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I know I shouldn't feel this way but....

LedabeLedabe member
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my heart is crushed.  DD LOVES her grandmother (in law) to the point she about chooses her over me.  All the grandchildren love going there and spending time, which is great.  But DD is 15 months.  She spends the night there about twice a week for daycare reasons.  I just don't get it.  Today when she picked her up, DD was pushing me away and got mad when I put her in the car seat and wouldn't give kiss, but instead "swatting" me away and crying...  Anyone else go through this?
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Re: I know I shouldn't feel this way but....

  • tonychelletonychelle member
    Aww! I think it's normal, especially if she watches her a lot. My DD loves my mom when we are around her and cries when we/she leaves. My cousins daughter who is about 2 also cries for my cousin's grandmother who watches her most days of the week and my cousin's mom.
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  • ladylisaltladylisalt member
    Try to look at it as a phase. My DS pretty much wants his dad ALL of the time when he's home. He always loves DH friend. I think he loves men,etc. It also gives me a break. I wouldnt get too worried unless it gets worse and too the point where she totally resists. She clearly has a special place in her heart for mama.Smile
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  • dairygirl19dairygirl19 member

    It's totally normal, so don't be crushed.

    Kids go through favorite phases all the time. 2 weeks from now she'll be all over someone else. My LOs love this week is her teenage babysitter. She doesn't care at all when she sees me come home.

    My LO adores my FIL. She screams and cries when it's time to go. She also loves my MIL. I take it as a sign that she's well cared for and feels safe so she doesn't feel the need to seek me out.

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  • LedabeLedabe member
    Thanks everyone!  She doesn't do it all the time, but when she does it just hurts :(.  
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  • XCrissCrossXXCrissCrossX member

    My LO does it too. Except he does do it all the time. ILs babysit during the day and when we go to pick DS up in the evening, he tells us "don't take me!" and "go bye bye, mommy!"

    Let it roll off your back or you're going to be totally f* when she starts telling you that she hates you because you won't give her or let her do something. 

    Remember, toddlers don't like change- so if she's having fun or especially enjoying grandma-cuddles, she isn't going to want it to end. Maybe ask your MIL to give your DD a heads up 10-15 minutes before you arrive so she can start to transition. 

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  • molisarmolisar member

    DS gets this way sometimes with my sister-in-law, who is his full time nanny.  I get home sometimes and he cries when he sees me.

    While sometimes it hurts my feelings, I remind myself that it's obvious he is in very good hands while I am away and I'm happy he has a connection / feels comfortable with a family member.  I am also happy I do not have to deal with separation anxiety when I leave for work.  He blows me kisses and is happy his Auntie is there.  I hope that helps a bit :)

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  • tmwishfultmwishful member
    My 16 month old doesn't have an attachment to grandma like that, but still doesn't kiss me and sometimes pushes me away.  If it makes you feel any better.  She doesn't kiss daddy either.
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  • blowfish11blowfish11 member

    That's very normal. DD is the same way about me and my aunt, and has been since she was about 14 months old. She clearly favors my aunt over me. But it's because she gets away with murder over there. I'm a lot more strict about bed times, cleaning up toys, chores, etc.

    Try not to take it personally. 

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  • lauralovesboblauralovesbob member

    I'm glad to hear all these other stories. DS loves my mom, who watches him 3 days a week. He LEAPS out of my arms to go to grandma in the morning when I drop him off, and won't say goodbye or give me a kiss. I usually have to find some trick to get him to leave (I let him pretend to drive the car, this is the only thing right now that gets him to put his coat and shoes on without a fit). We talk a lot before we leave about how we are going to go home and see dad and our dog. 

     

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