Discipline

clineak · November 2012

Who's the disciplinarian in your house, you or DH/SO?

jmo866 · November 2012

We are trying to be consistent, but the only thing that is consistent at this point, is that my child thinks I am a joke. I try to raise my voice to be stern when he is doing something dangerous (his big thing is standing on the couch) but he just laughs. With my H, sometimes he cries!

pettycrocker · November 2012

Hey lovers!

pettycrocker · November 2012

I'm in your threads, not answering your questions!

jmo866 · November 2012

Mrs Castillo:
I'm in your threads, not answering your questions!

Huh? lol

lucylea · November 2012

Definitely me. I'm just the naturally more assertive person in our relationship so it translated to parenting as well.

lisamoe · November 2012

DH, definitely. I'm a push-over.

katie4253 · November 2012

What do you mean by discipline?

Kara03 · November 2012

I am for sure!

Mason&Mama · November 2012

We haven't really come to that yet. Luckily, we haven't reached the tantrum stage that I know some of you are going through. I know that it is just a matter of time, and I suppose that we will figure it out from there. I don't see either of us being a very strong disciplinarian with the kids, but hopefully we will work out a consistent plan, whether it be time-outs or another method. So far, we pretty much ignore, distract, or re-direct when he has mini-tantrums. But like I said, we haven't quite reached that stage yet.

iheartmyllama · November 2012

A definitely takes me more seriously than DH, he is such a softy.

clineak · November 2012

katie4253:
What do you mean by discipline?

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clineak · November 2012

clineak:
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MOONGIRL2467 · November 2012

jmo866:
We are trying to be consistent, but the only thing that is consistent at this point, is that my child thinks I am a joke. I try to raise my voice to be stern when he is doing something dangerous his big thing is standing on the couch but he just laughs. With my H, sometimes he cries!

Ha! Same here! I say no or not nice etc and I get the river of giggles. Super cute but not at all appropriate. The other day H started tossing her food and my DH said no and she stopped. Almost teary! Maybe its because I'm with her all day every day?
She's all started preferring me a lot. Mmmhh

katie4253 · November 2012

I know the definition of discipline. But thanks. The point of my post is that until they are around 2 they don't "get" discipline. So, it is kind of pointless. Distraction and redirection are the only things that really work at this age.

To answer the question. We both distract and redirect him as needed.

clineak:
clineak:
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jlsimon56 · November 2012

Arg I had read it was 18 months and I was hoping there was an end in sight. I am taking LO on a plane in a few weeks.

jmo866 · November 2012

katie4253:
I know the definition of discipline. But thanks. The point of my post is that until they are around 2 they don't "get" discipline. So, it is kind of pointless. Distraction and redirection are the only things that really work at this age. To answer the question. We both distract and redirect him as needed.
clineak:
clineak:
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Sorry, can't make it clicky from my phone.

I agree that they don't probably "get" things like time outs etc., but he definitely understands what NO means, and knows when he is not supposed to do something. He understands "sit down" when it's time to put on his shoes, but when he wants to jump on the couch, potentially hurdling himself off to crack his skull or worse, he somehow forgets what "sit down" means. I think at this age, discipline is more about trying to teach and reinforce what is ok and not ok, especially when it comes to safety.

AmandaP678 · November 2012

jmo866:
katie4253:
I know the definition of discipline. But thanks. The point of my post is that until they are around 2 they don't "get" discipline. So, it is kind of pointless. Distraction and redirection are the only things that really work at this age. To answer the question. We both distract and redirect him as needed.
clineak:
clineak:
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Sorry, can't make it clicky from my phone.
I agree that they don't probably "get" things like time outs etc., but he definitely understands what NO means, and knows when he is not supposed to do something. He understands "sit down" when it's time to put on his shoes, but when he wants to jump on the couch, potentially hurdling himself off to crack his skull or worse, he somehow forgets what "sit down" means. I think at this age, discipline is more about trying to teach and reinforce what is ok and not ok, especially when it comes to safety.

I definitely do "time outs" at this age. If he's hitting me after 3 failed re-directions, I sit him down for a minute,/remove him from whatever he is doing.

katie4253 · November 2012

She may calm down. But it is because you are removing her from the situation. Not because she understands what time out is or the purpose of time out.

Hav=Fath:
katie4253:
I know the definition of discipline. But thanks. The point of my post is that until they are around 2 they don't "get" discipline. So, it is kind of pointless. Distraction and redirection are the only things that really work at this age.

To answer the question. We both distract and redirect him as needed.

clineak:
clineak:
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Sorry, can't make it clicky from my phone.
I respectfully disagree. We have just started doing time outs with Hadley, 1 minute but it has made an amazing difference! I'm shocked at how she sits still (she never sits still) and amazing at how she has stopped behaviors that we are using the time outs for (like playing in the dogs food/water). I am sure that some kids won't get it until closer to 2 years old, but some obviously will understand earlier.
 

lucylea · November 2012

As much as I hate to use the word "train" in accordance with children, that is what discipline for us is at this age. We are "training" DS to act in a certain way. He may not throw food, hit, or bite, among others. When he does those things we tell him no, remove him from the situation, and distract him. To me that is discipline.

Ash&Vic · November 2012

lucylea:
As much as I hate to use the word "train" in accordance with children, that is what discipline for us is at this age. We are "training" DS to act in a certain way. He may not throw food, hit, or bite, among others. When he does those things we tell him no, remove him from the situation, and distract him. To me that is discipline.

Yes I think its really important to start teaching them what is and isn't acceptable behavior from early on both for their safety and so that they start learning how to act in public. I've been using "no" with DD for a while and trust me...she gets it. We both try to discipline her but I think I am more consistent than DH.

MOONGIRL2467 · November 2012

Ash&Vic:
lucylea:
As much as I hate to use the word "train" in accordance with children, that is what discipline for us is at this age.  We are "training" DS to act in a certain way.  He may not throw food, hit, or bite, among others.  When he does those things we tell him no, remove him from the situation, and distract him.  To me that is discipline. 

I think its really important to start teaching them what is and isn't acceptable behavior from early on both for their safety and so that they start learning how to act in public. I've been using "no" with DD for a while and trust me...she gets it. We both try to discipline her but I think I am more consistent than DH.

Agree to all above! They definitely understand!

swimiz500 · November 2012

DH is definitely more of a disciplinarian, and I assume he will continue to be as Lena gets older.

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