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On Thanksgiving last year...

I was feeling so good about our chances because I was having my first beautifully normal cycle since our m/c, and we did indeed get lucky! Where were you in your TTCAL/PGAL/PAL journey last Thanksgiving?
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  • Trying to navigate life with a 6 week old! I had so much to be thankful for last year. I do as well this year. Andplusalso, AF decided to make her return today.
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    BFP 1.30.11 - CVS 3.28.11 (Girl) - EDD 10.11.11 - Born 10.6.11
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    BFP 3.18.13 - CVS 5.21.13 (Girl) - EDD 12.2.13 - Born 11.24.13
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    Trying to navigate life with a 6 week old! I had so much to be thankful for last year. I do as well this year. Andplusalso, AF decided to make her return today.

    Is AF a welcome or an unwelcome visitor? :D

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    I was feeling so good about our chances because I was having my first beautifully normal cycle since our m/c, and we did indeed get lucky! Where were you in your TTCAL/PGAL/PAL journey last Thanksgiving?


    I was right about there...

    I've been thinking about last years holidays a lot lately. It was rough for us, a couple if DH's cousins were pregnant and due in April [our edd too]. We found out we were expecting again just after Christmas.

    Happy Thanksgiving ladies!! We have so much to be thankful for :]
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  • This time last year I was getting ready for our second attempt at IVF which resulted in our little man!

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    imageVeilSdeGTO:
    Trying to navigate life with a 6 week old! I had so much to be thankful for last year. I do as well this year. Andplusalso, AF decided to make her return today.

    Is AF a welcome or an unwelcome visitor? :D


    I can't say I missed her, but now we can officially TTC!
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    BFP 7.7.09 - CVS 9.10.09 (Girl) - 9.24.09 Severe Fatal Malformation - D&E 10.7.09 @ 17wks
    BFP 6.1.10 - 6.10.10 Ectopic M/C @ 5wks
    BFP 10.26.10 - 10.29.10 CP
    BFP 1.30.11 - CVS 3.28.11 (Girl) - EDD 10.11.11 - Born 10.6.11
    BFP 12.18.12 - 12.20.12 CP
    BFP 3.18.13 - CVS 5.21.13 (Girl) - EDD 12.2.13 - Born 11.24.13
    BFP 6.10.14 - CVS 7.2.14 (Girl) - EDD 1.12.15 - Born sleeping 8.6.14 @ 17w5d
  • DD was about 4 mos old, and we took her on her first road trip to TX, about 13 hrs away, to visit my folks. We did the same thing this year, but by now, DD's a road trip pro, with 5 or 6 under her belt.

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    BFP: 7/30/13  EDD: 4/9/14 Born right on time on his due date! 8lb10oz, 21.5 in.


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  • I was 3w post loss. It was miserable. Last November is a total blur. We went to a family gathering, a huge mistake. We suffered in silence because no one acknowledged our loss.

    I'm very thankful to be in a different place this year, though I'm sad that this should be Nathaniel's first Thanksgiving.
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  • I was just thinking about this. It's amazing what a difference a year can make.

    Thanksgiving 2010 I was just wrapping up Loss 1. Thanksgiving last year we had an almost 2 month old squish. This year I'm in the midst of Loss 2 and we have a very energetic almost 14 month old running around the house.

    Remembering the difference between 2010 and 2011 gives me hope for next year.

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  • I was roughly 2 months post loss. We were TTCAL, but I wasn't very hopeful. Two months later I got my BFP.


  • We were just back to TTC after taking a break and vacation after losing the twins, our third and fourth babies lost. Turns out we got pg, but found out we would lose that one too just before Christmas. Last year was exceptionally difficult.
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  • I don't even remember what we did. I think maybe we went to MIL's house. I had just miscarried the previous weekend. 
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    DD was about 4 mos old, and we took her on her first road trip to TX, about 13 hrs away, to visit my folks. We did the same thing this year, but by now, DD's a road trip pro, with 5 or 6 under her belt.

    That's awesome!

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    I was just thinking about this. It's amazing what a difference a year can make. Thanksgiving 2010 I was just wrapping up Loss 1. Thanksgiving last year we had an almost 2 month old squish. This year I'm in the midst of Loss 2 and we have a very energetic almost 14 month old running around the house. Remembering the difference between 2010 and 2011 gives me hope for next year.

    It really, really is.

     

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  • This time last year we were sad about my CP that we lost on Halloween. However, we got our BFP on November 30th!
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  • This time last year was AWFUL. We'd just lost the twins on the 6th so I was really just trying to get by. It was all a blur honestly. There was no TTC or anything yet. There was trying to cope and move forward.

    I really didn't think we'd be where we are today back then and I'm just so grateful to be here with my gorgeous little girl and husband today.

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  • Last year was very different. I was about 2 weeks post loss. It was a rough day, I remember finding a quiet place at my cousins house so no one would see me cry. This year we celebrated with our two little ones and it was great.
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  • Last year I was 8w pg with L and scared to death for our second u/s the following Monday. All I could think about was Thanksgiving '10 when I was at the same point with loss #2, 8w pg but looking forward to the first u/s the following Monday (which was when we found out LO was measuring too small). I was so scared the same thing would happen and next Thanksgiving (this year) would come around and we'd stil be baby-less. Oh what a difference a year can make!
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  • On Thanksgiving last year, I had no idea that I would soon find out I was pregnant.  DH and I were at my sister's that day and her sil had her lo there, who was only about 2 months at the time.  She had this adorable Thanksgiving outfit and I remember thinking how I hoped to have a lo in the future to celebrate holidays with.  

    It's amazing how much can change in a year, yesterday dh and I brought our dd in her first Thanksgiving outfit to Thanksgiving with his family.  It was so nice to see everyone excited to see her, although poor thing was overwhelmed at first, DH has a really big family, but she adjusted and loved everyone holding and playing with her.   

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  • Last Thanksgiving, I was still waiting for a normal period to return, after my MMC in September.  My cycles were completely wacky, and for a split second I wondered if I was pregnant again - but beta tests showed that it was just wishful thinking. I tried to spend the holidays grateful for my husband and the support of family for acknowledging our loss (we had shared the news as soon as we knew we were pregnant).  But to be honest, I can't even remember if we decided to travel to see the family or not last year :S

    I didn't get pregnant again until February of this year, and having just given birth, I knew I wouldn't want to travel too far to see everyone, but I did manage an hour (driving for two though) with my parents and two (of three) brothers.  It was amazing to realize just how different two Thanksgiving's could be for us - and of course, in our prayers, we all thanked God for allowing our newest family addition to join us at the table :)

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  • Last Thanksgiving I had a 4 day old LO and we had just come home from the hospital the night before! Funnily enough this Thanksgiving I had much less sleep because my one year old decided to keep us up all night. She slept much better at 4 days old!
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  • Last Thanskgiving I was feeling totally defeated. It had been one year since my last BFP and i had just had an HSG done. We were on month 10 of trying and I was emotionally exhausted. We didnt get pregnant that cycle, but we did get pregnant the next cycle. This year was spent feeling very thankful for our baby boy.
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  • On Thanksgiving last year we were still on the TTA bench from our second m/c in September. I had been off antidepressants for almost 6 months and was starting to relapse. It was tough. This Thanksgiving was much, much better - a house full of family and two happy LOs. What a difference a year makes!
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    Sorry, this got long... Last year we were on month 4 of TTC after the three month wait from our April m/c, praying for some good news before our Christmas Day EDD. I was starting to believe we would never get pg again or carry to term. What a different twelve months makes. This year has been bittersweet, although I have many, many things to be grateful for - above all the miracle that my beautiful LOs are here and healthy. My FIL, who so wanted to cuddle and play with his grandchildren, is in the final months of a two-year fight with aggressive prostate cancer, and it has robbed him of the strength to even get out of bed.

    The house was full of life last night, with our babies and family from both sides at dinner, but I spent dinner upstairs with Daddy so he could enjoy the babies' coos, hold them, and get a rest from the commotion downstairs. I spent dessert holding my MIL as she cried for not being able to come over and see the kids, for frustration with how unfair things are, for the isolation that comes with being a caregiver and an imminent widow. On the one hand, my children are a miracle, and Daddy got his wish of getting to hold and feed his grandson, and tell his girls how pretty and sweet they are. On the other, he'll never chase them around the yard, or likely even see their first birthday. He barely has the strength to hold them up. So while I'm incredibly grateful for my babies, for this time they have with Papa, and that we have one last holiday season to spend together, my heart still hurts and my body is weary from caring for them and worrying for my in-laws and my husband. 

    Big ((hugs)).

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  • I was just thinking about this the other day.   What a difference a year can bring.  This time last year we were three months after our second loss.  We had taken a break because we couldn't deal with the emotions of TTC anymore.   I kept finding out friends who were pregnant and frankly I was pretty down.  Right before Christmas I told DH that I wanted to try one more time.  Well in January we found out that our little man was on his way.  This year I am holding my beautiful baby boy in my lap as I put Christmas decorations up.  It brings tears to my eyes! 
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