our next appt), he's starting to change his mind.

Long story short, I have no idea what we're going to do and it sure makes for some interesting conversations!

prego760 · November 2012

I found out last time as soon as I possibly could, This time we are waiting longer to find out and unfortunately I am finding the bonding so far with this baby is different, and I feel more distant. I know as soon as I know the sex and I will be able to start calling baby by name and preparing for a specific child I will feel more bonded to baby. My husband will find out the sex on the 19th and is planning to surprise me on Christmas Day. Thats just me though, I think people that can hold out with Team Green are so patient.

stacygator · November 2012

As a FTM I want to know pretty badly. I feel like it's a bonding experience for me and my little one. I want to know if my gut instinct (girl) is right and if I should keep saying "she" when I talk about her. Two weeks more for me and then I'll know for sure.

BekW2009 · November 2012

I decided I'm not going to find out!

I have a friend who did it with her first and now with her second, she said she was itching to find out at the anatomy scan and ended up having the tech put the sex of the baby in an envelope. She said having that envelope helps her, almost like she can look at any time but now that she has it she has no desire.

NinaBeana87 · November 2012

I wanted to know because this is my first and I didn't want to register for gender neutral items. I wanted to be able to have the room painted and be able to have a name for the baby before he or she got here. Plus I'm inpatient and it would make me nuts not knowing!

Good luck with whatever way you choose!

mel379 · November 2012

We found out today, but have the envelope sealed til christmas morning so we will know then. There was no doubt in my husbands mind that he wanted to know, but I was on the fence for awhile. The deciding factor for me was just that I think it will make me be able to connect with my little one right now. I love them to pieces right now, but I feel like knowing if they are my son or daughter hanging out there that it will make it even more special.

baby_mama88 · November 2012

I find out thursday! And I feel like it is a boy but Im not sure if it is just that dh really wants it to be a boy or that it actually is. I would be secretly thrilled if it was another girl. And i think the only reason we are not team green is so I will know if we can get rid of all the girls old cloths. If we decide to have more children it will be at least 4 years after this baby is born (Lord help us if its sooner) and by then we will be needing all new stuff in which case I would love to try being on team green.

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